Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Making the change from Average Frustrated Chump (AFC) to Speed Seduction® Master and claiming the most enticing, most enjoyable hot women out there is a life-changing move. You change from a guy who has to resort to bullying, begging, and other “B” behaviors…to one who effortlessly and confidently approaches and seduces women.

So let’s say, back in your AFC days, there was a woman you were into, but because you were an AFC back then, you ended up being with Rosie and her sisters instead. But now, this hottie-from-before is back on your radar. You want to show her the “new man” you are now, seduce her and f@@k her brains out, but she is trying to put you back in the “therapist” role.

Here’s an “SOS” I got from a student in the same boat:

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Ross, I got a call today from a hottie who several years ago I totally dropped the ball on. I had a good start back then, but then I got too lusty and too supplicating and lost her to some other guy. Well, guess what? He dumped her 2 weeks ago and guess who she’s calling. ME!

When she called, she started crying about him, trying to (again) make me the veritable emotional tampon/AFC-friend. I totally refused, and said if we get together it has to be in a quiet place where we could have a few laughs.

I kept the call brief to avoid the AFC frame, especially after she instead asked me to come over tomorrow because she’s with her kids (in other words, so she could be near her safety net). I said I’d get back to her this week.

How can I move from “potential AFC supplicant borefriend emotional tampon” to “tasty-fuck-treat?” This is hard to do once you are in the “friend” category.

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Being “stuck” in the friend category – or stuck ANYWHERE for that matter – is a choice that YOU consciously make.

When she dumped this guy, who did she call? YOU. So use that fact for what it’s worth.

You can get her aroused and hot and bothered, but it has to be done in a certain sequence and a certain location. You need to get her away from her “safety net” and into a place where she will be open to exploring new things … and the possibility of exploring with you … in bed.

The key is to use the information she gives you to your advantage. Before you know it, you’ll be enjoying mind-blowing sex with her – and pretty much any other woman of your choosing that you might have “missed out on” in the past as a result of the “way you used to be.”

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. A Speed Seduction® master will remain calmly in control as the effortless seduction architect of every interaction and situation. It doesn’t matter what went down (or who didn’t go down) two years ago, or even two weeks ago.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

You’re a smart guy who’s “got it goin’ on” who knows how to overcome your fear, walk right over to the hottie you see at the next table, and Sarge on her ’till next thing you know, she’s screaming your name while you take her places she’s never been before.

But there’s one problem. The other guys she’s been with have treated her like garbage. You refuse to resort to bullying, begging, buying, bs or booze…but she’s so used to guys who DO, that you end up being the “therapist” she cries to about those other jerks.

You know, the jerks who are f@@king her silly while you fantasize about her during your date with Rosey and her five sisters. Here’s a note I got from a student who’s in that boat:

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I have the hots for this chick who has ONLY ever been attracted to guys who treated her like crap. Occasionally she’ll call me or I her and we’ll hang a bit or talk on the phone. Each time, I extend her comfort zone just a bit more and her affirm, ratify and REACH for more good feelings.

It’s been my experience, if you treat women nice they tend to run away because it is all new to them. And I’m left standing there, knowing I had good intentions. But good intentions ain’t getting my Willy wet.

Can you expand the process here of how you had to be “hard” on her at first (which is what she expects from men) and slowly change her comfort zone to reach for good feelings – that will open up her heart and blow her mind.

Can this be done without me becoming her therapist and “friend” instead of her lover?

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This is territory fraught with pitfalls. First, foremost, UPPERMOST, MOST importantly:

DETACH YOURSELF from the outcome. You might like this woman, but you have to detach; turn down your desire to bang her, make a difference, change her worldview, etc.

Do a little Frame Control on yourself before you try it on her. Repeat this to yourself till it’s clear:

“I am not attached, but nor am I disinterested.”

And then orient yourself to your end goal by asking:

“Do I want a poke in the eye, or do I want to poke her?”

(I think you KNOW what *I* prefer!)

Instead of being the “friend” whose shoulder she cries on about how those jerks treat her wrong, you’ll be the guy who gets her soaking wet with desire…the “best she’s ever had.” They’ll wish they were YOU.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. It sucks that you are competing for this chick against a–holes and d–kwads. But, what these jerks aren’t counting on is you having Ross Jeffries on your team.

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