Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Almost every day I get e-mails and phone calls from students who have figured out how to overcome their fear with women. Oftentimes they don’t even know what caused it. Then they figure it out – and master it.

Please keep the emails coming. This is why I teach smart guys like you how to master your girl-getting game. Today, I’m going to let one of them do the talking. Here goes:

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Dear Ross, as a student of yours, I want to tell you how much Speed Seduction® has changed not just what I do, but my entire way of thinking about women.

Here’s the scoop:

Back when I was in college I had a “summer love” girlfriend. It was all romance and making out until I went back to school and she stayed back home. She cried when I went back to school and told me she planned to come visit me soon. For the next few weeks we’re emailing and calling every day, and then suddenly she goes cold on me. I found out, through a mutual friend, that she had dumped me and not bothered to tell me!

Next time I was home I saw her and (politely) confronted her. She told me she was sorry, not for what she did, but that I found out. She even outright said she was more upset that our friend had “ratted her out” to me than she was bothered that the whole thing hurt me in some way.

Back then I was what you call an “average frustrated chump” in ALL areas of my life. Even then, you’d think I’d realize this chick was messed up and needed help and that the best thing to do was drop it and move on. But I couldn’t “snap out” of my desire for / devotion to her. For months. I agonized over what I had done wrong. (Sounds crazy? SHE dumped ME without telling me, and I’m worried what I did wrong?????)

Right after she dumped me I had two women I saw every day who I could have had for the asking. I got along with them great and my flirting with them was reciprocated. One even asked “so when are you going to forget this b***h and make a move on me?” But I killed my chances by droning on about my “ex” until these two (and other) women got sick of me.

I was pathetic, obsessed over a chick who wanted nothing to do with me, 200 miles away, when I was at college with 20,000 women at my immediate disposal.

To an extent that I didn’t realize, this incident was a gusher of ice water that flowed like an eternal cold-shower on my ability to pick up chicks for the next 10 years. Several times I got lucky and met someone, but I made excuses and sabotaged things so I wouldn’t put myself at emotional risk again.

But then, after studying your teaching on conquering fear around women, I figured out I was driven by a need to “make right” the wrong that had been done to me by her. Being willfully cut off from even being able to participate in the “closure” made me to think about it all the time.

I translated that need for….closure? revenge? something else? into desire for her. It drained my emotional capacity. I’d be at parties surrounded by mind-blowing hot chicks and my mind would be skipping like a broken record on the “ex” who never deserved me at all. It was still happening years later, even after I was finally “over her,” but I was programmed that way so bad I didn’t even remember the cause.

After I realized what happened I was able to finally let her go, using what you teach. Now, I’m the kind of man who can be in a room full of people and can fearlessly approach the HOTTEST BABE THERE like it’s everyday routine. I liked your story about the student who snuggled with the married chick on the airplane. Stuff like that happens for me all the time now.

I’m still what you would call “single and looking” but I’m “finding” many more women, having great times with the nice ones and spotting the users and abusers immediately.

Thanks Ross! I think I’m gonna come to your next seminar!

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This is AWESOME – and I congratulate you on stepping up and claiming the success, results, and future that belong to you by getting past your barriers. What happened to you isn’t unique. The way we are programmed can stay with us long after the programmer (in your case, that girl who did you wrong) is out of the picture, and we don’t even remember why we got that way in the first place.

Now that you’ve gotten that chick who did you wrong out of your inner brain, keep showing up, and keep having great times with the women who do you RIGHT.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. One quick clarification. Stuff like hooking up with hot chicks on airplane rides doesn’t “happen to” this student all the time now. Rather, he’s mastered the girl-getting mindset and seduction skills needed to effortlessly and routinely MAKE it happen.

And so can you.

With what I teach you throughout my Speed Seduction® 3.0 System, you’ll remain calmly in control of every interaction and situation with women – even when she stomps on your heart and tries to make it YOUR fault somehow.

Click here to claim yours today!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Recently on my Twitter channel, someone asked me, “I just broke up with my girlfriend. How did you get over your break up so fast? Two years is a long time to date someone.”

Now in case you don’t know, this guy is talking about the fact that I recently ended my nearly two year relationship with the wonderful Swedish sweetheart, Pernilla. And I’m already out there sarging and having fun flexing my super-powers.

However, I have to correct what this guy said. I am NOT “over” it. In fact, I miss Pernilla dearly.

Does that sound strange to you? That a Seduction Guru-no, make that THE Seduction Guru-should miss his now ex-girlfriend?

Well, it shouldn’t. I never said you shouldn’t love a girl. Of course I’ve loved Pernilla. How could I not? She’s smart as hell, fun, sexy, sweet and very, very funny.

In fact, I miss her every day. And here is the key. Once I acknowledge that missing, I make a choice about what I am going to do with it.

