Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Any sequence of mental thinking that you go through, starts with a flow of energy in the body that kickstarts the thought process.  That’s the Signal Recognition Process.

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Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Talk about a buzz kill.

How many times does it happen – you’re back at her place, snuggled together on the couch.  You’re making out with her.  Things are heating up, in every sense of the word.

Somewhere in the back of your mind you hear the train whistle (“Full Steam A-head!”), the crack of baseball bat hitting ball (“HOME RUN!!!”), or even a scanning of your personal inventory (“Did I remember the condom?”)

But then you hear a screeching noise.  As in, to a grinding halt, usually signalled by an abrupt end to the grinding.

So what just happened to your sexual agenda, your aggression, your desire? Where did it go?  Now SHE’s the one who turns it on and off, because suddenly she’s not comfortable. You, in turn, become uncomfortable and you shut yourself down.

Then what do you do? You wait for an engraved invitation. She has to write in gold letters “Please f@@k me now” and sign it.

Are you a recovering nice guy? 

If what I’ve just described sounds familiar (as it does to millions of smart men the world over) I’m willing to bet that one of your issues is you’re so emotionally in tune to women, when they start feeling something, you feel it for yourself.

Part of untangling this issue of being sexually aggressive is this ability to stay grounded in your body, see where she’s at, but not have to go there for yourself.

I didn’t say: you never go there or you can’t go there if you choose to.  If you’re making love with your woman and she’s feeling an incredible sexual desire, yeah, you want to go where she is. But it’s that matter of choice.

Dominant has nothing to do with having big muscles or pushing people around or any of that. That’s the imitation of dominance. That’s the counterfeit of dominance. That’s the impersonation of dominance.  That’s being a jerk.  Jerks literally cannot feel what their woman is feeling.

True sexual aggression mastery makes you a leader in every phase of your relationship to women.  It lets you see where they are at without having to go there yourself, so you can stay in the emotional lead.

Now, that sure beats a poke in the eye.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Are you now getting, or have you ever gotten, pushback from a female interest that goes something like this:

“Wow, I want to get involved but I think you’re just going to leave me hurt”

or

“You’re something, but I don’t think I could live up to you.”

Is she intimidated by you?  Does she lack self-confidence?  Are we seeing past trauma in her life rearing its ugly head?  Perhaps a little self-doubt in her mind, “I don’t deserve this man”?

Could be any, or all of these.  Or something else.

Let me point out the piece that I think is missing: having HER reach for it, having HER confirm for herself in her OWN thinking and her OWN behavior that:

• She WANTS to reach for more.
• She MUST reach for more or she will lose you.
• If she DOES reach for more, she WILL get a great reward with you (you will NOT reject her if she DOES reach for more, but reward her instead).

There are many Speed Seduction® tools to help accomplish this, but one thing to emphasize above all is the attitude that you do not and WILL not overwhelm her; that at some point, SHE has to qualify herself “in”, and if she does not, you will walk away and not feel anything other than, “Ok, let’s draw someone better”.

[Hint: the tools would be ratification, meta-stating, measuring. Also screening, both actually screening for certain personality traits and giving the appearance of being screened.]

And of course, fractionation.

If you are always, always, ALWAYS moving forward then she literally CAN’T move toward you. Where are you energetically, physically, etc. pulling back a bit and seeing if she moves toward YOU?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

When you no longer need a guarantee before you take a bold step forward and approach a woman, “make your move”, or what have you, some amazing things can totally open up:

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Is there something wrong with having sex with a woman, knowing or believing she just wants and enjoys sex for its own sake?

Some men believe that ultimately he has to “pay for it” one way or another – often in the form of “proving” he’s in it for more than “just sex”.  He tries to believe that it’s ok, that she wants and enjoys sex.  “If I don’t give it to her, someone else will.” 

But it just doesn’t work out that way for him.

Could there be some sort of guilt involved?

First, foremost, uppermost, and important-most: in order to have the belief that there’s something wrong with f@@king a woman for nothing, what has to be missing from your sensory experience?

What is your perception and experience of making love with a woman? Can you sense her pleasure as she is feeling it? Can you feel her arousal as it ebbs and flows in her? Can you feel her pussy twitching when you hold her afterwards, even when you are no longer inside her, it is still twitching and pulsing for you?

To me, this is NOT about beliefs. It’s about your direct experience of the exchange of pleasure, erotic energy and sensuality that is the heart of good sex, as opposed to mechanical pounding away and discharging your sexual energy (and dumping your load).

