Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Many times here on my blog, I’ve shared stories of how my students have applied my teachings to powerfully handle situations with women who flake, women who “run hot and cold,” women who say they have a “bore-friend,” and women who drop the “F-bomb” as in “Let’s be friends.”

That last one makes my skin crawl, frankly.

Using Speed Seduction®, you can often turn that “friend” into your devoted lover, and many students have done so. However, some women cannot make the transition from thinking of you as a “brother” to screaming “OH BROTHER!” as you take her for a spin on the carnal carousel.

Sometimes, you just gotta cut your losses, as this student learned:

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Hey Ross! After listening to your girl-getting teachings in the Unstoppable Confidence course I finally decided to live up to Affirmation #5.

I called up a female friend of mine whom I had had a crush on for longer than I’d like to admit. I was her nice-guy, girl-friend, “brother I never had” and it was bringing me down. I told her that I believed that, in this point in time, being friends with her wasn’t good for me and I explained why in a polite a way as possible.

She said that she was my friend and understood that it was something I had to do, and we left it that once I feel I can be friends with her without it being a hindrance to my moral and self esteem that I’d get in contact with her again. She actually said that the idea that I’m going to eventually get back with her to resume our friendship is “The only thing keeping her sane right now” and cried a bit (she seemed to take it a lot harder than I did), but I knew this was something that I had to do because I couldn’t honestly look into the future and see things getting any better.

I don’t think it’s really set in yet, but I believe that not being friends at this point in my life will be far more beneficial to myself than continuing along the way things were. I hope this is inspirational to any other brothers out there who feel they need to do something similar.

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First of all, congratulations on claiming your integrity and alignment with who you are and what you give to the world. This is what it’s all about. Good on you!

There’s another reason why you broke off your “friend-ship” with her. You don’t come out and say it, perhaps because you realize it on a subconscious but not “on the table” and “in your face” sort of way.

She told you that the POSSIBILITY that you MIGHT be friends again SOMEDAY is the only thing keeping her sane… and then she burst into tears.

Your gut was telling you that, aside from her having dropped the “F-Bomb” and consigned you to “Justfriendsville,” that there’s something dinged about this chick. This is why you couldn’t look into the future and see things getting better with her.

Here’s what I see in your future: You’ll move on to Seduction success with the open, interested, willing steaming-hot women you truly desire and DESERVE.

Meanwhile, in a separate storybook that you won’t read, she will find some Average Frustrated Chump (AFC) to be her “brother from another mother” and serve as her ironing-board for her emotional angst while she avoids taking necessary steps to claim what SHE deserves.

Look: the women who won’t lob “F-bombs” at you are waiting. Now that you’ve stopped being a target, what are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

It’s an age old problem. Let’s say you’re out with some buddies of yours. While you are a Speed Seduction® master, a “ladies’ man” in complete charge of your world, your pals, as nice and cool as they may be overall, are Average Frustrated Chumps (AFCs).

You approach and are Sarging an interesting and beautiful woman. And before you know it, your AFC friends have put a whole load of obstacles in your way just by being there.

Even worse, your own Sarging energy gets brought down because you’re looking to meet and succeed with some women tonight, and your friends hold you back because their girl-getting game isn’t up to par with yours. They’re your pals and all, and they don’t mean to, but they’re c#$k-blocking you. Frustrating!

I decided that now would be the time to address this when I received the below:

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It happened to me last night. I was out in a great bar with a group of my friends. I look up and there are two fabulously good looking babes talking to one of my friends. They get introduced to us. One thing leads to another and I end up separating the brunette from the rest of the group and sarging her. Of course, one of my friends then comes over and drags me away from her and starts ‘playfully’ dissing me. Sound familiar??

Anyway, the evening continues and I’m having fun just opening sets and doing mini-sarges on other women at the bar. I was “getting somewhere” with this really cute redhead and her friend and I AGAIN got some obstacles from my pals.

But I found that the more women I approached, the less problems I got from my friends. Then it dawned on me. They were getting distracted by failing to impress the Sarges that I had been forced to leave behind after they c#$k-blocked me. Meanwhile, I continued to Sarge on the most stunning women in the bar.

Is it really this easy – just Sarge like a wild man until I “outrun” my buddies and they give up and let me handle my game?

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You’ve probably heard the one about the two guys being chased by the grizzly bear. One guy stops to put on his best running shoes while his buddy says “COME ON! THE BEAR!” And the first guy says to the second, “I’m putting on my running shoes because I don’t have to outrun the bear. I only have to outrun you!“

In the same vein, when I am Sarging while surrounded by AFCs, I have a built-in advantage that drastically increases my chances of getting laid. Why? It’s simple…because it’s so damn easy to shine and thrive in comparison!

Sure, your buddies, like clockwork, will interrupt just when you’re getting response from the hottie. Sometimes they’re trying to compensate their insecurities by trying to dump ice water on your Sarge. Sometimes they mean well, and don’t realize that they’re c#$k-blocking you. Maybe they don’t realize that tonight it’s their turn to play “wingman” and keep your target hottie’s gal-pals entertained while you make your move.

This obstacle is no big deal at all for a playful, resourceful and fun seducer! Rest assured, the smartest, sexiest womenmore attracted to you at the bar will be even when there are AFCs right there for you to stand “head and shoulders above” in the women’s minds.

So let your buddies do you a favor… by letting them do you no favors. You handle yours, and let them handle theirs… and you’ll be handling more women than ever before.

Peace and piece,

RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

There’s one word I REALLY hate. The “F” word.

No, I don’t mean “flirting,” “f@@%ing,” or “Facebook.” I teach smart guys like you how to do the first effectively so you can experience more of the second with women you meet in all walks of life as well as online on places like the third (Facebook).

