Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,
Ever heard the term “woman hater”? It’s the first thing that comes to mind when I relate this story about a student of mine:
The problem: he was prone to use terms like bit*h, sl*t, and who*e (without the astericks of course) when talking about (and sometimes TO) women. It’s like showing a sign of hate toward them.
I called him on it, and he explained it as a “love-hate” thing – he disliked women, but he loved them even more. He was trying to figure out where the dislike comes that led them to use these bad words in describing them.
He used to have a girlfriend (for over 3 years) and he would call her a “fat sl*t” all the time. Like a self-fulfilling prophecy, she gained a lot of weight… and also cheated on him. My student “got even” (as he put it) when she called him one morning and another woman (who had stayed the night with him) picked up and told her never to call him again.
So the bottom line: he didn’t want to have this feeling of bit*h, sl*t, and who*e, etc. with women. Instead, he wanted a “better vision” when it came to approaching women.
Here’s What You’re Probably REALLY
So Angry About
If this student’s tale is something YOU can relate to, STOP beating yourself up and LISTEN to what I’m about to say.
First, foremost, uppermost, and important-most: the past isn’t who you are and it isn’t what you deserve.
I’ve always held that once you completely let go of whatever makes you angry at women, you’ll find that deep down inside there is a fear of rejection.
I’m not normally a betting man, but I’ll wager that as you meet good, quality women, you will realize that whatever happened between you and your ex (or any other women you’ve been mean to in the past) really wasn’t a big deal, at least not in the “grand scheme.”
It was a mistake or a misunderstanding between two people and there is no reason to hold it against yourself or anyone else. So you did wrong – accept it, respect it, LEARN FROM IT.
Peace and piece,
P.S. The key is to take any and all confusion, frustration, and stuckness you’ve ever experienced with women, and convert it to pure, immediately usable learning, so you can bounce right back, and automatically do things right with the next woman. Click here to learn how to go about this…