Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

I’ve said before that pretty much every woman, regardless of her position on the HB scale, is probably at some stage of “seeing someone” or at very least, is no more than a couple phone dials away from an on-demand booty call.

That doesn’t make it any less annoying when she says she’s “seeing someone”, as this student relates:

> I’ve been casually dating this smoking 24 year old (I’m 50). I’ve run some connection patterns and done some values elicitation and she has been quite responsive, but she says she’s seeing some other guy.

> The other night I was out and she was at a bar a few blocks away watching her “guy” play in his band and texted me to come to see her at said bar. I texted back, told her thank but no thanks, I’m not interested in that scene.  Ten minutes later she shows up where I am, we talked some, I ran some patterns and we ended up making out in the corner.

> She’s calling me but I’m not interested in being friends (which she is hinting at) haven’t run the boyfriend destroyer or blammo yet. Your thoughts?

RJ here.

Sounds to me like you are waiting for an engraved, gold-lettered invitation to get physical. Mistake.

You are over-valuing her because of her looks and youth. Re-position this in your mind as an opportunity for her to get a real f@@king from a seasoned guy who knows his ass from his elbow in the sack.

Don’t worry or even think very much at all about the other guy.  He doesn’t know Speed Seduction®. You do.

Rather than look for too many more patterns I’d adjust your thoughts and attitudes towards being more sexually forward and owning and claiming your sexual intent with your women who please, satisfy and delight you in every way.

She’s waiting.  For you.  Now what in Nicole’s knickers are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,

RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the ideas I keep returning to is this: “I seldom take a woman’s first response to me as written in stone. It is almost always just a reflection of what she is thinking, feeling or believing in that moment, and almost always subject to change.”

Now, this idea is central to my skills with women, and not just in the initial approach.

It also applies to that dreaded but common female syndrome: Last Minute Resistance (or LMR).

(If you’ve ever been getting it on with a girl, making out like crazy and suddenly she appears to grow fearful, cold or uncertain and stops you with a “This is going too fast” or something along those lines, you’ve experienced LMR.)

I Had Her Buck-Naked, And Dripping Like A Leaky Pipe,
When She Suddenly Brought Up The “Boyfriend”

So let me tell you about this one weekend where I had a lovely lady in my hotel room and we were both in our birthday suits getting all hot and bothered.

I pulled her to the corner of the bed, slid on my “Willy Wonka Wrapper” and had her legs in the air when she pushed me away and said, “No … My boyfriend. I just can’t do this to him.”

Now, listen: I had no idea this lovely lass even had a “boyfriend” as it had never even come up before this moment. So all of you absolute moralists who want to write me hate mail, feel free-but you are as wet as she was on this one.

What I Did With Her “LMR” That Had Her Hopping
On My Turgid Meat-Pole

Immediately, I stopped what I was doing and lay down on the opposite side of the bed from her, to give her some space and diffuse her discomfort.

“Hey, I understand,” I said. “I don’t want to do anything that we aren’t both comfortable with and I want you to be certain, YOU WANT TO DO THIS.”

(By the way, I meant that. If she was not certain, I was no longer interested. I never force, pressure or push women-it’s disgusting and low-class. I’m a seducer, not a brute.)

Then a thought hit me.

“How about if I put on my shorts? That should take off the pressure” I said.

So I jumped up and dramatically pulled on my boxers, which got a laugh.

“Tell you what, let me get dressed completely.”

And that’s what I did. I got fully dressed then lay down on the bed, while she was laughing hysterically the entire time.

“Wait a sec,” I said. “Let me put on my coat. That should help you feel extra secure.”

So I did exactly that, and buttoned it up too.

By this time she was in hysterics, laughing. She kept saying, “Stop, stop! You can take your clothes off if you want.”

But I wasn’t done.

“Let me put on an EXTRA pair of pants. That will really render my c**k harmless.”

And that’s what I did-I took a pair of pants I had draped on the couch and pulled them over my jeans.

