Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

In the past 20 years, I can’t tell you how many times a student of mine has told me about a hot chick he KNOWS he could have scored, if only he knew she was single. He’ll tell me has no fear of approaching a woman and knows how to get her hot, and that he would have done it, except he thought she was married or had a boyfriend and didn’t want to “make waves.”

Look: when you claim who you are and what you give to the world, by definition, that makes waves. But sometimes, that’s only in your mind – your worry that by Sarging on a particular hottie, you might cause a problem with someone who actually won’t care one way or the other (in other words, no jealous husband or boyfriend who might want to fight you.)

This just in from a student who will be attending my January 2010 Speed Seduction® 3.0 Seminar in LA:

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Ross, about a week ago I was home visiting my family for Thanksgiving. I went to a party hosted by some friends of the family. The same people host the same party every year over Thanksgiving weekend so it was routine. In fact I knew the Sarging pickings would be slim, so I had about zero expectations. I was there mostly to make an appearance and planned to leave early so I could hit the club and up my odds for the night.

Anyway, one of the women at the party is someone I always thought was hot and I always got along with. Mutual acquaintances tell me that she asks about me all the time. Every time I’ve seen her before she was with her husband, who is a friend of the family. Two minutes before she came up to me, in fact, I had been talking to him. Well, I found out the next day that he is now her EX-husband and that he had been at the party with his new girlfriend. So the woman I always knew as his wife…is now his EX-wife. Best part – she was there without a date, just like I was.

Man, I could have banged her, if only I had KNOWN she was single! Why didn’t someone TELL me?

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A better question would be, “why didn’t you find out?”

Were you paying attention to her body language, signals, and the ‘vibe’ she was putting out toward you when she approached you at the party? Did you ask her how things were going, what she was up to, what she had been doing with her life since the last time you saw her? This “sudden” change in her status would have come up in conversation if she is, indeed, interested in you.

When I Sarge on a woman, whether she is someone I’ve just met or someone I know from before. I ask a lot of questions. I do this not to fill gaps in conversation, but to gather information I can immediately use to arouse her senses and get her hot for me, when I want to take her on a carnal carnival ride.

Perhaps, since this was a “family” party and you’re friends with her husband (well, make that ex-husband), using one of my Boyfriend Destroyer patterns might have seemed inappropriate. But dude … there was no boyfriend or husband to “destroy.”

Next time you see her (or any other “blast from the past”), do your homework with her and use my teachings to get an accurate read on the likely success of your girl-getting game – then claim mastery of the game!

Peace and piece,

- RJ

P.S. With insights and practical applications of the fundamental female functioning principle-the “operating system” and “machine language” of the female body and mind – this student would not have needed to ask anyone what her “status” is. He would have known the “coast was clear” and the “water slide was wet” and gotten some.

In my Speed Seduction® 3.0 System, you will learn how to create irresistible POSITIVE challenge that draws women forward and massively magnifies her her attraction to you, from the first word spoken to her last gasp of pleasure – whether you just met her or you’ve seen her a hundred times.

Claim yours today – and don’t let her get away again!

Come to my Speed Seduction® 3.0 Seminar in Los Angeles on January 22 – 24, 2010 and learn how to have the hottest women soaking themselves in minutes … And Begging To Bang You!

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the ideas I keep returning to is this: “I seldom take a woman’s first response to me as written in stone. It is almost always just a reflection of what she is thinking, feeling or believing in that moment, and almost always subject to change.”

Now, this idea is central to my skills with women, and not just in the initial approach.

It also applies to that dreaded but common female syndrome: Last Minute Resistance (or LMR).

(If you’ve ever been getting it on with a girl, making out like crazy and suddenly she appears to grow fearful, cold or uncertain and stops you with a “This is going too fast” or something along those lines, you’ve experienced LMR.)

I Had Her Buck-Naked, And Dripping Like A Leaky Pipe,
When She Suddenly Brought Up The “Boyfriend”

So this weekend I had a lovely lady in my hotel room and we were both in our birthday suits getting all hot and bothered.

I pulled her to the corner of the bed, slid on my “Willy Wonka Wrapper” and had her legs in the air when she pushed me away and said, “No … My boyfriend. I just can’t do this to him.”

