Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
If there’s one thing I’ve learned in the game of attracting women, it’s to keep them on their toes.
Just when she thinks you are sensitive and tuned in to her, become commanding. Just when she thinks you are commanding, become funny and playful. Just when she thinks you are funny and playful, demonstrate your vulnerability and genuineness.
The reality is, women need to be FRACTIONATED. Fractionated simply means to move them back and forth from one set of energies or states to another.
When you can vary yourself around different “vibes” or “energies” like this, it creates a great deal more responsiveness to whatever pattern language you might care to use.
Here’s how one student experimented with this:
I decided to play with one of my dance partners. She’s a 9 with incredible sexual energy.
Last night’s assignment to myself was practicing the four vibes and to some extent, EAIE(energy, awareness intent, extended). My victim-er I mean lucky recipient, was my dance partner.
First vibe – sincere – asked her about how her neck is doing (stiffness from computer work) and second vibe – authority in her world, massaged the back (briefly, like in Irresistible Arousal DVD) of her neck (demonstrating understanding of her pain) Third vibe – commanding – I fractionated by moving away ten feet, she followed me and instead of hugging, wrestled me playfully.
I switched to fourth vibe, playful back to sincere/vulnerable by yielding. She pins my arms back and squeezed her double D’s into my chest. I looked into her eyes and saw that she was testing to see how I would react.
As she moved away I asked playfully if they hurt(her breasts) since she pushed those knockers so firmly. She said a little bit, but it’s okay. I switched to commanding vibe, grabbed her wrist, turned her around, and gave her the same squeeze. No resistance whatsoever, just a smile. I now thank myself for doing the grounding exercises, Or I surely would have had a boner right there.
So I continued playing with switching vibes, and began to notice energy and state shifts in her whenever she wanted to be touched. Whenever I turned the energy up, she’d come closer and say something to provoke me. I’d oblige and give her a caress here, a tickle there, etc. There was a lot of kino that bordered on making out. My female instructor and the other two guys were dumbfounded to see what was going on.
Before any of you start throwing up as this is starting to sound like romance novel, what I learned last night was what some of the things Ross mentioned in the Irresistible Arousal Course.
Women want to feel a man’s inner strength. She wants to be upheld. She wants to feel like a woman. And the man who can do this is attractive, and she will come to you. I was amplifying her energy with mine, and I did without using language (although I did switch my tonality with each vibe). It was mostly intent and rapport.
Now, of course, this was a responsive woman. She already knows and trusts me. I’m not saying this will work all the time, but to see the SS principles in action as I was executing them is quite liberating. I got to verify for myself how real “vibe” is. I also discovered the non-AFC way of showing my emotions without being needy, showing strength without being “alpha.” Well actually, for some reason last night, she wanted the experience and she initiated the contact. I simply responded accordingly. I gave her what she wanted whenever she reached for it.
I know this is a very linear approach, but I really want to understand what I’m doing and why I’m doing them. I know this way is also very time consuming (elicitations, running a pattern, combined with anchoring would undoubtedly get faster results), but I want to have some flexibility. I also want a solid core belief, one that extends far beyond seduction alone, and that takes practice.”
RJ: Nice moves. I appreciate the last paragraph of your email most of all; this IS practice.
Understanding what you are doing and how and why it works leads to much greater results down the line, instead of hitting a home run the first few times at bat.
What I say about women and the 4 vibes or energies is T-R-U-E. It works. Full stop. Others may tell you only be commanding or ONLY be funny, but that, to continue the baseball metaphor, is like only having one kind of pitch.
And don’t be down on yourself for not doing the elicitations, anchoring or patterns. You are learning the pieces of the puzzle before you begin to fit them together. Good on you.
Peace and piece,
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