“There,” I continued. “Now you are really safe. But I’ll get under the covers while YOU stay above the covers and don’t think about sex.”

At this point she was crying with laughter and said, “You are sooo funny. God, I’m turned on again.”

Then She Did Something That Shocked Me

In between gasps of laughter she managed to blurt out, “This is really turning me on.”

Then, I kid you not, she spread her legs wide, spit on her fingers, and diddled herself dripping until she moaned out, “F-me”.

And so I did – after all, a gentleman doesn’t refuse a lady’s amorous requests, however crudely worded.

What Are The Lessons You Should Learn

Let me summarize the essence of my adventure:

1. Sometimes a woman’s objections may feel very real to her. I don’t think this girl was faking her temporary distress.
2. If she is uncomfortable at any point, don’t go pressing on. Pressure is for brutes and the clueless. Stop and give her space, physically and emotionally. Seducers NEVER pressure, although we do test boundaries. The difference can be subtle but the difference is sometimes quite clear.
3. A master seducer improvises. I had not ever used the “put your clothes on in exaggerated fashion” move before.
4. By taking her need for safety and exaggerating my response, it allowed her to dis-appate her anxiety through laughing her ass off.
5. Fractionating a girl between starting and stopping and starting and stopping really works. If you don’t do it, she’ll often do it to herself and stop herself. Throw laughter into the mix and you have a potent poonani pulling cocktail.
6. “Boyfriends” often mean next-to-nothing.

Peace and piece,

RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

A key signal that you have achieved a level of self-assurance and confidence that lets you fully show the world who you are and what you have to offer is boldly claiming your results with women without first getting absolute certainty that you’ll succeed on EVERY approach.

One source of uncertainty: does she have a boyfriend?

Second source: what if she acts single and receives what I have to give now, then LATER she suddenly sicks her boyfriend on me like a raging pit bull claiming I was bugging her?

One night, recently, a student of mine got a text from a woman he’d hooked up with recently, and at first it seemed like she was letting him know she wanted an encore, that night if he was available.  BUT, after 3 or 4 back and forths, she all of a sudden comes out with this: “I want to talk to you but I can’t.  My ex is riding me about me talking to you.”

He texted back: “I thought he was your EX.  Once you get clear on your status, please let me know.” Then he said to himself, “Exit, stage left!” and went back to what he was doing at the time.

But, a minute later it raised a larger question in my student’s mind…

“What if that had actually been her so-called ‘ex’ writing that, and now he’s gonna come after me?”

Hey: boyfriend destroyer or no boyfriend destroyer, the next woman you Sarge might have a boyfriend, and just because kicking your ass because you approached his woman may seem childish and insecure to YOU, doesn’t mean he won’t kick your ass anyway.

Even if she did nothing but ENCOURAGE you to make a move at the time, regardless of the story she’s telling him now.

The only way to have certainty this will never happen is to take a vow of celibacy and solitude RIGHT NOW.

OR, you could take how another student handled this same situation as a guide:

Wednesday night, I called a woman I had “number closed” on Monday, who I met Monday when I was at a business meeting where she works. I asked for her. She says “speaking”. I introduced myself and said “we met on Monday at your office?” She says “yeah?”. It was 9:30 pm and I tell her I hope its not to late to call.

Her response was a cold, “I am with my boyfriend right now!” (In a tone to indicate, like, I should have known so). I say “Ok then, I’ll call back some other time.” and we hang up.

Within 30 seconds, my phone rings.

ME: Hello?

BF: Hello. Who is this?

ME: This is Rick, who is this?

BF: This is Angie’s boyfriend. I am calling to tell you that I don’t want you to call her anymore.

ME: Is this what Angie wants?

(I don’t know where I got the balls to turn this on them, but I am glad I did. At this point he puts me on hold and asks her if this is what she wants. I hear in the distance her voice saying that she doesn’t want me to call her again. He then comes back on the phone)

BF: Angie says that she doesn’t want you to call her again.