So I don’t just say, “I miss Pernilla” although that’s true. I add something to it. What do I add? I add, “and, I claim my ownership and management of that missing to the point where I stay happy, focused, grounded and productive, continuing to draw awesome women into my life who love and please me sexually, emotionally, mentally and physically”.

Let’s parse over that huge mouthful for you a bit:

1. I don’t stop with the feelings. I don’t stuff them or fight them, but they are not the end of it and they aren’t what controls the situation. I start with them. I don’t end with them.
2. I add in my “and”. Not “but”. “AND”. Saying “and” acknowledges as true what comes before it as remaining true, but not the end of the story.
3. I then go on to use a powerful word: “claim”. That means I am making a choice from power, not reacting from pain. You could also use “choose” or even “create”. I like “claim”. As in claiming a prize, or claiming your car from the valet. (Note: I’m not saying that there isn’t pain. I’m saying I’m not reacting from it. Get the distinction?)
4. Then I go on to use two more powerful words: “ownership” and “management”. Now what does it mean to have “ownership” and to have “management”? These words indicate that I am in charge of my missing and that I am directing what I do with it. It opens the mind circuits to expand outwards and make some smart choices.
5. What’s next? “To the point where” This means that the ownership and management is directed to an outcome. It is going to produce something good for me.
6. Finally, a good, fairly specific description of the outcome. Note I don’t just talk about being happy and productive. I state what that is designed to do for me, what the outcome of that direction is: having more great women who please me. Please me how? I state the various ways. Being specific like this gives the mind even better directions on what to do with the thoughts and feelings to produce results in the world.

Now listen: in addition to this, I do my daily meditation practice. That really helps handle whatever raw feelings come up. I can watch them come and go, feel them, but not spin stories around them or buy into them or identify with them. I don’t suppress but I don’t identify either.

And that, my friends and students, is real power and choice. It is true emotional freedom that sets you free to live your world from the emotional truth and from choice into power.

You can learn to transmute your difficult thoughts and emotions into true freedom, power and choice right here.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. Make no mistake: I still have some tough moments. I’ve loved Pernilla dearly, loved the great times we shared, and will always honor her as one of the best friends I have. She’s earned that love from me many times over.

P.P.S. It’s a good feeling to practice what I preach. What I practice and preach is right here.

P.P.P.S. As a person of integrity, I have to acknowledge that I learned this skill set of language mastery that I’m conveying here from the work of Robert Tennyson Stevens. I don’t like some of Bob’s “biblical” fascinations, but his work about consciouslly using language is unsurpassed. I recommend his Conscious Language CD course. You can find it at http://www.masterysystems.com. I absolutely hate it when people take or teach from my work without acknowledging their source, and I’ll be damned if I behave that way. So go check out Bob’s work for yourself, even if it costs me money, it’s the right thing to do.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

My success as a Seduction teacher is YOUR success. I am doing right by you when you take the principles I teach and apply them to their own situation.

If you’ve been out of the game for a while, going back and reviewing my material can jump-start your girl-getting game and have you making women dripping wet in no time.

Here’s a letter I just received from one of my students:

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Dear Ross,

I purchased your home study course a few years back but never really gave it the time it deserved – that is, until recently.

I got dumped by my girlfriend of three years a few months ago. I was really distraught and didn’t know what to do, so I pulled out your home study course and listened to it for a week straight. I began devouring everything I could about your principles, trying them out on all the women I met.

The first few times – nothing.

Then…I was with some friends when a beautiful brunette sat down next to me. After some small talk, I ran several patterns on her. Before you know it, SHE STARTS TALKING ABOUT REALLY INTENSE BODY FEELINGS! So I amplify and make the feelings bigger and brighter. I fractionate for just a second, then transition into a “weasel phrase,” then I go into what I can remember from the BJ pattern and I finally get it! The doggy bowl dinner look!

By this time all my friends are gone and and she just leans over and kisses me! At that moment she stops and says: “Oh my G-D I have boyfriend! I have to go meet him right now”

Turns out the guy is a friend. Yes, I know I should have run the Boyfriend Destroyer, but I didn’t have it memorized. As she left, she said with a wink “thanks for making me have to go change my panties!”

Since then, I’ve been getting better and better at Speed Seduction®. I’m still learning, but I want to thank you for introducing me to a world of endless possibilities. You are a Genius-with a capital G!

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See, this is what it’s all about. When life throws you a curve ball, don’t go sit in the dugout. Go back to school, and get back on your girl-getting game.

Look – the women are waiting. What are you waiting for?

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. When this student hit a rough streak, he went back to school and sharpened his seduction tools. If you have my Home Study Course, you have everything he mentioned – the BJ pattern, weasel phrases, fractionation skills, the Boyfriend Destroyer – and so much more. Dust off the DVDs and get to it!

P.P.S. If you don’t yet have my Home Study Course, the only thing stopping you – is you. I have copies available for you. Get yours now:

http://www.seduction.com/blog/homestudy/