Now, listen: I had no idea this lovely lass even had a “boyfriend” as it had never even come up before this moment. So all of you absolute moralists who want to write me hate mail, feel free-but you are as wet as she was on this one.

What I Did With Her “LMR” That Had Her Hopping
On My Turgid Meat-Pole

Immediately, I stopped what I was doing and lay down on the opposite side of the bed from her, to give her some space and diffuse her discomfort.

“Hey, I understand,” I said. “I don’t want to do anything that we aren’t both comfortable with and I want you to be certain, YOU WANT TO DO THIS.”

(By the way, I meant that. If she was not certain, I was no longer interested. I never force, pressure or push women-it’s disgusting and low-class. I’m a seducer, not a brute.)

Then a thought hit me.

“How about if I put on my shorts? That should take off the pressure” I said.

So I jumped up and dramatically pulled on my boxers, which got a laugh.

“Tell you what, let me get dressed completely.”

And that’s what I did. I got fully dressed then lay down on the bed, while she was laughing hysterically the entire time.

“Wait a sec,” I said. “Let me put on my coat. That should help you feel extra secure.”

So I did exactly that, and buttoned it up too.

By this time she was in hysterics, laughing. She kept saying, “Stop, stop! You can take your clothes off if you want.”

But I wasn’t done.

“Let me put on an EXTRA pair of pants. That will really render my c**k harmless.”

And that’s what I did-I took a pair of pants I had draped on the couch and pulled them over my jeans.

“There,” I continued. “Now you are really safe. But I’ll get under the covers while YOU stay above the covers and don’t think about sex.”

At this point she was crying with laughter and said, “You are sooo funny. God, I’m turned on again.”

Then She Did Something That Shocked Me

In between gasps of laughter she managed to blurt out, “This is really turning me on.”

Then, I kid you not, she spread her legs wide, spit on her fingers, and diddled herself dripping until she moaned out, “F-me”.

And so I did – after all, a gentleman doesn’t refuse a lady’s amorous requests, however crudely worded.

What Are The Lessons You Should Learn

Let me summarize the essence of my adventure:

1. Sometimes a woman’s objections may feel very real to her. I don’t think this girl was faking her temporary distress.
2. If she is uncomfortable at any point, don’t go pressing on. Pressure is for brutes and the clueless. Stop and give her space, physically and emotionally. Seducers NEVER pressure, although we do test boundaries. The difference can be subtle but the difference is sometimes quite clear.
3. A master seducer improvises. I had not ever used the “put your clothes on in exaggerated fashion” move before.
4. By taking her need for safety and exaggerating my response, it allowed her to dis-appate her anxiety through laughing her ass off.
5. Fractionating a girl between starting and stopping and starting and stopping really works. If you don’t do it, she’ll often do it to herself and stop herself. Throw laughter into the mix and you have a potent poonani pulling cocktail.
6. “Boyfriends” often mean next-to-nothing.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. From now on, forget about ever again being confused by a woman’s emotional 180s, her fluctuations between wanting you and pushing you away, her last minute buyers remorse, contradictory signals, sudden loss of interest and other up until now deeply frustrating and seemingly irrational actions.

With what I teach you throughout the 7 DVDs and 11 CDS of my Speed Seduction® 3.0 System, you’ll remain calmly in control as the effortless seduction architect of every interaction and situation.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Many of my students – smart guys like you – have approached a woman, only to find out that not only does she have a boyfriend, but, small world, you know the guy! And he’s either someone you’re cool with, or at least, don’t want a problem with.

Hell, it’s happened to ME. I make my move on a hot babe, then find out that the boyfriend I was just trying to “destroy” is my neighbor, mail man, a guy at my gym with 32-inch biceps, whatever.

So what to do? Here’s a little situation my student got himself into last week…

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Hey Ross! I was at the gym the other night. Suddenly I saw this really hot co-ed on the treadmill right next to me. I did the small talk first and found that she is rather sweet as a person, but she has a “borefriend.” So I ran the Boyfriend Destroyer on her. Then, I decided it was time to leave. I went to set up a meeting with her. At first she paused…then smiled with her eyes looking to the left. Then she said okay. I asked her to meet at 5 the next day, and she said she’ll be at school. Then I said I’d pick her up at 8 then, and she said, “sorry I can’t.” Then she said…”why don’t you give me your number and I’ll call you.” I know enough and responded like you taught me.