ME: Then why didn’t she just tell me that? Why did she give me her number?

BF: And what the hell are you thinking picking up somebody at work? You put her on the spot asking in front of everyone!

ME: We were ALONE when she gave me her number!

BF: (pause) You were alone?

ME: Of course! There was no one around. (raising my voice to match his) Why didn’t she tell me that she had a boyfriend? She never said that. She could have said No when I asked for the number.

BF: (backing off) Well, she’s shy.

ME: Even so, all she had to say was that she had a boyfriend. What are you thinking? Ask her! Ask her if she ever told me she had a boyfriend! Ask her now!

(Pause. I am guessing that he at this point doesn’t know where this is going. I hear him ask her, “Did you tell him that you have a boyfriend? To my happy surprise, she ADMITTED she didn’t. I think she was just as surprised by my hutzspa as I was.)

BF: Ok. She didn’t tell you.

ME: You see? She didn’t have to give me the number, she could have said, no, she could have told me that she had a boyfriend and she didn’t!

BF: Look, I am just telling you that if you plan to call her again…

ME: (cutting him off) Don’t you worry, I have no intentions of ever calling her again. This is stupid. Look you, I am not the type of guy that goes around starting trouble OK? I meant YOU no disrespect! And what she did here is disrespectful! She should’ve just said that she had a boyfriend, and she didn’t! (At this point, I am in control, but I am obviously pissed off in my tonality)

BF: (apologetically) Well, it’s OK.

ME: No it’s not! What she did is disrespectful to YOU, AND me! This is not acceptable at all.

At this point, he seems to be trying to calm me down, and by the time we get off the phone, I am still in control, and hang up after I say “bye”. In a weird sense, I got some rapport with him, and I really felt that near the end, he was actually on my side.

The study of seduction is more that just memorizing the next pick up line. It is a process that changes who you are inside and out. Three years ago, I would have freaked out, tried to figure out how I was to blame, and apologized like crazy. Today, I made no apologies for my desires as a man, and I called a woman on her bullshit. I know that I have still a ways to go. But by the universe as my witness, I will become a true Master Seducer.

Bottom line: this student has taken a HUGE step toward becoming a true Master Seducer. He had the balls to stand up to her shit and to give them BOTH a lesson.  Chances are, her little game backfired on a BIG way and this boyfriend of hers will see the light and leave that trouble making cock teaser in the dust.

The best part?  My student found out her little act before wasting any time or money.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. You know, Angie’s boyfriend might not be a total meathead after all.  If he came to me and asked how Speed Seduction® might blast him past the stuck points that have had him, up until now, settling for these cock teases and letting them yank his chain instead of getting real results with top quality women who will treat him right, I would suggest he click here right now.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

I’ve dealt with the ethics of boyfriend destroying.  Today, I am going to share an actual Sarge report from a student who successfully used this technique.  Stay with me for a moment as I lay it out for you.

There’s a scintillatingly hot clerk at his local convenience store.  After seeing her and chatting her up a few times, he realized he needed to step up and claim his results.  So, on his third visit, he made his move.  Setting aside a plan to go back and say “when I was here earlier I forgot to pick up a few things” he decided instead to clearly state his intention when he saw her.

She heard what he had to say, then nicely told him she has a boyfriend.

His reponse?  “So what?  I wasn’t expecting you to LEAVE HIM FOR ME.” (Embedded command).

Then she said, “I really care about him, and he wouldn’t like it, and I just don’t do that kind of thing.”

He replied, “I really respect that. I hope someday you change your mind, and have a great day.”

And Then, HIS Day Got Much, Much Better…

At that moment, the most incredible thing happened.

She just melted. She OPENED UP she had been going through a really rough time lately, etc. He looked her in the eye and said “I’m so sorry. I know what it’s like, and things just get worse and worse no matter how hard you try. And I hope things get better for you soon.” He turned to walk away and she caught his arm and said “Wait”, wrote her phone number down and handed it to him.