If you are only humping mechanically or have little or no sensitivity or sensuality then that is the REAL issue.

The only way you could possibly hold the belief that she isn’t enjoying it is if you are shut down to sensing her energy and yours and what is going on with that dance.

As far as guilt: are you sure? How do you KNOW it is guilt? Maybe it is just uncertainty mixed with a vague sense that sex can be a lot more for you as well as for her, whomever “her” might be.

Ok, maybe the belief that women don’t enjoy sex has shut you down to opening your senses and sensuality. So the solution is to open the sensuality and the senses.

Don’t look at it as “guilt complex” Look at it as an information-block and a shutting down of senses to experience that now has to be awakened.

If this is the case, the next time you are with a woman, TAKE YOUR TIME. Do NOT f@@k her no matter what. See how you can enjoy just the kissing, the touching, with no hurry at all. Make your aim to create a nice erotic haze that you can blissfully share for a morning, or evening or afternoon. Do NOT put it in until they say, “I want you inside me” or words to that effect.

This is as much about you discovering your own sensuality and openness to energy than anything else.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

The truth is… there are so many different pick-up artists out there feeding smart guys like you a lot of B.S. that is even less effective for getting you laid than the 5 Bs – bullying, buying, begging, BS, booze, and biceps. OK, that’s 6 Bs. But you get my point.

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Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In one of the discussion forms where I check in from time to time, a participant told me that part of his fear of approaching women comes from worrying what she might think or say.

It’s more than just fear of rejection; he fears the woman will think he’s a creep and thus tell all her super hot friends. Intellectually, he knows this is unfounded because in every other area of life he can handle, no matter what people think of him.

Here is my response:

How do you know it won’t work the OTHER way: that you’ll give her the most amazingly incredible sexual satisfaction and she’ll tell ALL of her hot friends that you are a DEMON with your tongue, your fingers, your prick, your toes, your elbows, that you have ten fingers like a tongue and a tongue like ten fingers, etc. etc.?

Imagine your mind to be like a fertile field of soil. For whatever reason, you plow the soil over and over again in ONE groove, so that, over the years, that ONE groove grows deeper and deeper.

Once in a while, at random, you plow a different groove, but not very often, so that groove either gets covered over again by random drifts of dirt, by the winds, rain, etc. But still, that different groove is there a little bit.

Then, one day, you decide the soil is dry, so you want to irrigate it. You divert some water from a nearby stream and send it all flooding into the field, and lo and behold, MOST OF THE WATER GOES RIGHT INTO THE DEEPEST GROOVE.

Now, these grooves or tracks or habits of the mind are fixed patterns of perceiving/feeling/responding to our world.

Some are minor, like scratching your ass with your left hand when you are nervous. These are pretty easily spotted.

Some are more deeper into the “operating system” of the mind; for example, always assuming the WORST POSSIBLE OUTCOME to the exclusion of even considering a good outcome.

These deeper grooves tend to be invisible. People don’t even see the stuckness and instead try to work within in it; if they see things for the worst, they often don’t even recognize that and instead just try to cope with the projected horrible outcome.

Now, it gets MORE interesting.

There is raw energy bound up here. By this I mean the grooves are not just patterns of thought, but they have energy associated to and with them.  In your case, there is some energetic quality of fear, anxiety. I would guess that it has qualities of making you feel both contracted inward, like a tortoise pulling its head inside its shell and also feelings of being spread thin like you are going to disappear. I’m guessing, but it is an educated guess from helping thousands of guys.

I would guess it also has an overall “antsy” “jumpy” “agitated” “can’t sit still” flavor to it as well.

And finally, probably a sense of “urgency”. Like you have to get this handled, now.

With all of these various energetic flavors, it’s no wonder you are feeling conflicted, tired, like your system is grinding its gears. Sort of like wanting to step forward with one foot while you step back with the other, or putting the car in reverse and drive at the same time.

In short, I think the answer to all of this is NOT more “cognition” or activity in think space. It’s not to be found in your self-talk or what you visualize, not in YOUR case.

In your case, what will change all of this is the energy you are riding on and bringing in. It is THE core of the issue, the rest is just window dressing around it.

But you are trying to address it using the wrong system.

So the question becomes, what can you do to start “unpacking” this great big ball of less than useful energy-to pull out the individual strands and then convert them to USEFUL energy, a very attractive USEFUL vibe that will have these women wanting you NO MATTER WHAT YOU SAY OR DO?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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