Then, I saw her again today. Across the fence. Get this – her boyfriend is my neighbor! He’s a nice enough dude but I don’t wanna mess with him….ya know? Knowing I may have to leave an enticing message on her phone as the next step, not to mention handle this in such a way that my neighbor doesn’t come after me, do you have any suggestions for this sort of situation?

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EV-VERY TIME someone asks me what to do in this situation, I always ask the same question back …

“Is she the ONLY succulent, amazing woman on the whole freaking planet???”

Do you need drama in your life? Do you WANT your neighbor POed at you?

Look: get out of this scarcity/poverty mindset, and find women who ARE available and ready RIGHT NOW, who are ripe for the picking and don’t come with a poison worm already embedded in her apple. Use my teachings on someone whose “borefriend” doesn’t know where you live.

Getting action from the chiseled, goddess-bodied hottie at the gym sure beats a poke in the eye…but don’t do something that might get you … literally … poked in the eye!

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. One more thought. Is it possible that something inside you has you flirting with the “low hanging fruit” – women who have boyfriends and are less likely to explore with you – so you avoid the risk of something life-changing actually happening – like getting the best lay of your life?

With no further need for assurance or guarantee of success before you take bold (and fun) seduction steps, what if you could get off your excuse-making, “I understand but don’t do it” a%%, and get moving right now with the success with women you’ve always wanted?

Claim your copy of my Nail Your Inner Game Program and start turning things around now:

http://www.seduction.com/blog/nailyourinnergame/

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

I think just about every smart guy out there knows what it’s like when his Sarge is derailed – either within the first 30 seconds, or when he’s just 30 seconds from f@@king her brains out – but then she says the “B” word.

You know which “B” word… as in, “I have a Boyfriend.”

In my teachings on how to approach women, I go in-depth on patterns such as the “Boyfriend Destroyer” and “Boyfriend Ignorer.” Sometimes, though, the chick is all but outright begging you to persuade her to dump her “borefriend”, or at least forget him for a while.

Not sure what to do? Here’s a student facing this issue:

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I need help, Ross. I’ve been Sarging this amazing hottie. She’s incredible. Oh man. she has wonderful qualities – successful, happy, unabused, low-maintenance, intelligent. But she’s with this borefriend. Here’s the thing though – according to her, she’s never actually been in love!!

In my Sarging, I’ve been exploring with her some of the values she sees herself to be in a state of ‘love’. She says, ‘vulnerability’! She is one who never wants to be vulnerable in normal life, and will spend hours into the night making herself bulletproof in her presentations and her work. But she expects that she needs to be vulnerable to a man, before she will get to the next level of ‘love’ via being vulnerable to this partner.

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Let me digress for one second. Recently on my blog, I covered the issue of when you’re working too hard and not getting anywhere, how to let 80% of the seduction be powered by the information and responses SHE gives you.

That being said, I think she’s already given you a lot to work from. So let me challenge your thinking.

One of the mistakes in your approach is you are going to try to give her an experience she has never had before … being in love … in order to get her away from her current “borefriend”. You might be working too hard here.

What if you just had to be a bit more tempting…a bit more exciting…a bit more tasty…a bit more aggressive…a bit more whatever, than him?

Think about all you’ve learned thus far and how to use it.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. If you already know what’s on her mind, how her mind works…if she’s already TOLD YOU WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW TO GET HER IN BED…why are you still trying to figure it out?

That’s like pulling an all-nighter for your midterm after the TA you’ve been nailing already gave you the answers.

She’s not in love with this “borefriend” of hers, and she’s handed you the keys to her door. Now it’s time to get her soaking herself until she can’t take it anymore and ditches him for you. Let me show you how, by revealing my Secrets Of Hyper-Response And “Core-Attraction”. Get yours, and start getting some, now:

http://www.seduction.com/blog/hyperresponse