Dear Seeker of Success,
Here’s an actual “pick up sequence” that you can take to the car wash.
Use this on that dripping wet (in more ways than one) hottie and you’ll get more than just your hubcaps polished.
You’ll get more than just your dashboard Armor-All-ed.
You’ll get more than just your bumpers waxed.
You’ll get more than your tailpipe…ok…you get it.
Watch how this worked for a student of mine, using 3 out of the 4 energetic vibes & attitudes that turn women on.
After dropping off his car and paying the cashier, he sat down in front of her, in the waiting area. She was removing one of her shoes to scratch her foot. The shoe was one of those gold-spangled slipper type things.
Looking over his shoulder, he said, “Cute shoe”.
She said, “it’s comfy”.
He said, “Cute and Comfy. Those are the names of my cats”.
(Do you see what he is doing here? He went from making a comment to being funny.)
He said, “Ok. That was probably the 5th dumbest thing I’ve said to meet a cute girl all week. The dumbest was probably, “Where did you get that magazine?” and we were standing in a bookstore.”
She laughed again and said, “It wasn’t that bad!”
Now, notice what he is doing here. He is using an IMPLIED compliment. He didn’t tell her directly that he thought she was cute.
No, he said that what he said to her was one of the dumbest things he’d said to meet a cute girl.
He IMPLIED it, rather than directly stated it. Remember, what you IMPLY has to be processed by the woman’s imagination, and therefore she will perceive it as her own thought, rather than something you are trying to impose on her. Knowing when to imply and when to directly state something is a very powerful skill set indeed!
Him, “No, seriously, my flirt-powers have gone to shit. It must be the holidays!”
Her, “I think you are doing fine!”
Him, “Ah, guys’ll say anything. Our need to procreate doesn’t always get a good message to the brain.”
Now, what is he doing here, guys?
He’s actually disarming her by appearing to stumble over himself. This makes him appear vulnerable, genuine and sincere, rather than a polished pick-up artist! Remember, women want to be intrigued by you, but they also want to feel safe!
Her, “What’s your name?”
Notice she shows her interest by asking his name first! So they exchanged names and handshakes.
At this point, however, she was still sitting behind him and he had to change that. He wanted her sitting beside him to build the connection.
Looking at her kind of cock-eyed he said, “You know, your piri-spinal muscles are laterally asymmetrical”
She looked puzzled. “What does that mean?”
He said, “Stand up and come over here” in a fairly commanding tone. She did exactly that.
“Turn around,” he said.
Then he put his hands on her hips. “One hip is a little higher than another. So when you Salsa (then he started moving her hips around like she was dancing and she got with it and start moving too!) make sure you keep this hip even with this one.”
Then he took her hand and sat her down in the chair next to him.
Now, this stuff about her muscles and hips was nonsense. But because she couldn’t figure out if he was complimenting her or criticizing her, she had to get curious and co-operate further!
“Wow,” he said. “I think my flirt powers just started working.”
At this point, she got very curious about him, started peppering him with questions, etc. etc, so he simply said, “you know, I can tell we will enjoy talking to each other a lot more somewhere, some other time…so if you aren’t seeing anyone right now, maybe we can hang out and talk.”
Note what he did here is to future pace enjoying being around him another time.
At that point she offered her number, without his having to ask, and he gave her his as well.
Note that in this less than 10 minute conversation he built comfort, curiosity, intrigue and some connection. Note that he went back and forth from being self-effacing, to being funny, to being a little puzzling, to being commanding.
When you can learn to alternate and offer these different vibes and aspects of yourself to a woman, it really ups your success!
Note that once he saw she had sufficient curiosity and interest, he did NOT ask her out.
He simply told her what he could imagine (therefore directing HER to imagine it) and she went right along by offering her number to him without his having to ask.
Remember, when you just ask for a number, you put yourself into the category as all the other guys who are trying to get into her pants.
If, instead, you create the curiosity, comfort, intrigue and connection and then describe what you can imagine, she will go right along and offer her number as part of the continuation of the connection she is feeling and wants to continue to enjoy.
Ok. Hope you learned from and enjoyed this example pick-up.
P.S. Be careful when first meeting a woman about touching her. In this case, he sensed her comfort and also created enough intrigue that touching her on her hips was fine. But be careful and I don’t recommend that to the beginner at all! Use your best judgment and always keep a woman’s boundaries and safety concerns in mind at all times!
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