The Keys To The Kingdom Are Dangling Before You

Just like the most delicious, perfectly shaped, more-than-a-mouthful boobies that have ever made their way to your face while she straddled you.

I tell you, when you get results like this, you are not far from the Kingdom of Sarge. When you hear my words and do them, you shall live in moist, pink abundance, forever and ever, Sarge without end.

The ability to see where the other person is at WITHOUT HAVING TO GO THERE YOURSELF is a key skill in any form of persuasion/seduction/influencing.

When you can combine equanimity with uncertainty – being ok with not knowing what is going to happen AND giving the other person radical permission to have their FIRST response to you, it creates an unbelievably powerful doorway for something unexpected to occur.

Believe what I say and you shall inherit the Kingdom of Poontang.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

One of the patterns I teach is the “Boyfriend Destroyer” which you’d use when you approach a woman and she tells you she has a boyfriend.

This pattern has some naysayers.  Here are a couple of them:

“Doesn’t that make you a small man, having to go after someone else’s woman?”

“Why would you want to spend time on a woman who’s going to lie to you within 3 minutes of meeting you?  Why would you want to be with a woman who cheats?”

“Why would you waste your time on a woman who is taken or says she is?  What about these tens of thousands of women you say I can get?”

Well, today I call bullshit on the naysaying with a few facts about “boyfriend destroying.”

It’s just a sad fact that many women who SAY they have a boyfriend either are lying outright, responding out of auto-pilot, or they are stuck in real-hate-shun-ships by default.

The reality is, most very attractive women ARE probably going to be with someone.  Most women regardless of their place on the HB scale are “seeing someone” – but does that mean it’s “exclusive?”

If you wait until you find girls who are totally officially “single” you may be waiting a long time.

Think about this:

You can use fire to heat your camp at night. Or you can use it to burn down a building.

You can use a knife to stab an innocent person in the heart. Or you can use it to cut someone’s bonds and set them free.

I believe that not caving in to a woman’s first “knee-jerk” response is a good thing.

I’m creating a space for her to have a new choice, to respond with more freedom and act differently.  By doing this, I serve HER.

Listen: if she really, REALLY loves the guy, she will let you know and you aren’t going to get anywhere anyway.  So you “Exit, Stage Left” but she’ll probably think you’re a nice guy.  Maybe nice enough she’ll introduce you to her actually-single friends.  But what you WILL get EVERY time is the practice that sharpens the skills that will get you your next ten successes with women.

Is THAT such a bad thing?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

A week or so ago, I posted this on my blog – a Sarge report from one of my longtime students who had met an HB8, had a few meetings in quick succession that led to an all-night makeout session… only to get a text from her the next morning in which she says they shouldn’t see each other anymore because she has a “borefriend.”

Said student read YOUR comments and thoughts and had a reaction along the lines of “DOH! What the f@@k was I thinking?!?!” and decided he’d give it another shot with her. Here’s what happened:

OK Ross, my gut told me to wait till the weekend to try contacting her, so that’s what I did. Meanwhile, on Thursday coincidentally and out of the blue she sent me a text that said “I’m so sorry, I actually don’t have a boyfriend. I wanted to see how you’d react if I did. I shouldn’t have done that.”

On Friday night I texted back “So which is it?” She followed up with basically a repeat of the above. So I called her Sunday (I deliberately dragged this out to build suspense) and she apologized profusely. I let her go on for a minute and then I said “Really, Debbie (not her real name of course), that totally threw me for a loop….I forgive you though.” We chatted for a bit. The plan is to get together this weekend coming up which is the next time our schedules match up. I’m heading over her place.

I’m not going to jump in head first. My other options still open (no “oneitis” here Ross). I’ll give her a mulligan on this one, but I’ll take this one step at a time. Give my thanks to everyone for their comments, especially the “constructive’ ones” I needed that!