The “F” word I can’t stand is “friends” – as in, when a guy Sarges on a chick and his game gets shot down when she says “Let’s just be friends.”

Man, it hurts my ears! In fact, learning how to effectively dodge and encounter this “F-bomb” is one of the most timeless challenges faced by my students. Case in point:

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Ross, what can I do to overcome resistance from a girl who says she just wants to be friends?

Things between me and her started out pretty fast, but it’s almost like she’s a bit scared now and is saying she just wants to be my friend. I mentioned that I didn’t want to play or abuse her mind and that I was looking for a truer relationship involving more than either “just sex” or “just hanging out.” I told her that maybe I didn’t want to be just her “friend” that way.

She said, then I would be like just another one of those assholes who never “understood” or “respected” her. So I said, “maybe we should discuss things.” She came over to talk. I tried many patterns on her, including touching and kissing. She said she loves to be with me as I’m fun and I allow her to just “be herself.” But man, it’s tough to get the “follow through” (beyond just being “friends”) when she shows resistance. I, of course, will move on from her, but I’m looking for some strategies for overcoming when the woman says “I just want to be friends.” Any good suggestions? I’m up for them.

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Many times I have taught and said: Never take her first response as written in stone. It’s just a reflection of how and what she is thinking, feeling and believing IN THAT MOMENT and it is always subject to change.

There are all sorts of REAL meanings to: “I just want to be friends.”

The worst case (which doesn’t seem like your situation, if you were touching and kissing her and didn’t get slapped) is that she isn’t attracted, fascinated or aroused by you … and just feels some comfort (you help her “be herself”). If this is the case, though, you are in trouble.

However, sometimes the “F” word means, “I feel deep feelings; if I have sex with you, my vulnerability will REALLY come out and you might be a person who will use that to crush me.” In other words, she has both desire (for you, for sex, for intimate contact) AND she also has fear. Could be she’s had some bad experiences and is looking at you through the lens of those bad experiences.

I encounter the same kind of resistance you are talking about. Yes, I, Ross Jeffries, get the “F” bomb dropped on me! When this happens I hold my ground and make no apologies. This might sound like BS, but staying powerfully congruent will get you far.

You are already powerful, and from what I can tell you have a great heart and are willing to learn whatever you can about a woman to help the two of you experience happiness together.

I hereby proclaim that you are LIGHT YEARS AHEAD of the clueless AFCs and Joe Schmucks out there who refuse to claim their power, results, and success with women.

Remember, the power is in you. And as you work your way past the woman’s resistance, say to yourself inside:

My skills. My results. My satisfaction. My world. Mine.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In the spirit of Thanksgiving (USA), I challenge you to thank yourself by simply “letting go” of what has held you back until now.

Look: in life, we all make mistakes.

When it comes to learning Speed Seduction®, and indeed, the entire subject of success with women, you can count on TWO things:

1. You WILL make mistakes. Mistakes in judgment. Mistakes in execution. Mistakes in what you leave out. Mistakes in what you put in. Expect it.
2. No matter HOW prepared you think you are, women will test you and women WILL surprise you. Just when you THINK you have a girl “all wrapped up” she will pull something out of her hat (or a##). So, like I have said in my original book and have repeated over and over, when you start really liking a girl, just remember: you never know where you stand with a girl until you make that first, serious physical move. Until then, it’s all talk, talk, and sometimes just play-acting. Sad but true.

In any event, I have learned that, too often, guys hold onto their “failures” and dwell on them. It’s like obsessively chewing on the same wad of gum for year after year, as it collects more gunk, bacteria, mouth goo, etc. etc. etc. You wouldn’t do that, would you? But so many guys dwell on their “failures”. Or on how some girl screwed them over (instead of screwing them!) back when they were still “nice guys”.

Look, the problem with dwelling on all this is, what you dwell on, you are actually just rehearsing and retraining your mind to do it again the next time around!

That is the problem with “slumps”. The more you dwell on how awful you are doing, the more you carry those emotions into your efforts and it is like putting a 100 lb lead weight around each leg and then trying to jump out a 30 foot hole!

And again, what you mentally dwell on with strong emotion is what you communicate to your subconscious mind that you want it to do!

Despite all your positive programming, which I believe in and teach, your NEGATIVE programming thru dwelling on mistakes will probably more likely influence how you think, act and respond, BECAUSE IT IS MOST FAMILIAR AND IT IS WHAT YOU BELIEVE IN WITH STRONG EMOTION.

Remember this: the unconscious is most impressed by anything that includes strong emotion, repetition, and strong belief. It does what is most familiar, not what you necessarily most consciously may want.

So avoiding this negative loop requires better attitudes toward learning. It requires the discipline and awareness to notice when you are beating on yourself and to stop it. And it requires acceptance of mistakes.

If you find yourself dwelling on the past or getting mad that you are not making fast enough progress, repeat this out loud.

Forgiving others, and letting them go is good training for forgiving myself. So even if they don’t “deserve” it I will do it for my own sake. I will either get what I want or learn what I need to. Mistakes are just MARKERS; marking out where I can step into new freedom, choice, power and growth.

I may wish I had been born more evolved or perfect, but THIS is my path and I embrace it. I may not always like it, I may slip and grumble, BUT THIS IS MY PATH. I will let my learnings pull me forward. I will never stop learning til I draw my last breath and in that last breath I will learn what THAT is like as I embrace the Source of All Learning … right now, today.

Allow this new attitude and new learning into your future seductions. And even imagine that idea going off into your past, adding its energy into your past as well. Come up to the present with this image inside you. Be thankful for your past; as it has helped you become the person you are today.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Peace and piece,

- RJ

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