Dear Seeker of Success,
Going back to your place can be a charged situation for the woman you want to bring home.
First of all, she’s not stupid.
It’s going through her mind in that moment: “If I go home with him, he’ll think I want to sleep with him. Am I ready for that? Do I want to do that? With him? Tonight?”
You know what comes next when she starts thinking along these lines.
So, Yeah, You Could Encounter
Some Resistance.
She could easily use a logistical excuse to avoid going home with you.
Or an excuse that starts with “It’s getting late…”
Or a combination of the two.
Especially if you live a half hour away.
Unless you intend to only get laid within a one-block radius of your house, this is a fact of life.
Therefore, A Sargy Thing To Do Involves
Having Logistics In Your Favor.
It really helps to be close to the location where you’re going to take her, if you can do it.
For example, if it’s the first meeting, you might say, “Why don’t you meet me here? I’ll walk over.”
Then walk over to the place locally.
Or if it’s not that close, take a cab.
Don’t tell her you’re taking a cab.
Replace “I’ll walk over” with “I’ll see you there.”
The two of you meet at that place.
If it seems to be going really well, you make out a little bit, etc., then say, “Would you mind giving me a ride home?”
She gives you a ride home.
BAM!
Now she’s at your house.
(Pretty easy, huh?)
Next say, “I have to get up early, but why don’t you come in for just a half an hour, and then I have to see you out the door?”
(Time objection countered!)
Here’s the thing about all of this…
Getting Her Back To Your Place
Isn’t As Challenging As You May Think
If she’s really into you, it won’t matter.
It’s a measure of where she’s at.
Logistics aside, if you can see that she’s totally into you, dripping wet and all over you, say, “Why don’t we go somewhere a little quieter where we can relax and focus in?”
That’s how you get her to leave with you.
Oftentimes it’s that easy.
I definitely think logistics is important, but it isn’t the crucial factor.
The crucial factor is what’s going on in her imagination, emotions, flow of feeling in her body, and what she feels she’s on for.
That’s what matters.
Let’s hear from you: what have you said and done to get her to go home with you?
Leave a comment below.
Peace,
RJ
P.S. If you’ve ever found yourself “choking” at the moment of truth, backing away from being sexually forward, or easily put off by the slightest “resistance” offered by a woman, let your experience at the September 8th and 9th, 2018 London Seminar tranceform you.
After two drinks at a bar and a little walking through the city, I asked if she has ever tasted strawberry martini ( I was pretty sure she has not), and then i said if she would not like to try one, that I just learnd how to make it. That is all, nothnig difficult
Sometimes it’s that simple…. when you have established the common interest with her.
All you have to do is in the moments she’s looking into your eyes to see if she can trust all the amazing things she’s feeling, you simply clear your mind and stare deep into her eyes reassuringly and make her break it. Then watch her gush and enjoy going home with her.
You hit on something important – there are certain things you MUST clear from your mind, or it could sink your Sarge. We cover that at the London Seminar.
her ex boyfriend was a builder and she knowh something about a trade . i did ask her to give an opinion about my flat . so after 2 minutes ive said : ok thats it ! youve seen it … we can go . when we have been in town she ask to buy a wine and come to my place again 🙂 i said : ” are you SURE ?” .she said : lets do it before i will change my mind 🙂
it was in Poland .in Gdynia .
thank you for being there mr Ross !
I see what you did. You took her to your place, then you only stayed two minutes.
Many women are conditioned that once she goes to his place, there’s an expectation he will make a move / she will make a move / stuff will happen.
And here you are, pattern-interrupting the i$ht out of that paradigm and making her think “WTF?”…
….so that she invites herself back to your place.
Well played, sir!
When the woman with really nice lips drove me home, she had already told me she had someplace else she had to go fairly soon. When we arrived in front of my place, I said, “It’s getting late, but I guess you can come in for a few minutes if you like.”
“Oh, CAN I?” she replied sarcastically.
So she came in and talked to me for a while. When she got up to leave I escorted her to my door, we hugged and kissed briefly on the lips, and she left. Ever since then, she’s been calling me more than I’ve been calling her, and no doubt we’ll be getting back together when she gets back from her trip.
Because in this situation, you only did what the two of you felt coming naturally together.
(See what I did there?)
If the woman is highly into music, she’ll like the idea of stopping by my place to listen to some “unreleased” tracks from a few famous musicians I either know, or I know-someone-who-knows, that I have access to on the condition I only play them at home and do not burn them to a CD, put them on the internet, or otherwise reproduce them. This has worked several times.
I remember, this is what persuaded the “super-squirter” to come back to your place after she’d seemed fairly unresponsive to language patterning at your meet-up. You turned on the music and it turned her on.
Like I mentioned to the earlier commenter, it appealed to a common interest.
When I used to have my own place it really helped me to bring girls. Just suggested we watch a movie together… that’s all.
But now it’s gonna be fun. No place. I can book hotel or her place or even my car…
How To Get Laid When You Still Live With Your Parents
The link above might help.
“If it seems to be going really well, you make out a little bit, etc., then say, “Would you mind giving me a ride home?”
what happens if you live in a building with a bistro in it (booze or coffee) do you still recommend going farther away to get a ride back?
“If she’s really into you, it won’t matter.”
Before I knew of any of this stuff, I met a girl in a bar, got her number and my first date was to come to my place and watch Seinfeld episodes. I didn’t know any better ahaha… After we made out, I was leading her out of my place and she said “Are you gay?” Then it dawned on me what was happening. If I had let her go I would never have seen her again and slept with her. Another women once grabbed my arm and slung it around her shoulder. They want dominance, the reality of it is you must do most of the work. Do to the era we live in there could be repercussions with the wrong female, so there is always that as well.
This reminds me of a former trainer of yours who had a pair of handcuffs back at his place, maybe let them know about the “Shades of grey” props that someone who worked the film gave you that are back at your place.
A lot of what you shared goes into how you properly use the four vibes – something we cover at the upcoming London seminar.
On your second question, find a bistro at least a block away. To be in the same building would be a little TOO obvious, IMHO.