You put into place the principle that a woman’s current reaction is rarely, if ever, her ‘final answer’. You remembered it a little late this time, but at least you remembered.  Next time you’ll remember sooner.

With all this suspense building, so long as you weren’t pining over her and agonizing on “what’s the right time to call” and “how long should I wait” and other dum-dum dating-game nonsense (sounds like that’s not an issue for you though).

Now let me aim the long, sharp needle at the balloon that is your ego.  SHE MIGHT NOT BE SINGLE.  Could be she has a boyfriend after all, but liked things with you so much she said what she needed to say to not lose you.  She might be getting ready to serve this guy his walking papers but wanting to interview other candidates first.  Or, maybe she just wants to f@@k around.

Before you come back all “woe is me” and “how did I let myself get suckered in” and all that rot, ask yourself – are ALL of these possibilities acceptable to YOU?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

In the past 20 years, I can’t tell you how many times a student of mine has told me about a hot chick he KNOWS he could have scored, if only he knew she was single. He’ll tell me has no fear of approaching a woman and knows how to get her hot, and that he would have done it, except he thought she was married or had a boyfriend and didn’t want to “make waves.”

Look: when you claim who you are and what you give to the world, by definition, that makes waves. But sometimes, that’s only in your mind – your worry that by Sarging on a particular hottie, you might cause a problem with someone who actually won’t care one way or the other (in other words, no jealous husband or boyfriend who might want to fight you.)

This just in from a student who will be attending my January 2010 Speed Seduction® 3.0 Seminar in LA:

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Ross, about a week ago I was home visiting my family for Thanksgiving. I went to a party hosted by some friends of the family. The same people host the same party every year over Thanksgiving weekend so it was routine. In fact I knew the Sarging pickings would be slim, so I had about zero expectations. I was there mostly to make an appearance and planned to leave early so I could hit the club and up my odds for the night.

Anyway, one of the women at the party is someone I always thought was hot and I always got along with. Mutual acquaintances tell me that she asks about me all the time. Every time I’ve seen her before she was with her husband, who is a friend of the family. Two minutes before she came up to me, in fact, I had been talking to him. Well, I found out the next day that he is now her EX-husband and that he had been at the party with his new girlfriend. So the woman I always knew as his wife…is now his EX-wife. Best part – she was there without a date, just like I was.

Man, I could have banged her, if only I had KNOWN she was single! Why didn’t someone TELL me?

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A better question would be, “why didn’t you find out?”

Were you paying attention to her body language, signals, and the ‘vibe’ she was putting out toward you when she approached you at the party? Did you ask her how things were going, what she was up to, what she had been doing with her life since the last time you saw her? This “sudden” change in her status would have come up in conversation if she is, indeed, interested in you.

When I Sarge on a woman, whether she is someone I’ve just met or someone I know from before. I ask a lot of questions. I do this not to fill gaps in conversation, but to gather information I can immediately use to arouse her senses and get her hot for me, when I want to take her on a carnal carnival ride.

Perhaps, since this was a “family” party and you’re friends with her husband (well, make that ex-husband), using one of my Boyfriend Destroyer patterns might have seemed inappropriate. But dude … there was no boyfriend or husband to “destroy.”

Next time you see her (or any other “blast from the past”), do your homework with her and use my teachings to get an accurate read on the likely success of your girl-getting game – then claim mastery of the game!

Peace and piece,

- RJ

P.S. With insights and practical applications of the fundamental female functioning principle-the “operating system” and “machine language” of the female body and mind – this student would not have needed to ask anyone what her “status” is. He would have known the “coast was clear” and the “water slide was wet” and gotten some.

In my Speed Seduction® 3.0 System, you will learn how to create irresistible POSITIVE challenge that draws women forward and massively magnifies her her attraction to you, from the first word spoken to her last gasp of pleasure – whether you just met her or you’ve seen her a hundred times.

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