Andy Sipowicz: Nails His Inner Game

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

Mel Gibson should check out some reruns of a TV show called ‘NYPD Blue’

For those of you who have not heard of this show (which ran from 1993-2005), the main character was Detective Andy Sipowicz… who, to say the least, was not an AFC in how he did his job.

Problem was, in his personal life and with women, he was a train wreck.  When we first meet Andy, he’s a longtime alcoholic, about to lose his career and estranged from his son.  He sought solace in booze and hookers.

Now, the Sipowicz story is legendary – bald, overweight, middle-aged Everyman twice marries much younger, hotter women, has several encounters with other hotties between the two marriages, and has women chasing him throughout.  I could write a book.  But for this article, I’m only going to deal with his seduction of Sylvia (the “pissy little bitch” I talk about below.)

In the very first scene, we see Andy Sipowicz humiliated on the witness stand when it’s revealed he slashed a mobster’s tires so he could see in the guy’s trunk without a warrant.  When the district attorney prosecuting the case shares her “concern” with Sipowicz because his misbehavior got her case thrown out, his response to her:

(while grabbing his crotch) “Hey, ipsa this you pissy little bitch!”

After a life-changing experience (getting shot by a hit-man during a tryst with his favorite hooker), Sipowicz gets sober by default (Mr. Daniels and  Mr. Beam don’t work at the ICU).

Now seeing clearly, he gets his career back on track, rebuilds his relationship with his son…and eventually asks Sylvia out to dinner.  When she expresses shock and asks why she would want to have dinner with HIM of ALL people, he says “I don’t know, you do or you don’t.”

She decides she does.

Soon, they become an item, and after several delays due to things that “keep coming up” at Andy’s apartment, she spends the night at his place.

What happens next?

Then it’s time to meet her family.  At a birthday party, where the liquor flows as freely as the laughter.  Testing himself, Sipowicz takes a drink.  Then another.  Cut to later that night when he throws Sylvia out in a drunken rage where all his demons (anger, hate, prejudice, self-loathing – sound familiar?) come out.

Over the next several months, Sipowicz gets more serious about self improvement.  He attends AA meetings and works with a sponsor.  Through persistent outreach he starts rebuilding his relationship with his son.  With the support of his partners, as well as a boss who proves more understanding than Sipowicz expected, he works on his negative attitudes and stereotypes and becomes more open and receptive.

Eventually, he creates another chance with Sylvia.  This time, he doesn’t blow it.  They get married, and at age 48 he becomes a father again.  A second chance at the life that, until recently, he never thought he’d have.

Now, why should Mel Gibson take note?

Here’s why Andy Sipowicz went from “hope-to-die drunk” to fulfilled man with a solid girl-getting game, while Mel keeps sliding in the opposite direction.

• Rather than dwelling on the past and beating himself up, Sipowicz accepts his own past behavior without passing judgment.  He applies lessons from it that help him become a better man.  (Over and over women tell him: “I know who you WERE.  And that’s an important part of how you became who you ARE.”)
• Sipowicz kept postponing Sylvia’s first visit to his apartment because he was unsure of his girl-getting game (he couldn’t remember the last time he had sex sober).  Whatever was tripping his inner game, though, turned out it wouldn’t have stopped her from wanting him anyway.
• Getting sober, and his initial experiences with Sylvia showed him he COULD succeed with women who, up until that point, may or may not have given him the time of day.  He subsequently uses this as an anchor to “pull himself back” when his path to betterment takes an unexpected turn (like when he briefly starts drinking again after Andy Jr., also a policeman, is killed in the line of duty).

Note to Mel Gibson: almost everything I described is in Seasons 1 and 2, which are available on DVD. Check them out.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Andy Sipowicz was not “runway model handsome” and he had a “past” that was less than desirable (with some ongoing areas for improvement) but there are enough women who liked him that it didn’t matter.  It was really his “inner game” that had him “tripping on his Johnson.”  Learn how he turned things around, and how YOU can, too.