Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In a recent newsletter, I described the experiences of a student, where a hottie he desired shied from his advances for a long time…until finally, she was begging him to f@@k her. He studied my teaching and applied it to his own situation in the way that worked best for him. He’s persistent, he doesn’t give up easily, and he keeps his eye on the prize.

But sometimes, it might feel like success doesn’t come fast enough, or that you have been persistent and you’re still not getting the women you want.

In one of my recent twice-monthly “Ask Me Anything” calls, a student posed this dilemma. Here goes:

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Ross,

It’s like I’ve turned off the whole thing. I have this sense that, “Yes, I know Speed Seduction®, but what the hell?” I’m trying to figure out why I’m feeling burned out about meeting hot women.

I live near a university. The women are all pretty young. There’s nothing wrong with that on a certain level. But I find that after talking to them for a while, I run out of things to say. I don’t seem to be able to engage them on levels that excite them.

Age-wise, I’m between Between George Clooney and Sean Connery. What do I do?

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Great question, indeed. Here is my answer:

The first thing I ask is, what is going to satisfy you? What is the need in you? What are you craving? Burning out or not wanting to be with a certain group of people may just mean there are other needs you need to figure out.

As for engaging them on levels that excite them, that’s damn easy. Just use of the 6 conversational topics I teach step by step in the Speed Seduction® 3.0 Course.

I’ll give you one for free right here: connections.

Women are fascinated by this topic/conversational theme.

You can get her talking about:

• How people connect with their desires and fantasies.
• How we connect with someone we are really attracted to.
• How we connect with deeper places in our minds.
• How we connect to the needs we’ve been suppressing.

Any one of these topics is ripe with opportunities to capture and lead a woman’s imagination and emotions, the core principle of my Speed Seduction® material.

There are 5 other conversational themes and topics, equally loaded with opportunities to get her smoking hot and bothered. Find them here.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. No shit guys: getting a woman talking in the right direction, and knowing how to use those responses is THE key to rocketing the hottest hotties right into your bed. Kiss the “friend zone” good-bye forever; your passport to p*ssy is right here:

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

There are few things as pleasant in this life as waking up next to a smoking hot 19 year old beauty who is as nuts about you as you are about her.

My lovely Swedish girlfriend has returned to me, after being gone for 2 months, and I can tell you it feels wonderful to be with her again.

And, as I write this, just 2 hours after she’s left for the day…

…I Am Exhausted!

Look: I’ve never been that good at having someone sleep in my bed. Having fun and dirty adult indulgence, sure.

But actually sleeping?

No, I prefer to sleep alone. And in the case of “Pernilla”, my young Swedish goddess/girl, it usually takes me a couple of days to acclimate to having her in the sack with me as me actually go to dream-land.

So right now, I’ve spent my second night only getting about 4 hours and my body hurts. I can feel cramping in my legs, my neck muscles are twitching and there is an overall tired sensation throughout my entire body.

Here is the interesting thing: sleep deprivation of any kind used to make me totally psycho.

(Hey, if you are a Ross hater, spare me the hate mail telling me I AM psycho).

It used to be that if I didn’t get at least 7 hours a night, my state would deteriorate rapidly, I’d get moody, emotional, and pretty non-functional.

Whereas today, while I don’t like it or prefer it, I can handle it. I can move with it and through it and because I can be fully aware of all of the tired sensations, without fighting them, it simply is something I can handle instead of freaking out about.

What is the point of all this with regards to your continuing quest for moist-pink success with the lovely ladies you desire?

Just this: in your journey towards success with women, you will have many moments where you have to deal with some difficult emotions.

You’ll experience frustration.

You’ll experience anger.

And I can tell you, for certain, you’ll experience some serious confusion.

But you know what? If you refuse to tell yourself disempowering stories about it-if you refrain from taking the meaning that you are a “loser” or that it isn’t worth it or that women are all “bitches” are whatever, then you have a chance at learning to have much better responses to it all.

What does that mean?

It means that what used to stop you or burden you simply becomes fuel for progress, success and learning. And that even the most difficult emotions and frustrating experiences become fantastic tools for self-education, self-knowing, and learning about who you really are and whom you really can become.

You see, because Speed Seduction® isn’t just about a bunch of routines or behaviors that you go out and do, it requires more from you than all the other programs out there. It requires that you learn deeply about who you are, and transform the person you are as you challenge yourself to grow beyond your own fixed patterns and the horrible brainwashing around sex and women that the world has been feeding you.

So it may require a lot more work on yourself than “Double Your Masturbating” or “Misery Method”.

But throwing off your chains and becoming the best you can be is worth it. As are of course, the women.

Off to take my nap now.

Piece, Peace and Hej Dar(it’s Swedish for “see you later”),

RJ

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

It is the opinion of many men, that women, by and large, are crazy.

I do not share that opinion at all.

For the most part, most women I’ve met and been with have been pretty sane and healthy, and maybe just a bit nutty enough to be interesting (as I myself have been described).

But one of the more common complaints I get from students is something along the lines of, “Why do I only seem to attract the crazy ones?”

For example, the other day, one of my students who is a member of my exclusive clients-only discussion group, for owners of my Home Study Course, posted a story about a young woman who he had been chatting up.

It seems this young lady had been discussing how she wanted to lose her virginity but also seemed to be quite afraid of men.

How did she let my student know about her fear?

Well, she invited him back to her dorm room to get some help filling in some school related paperwork. But as they were headed there she said, “I just want you to know I keep a really large switchblade in my room that I always show to guys. So please don’t be scared of my knife-it’s normal to keep one when you’ve been abused as a child, right?”

I kid you not.

Now, I have nothing but sympathy for any human who has been abused. But it isn’t this guy’s job (or yours) to do what I call “emotional dentistry”-if a woman is already sexually hung up or emotionally shut-down, trying to get past all that and only after that, trying to get her attracted to you is like pulling teeth. Just too much damn work and not your job.

The answer to “why do I keep attracting the crazy ones?” is, “because up until now, you thought that was your job and that the crazy ones were all there were”.

With the tools and methods of Speed Seduction® you can screen for and attract the women who already love sex, love intimacy and love men.

It beats the hell out of knife-wielding co-ed teenaged-virgins…although on second thought that sounds kinda hot.

Piece and peace,

Dear Speed Seduction(R) Students,

Wow.It looks like my post the other day about Tom Leykis really touched a nerve.

Mostly it generated overwhelming support. You guys are mostly very pleased that I’ve made a strong distinction between Speed Seduction(R) and Leykis’ idiotic “girl-hating” Leykis 101.

However I have been getting some colorful hate mail. Mostly illiterate and obscene. And most of it not worth answering.But some of it appears fairly thoughtful, praising Tom's ongoing effort to warn men against the manipulations of gold-diggers, users, etc.

Ok. I get that. I can see the value. But when you step beyond issuing warnings and cross over into advocating being an exploiter and user yourself, then you are really getting into dark(and ultimately self-defeating)territory.

And here is the point you Lekyis Luvin' Loonies missed: Tom's view of women is directly reflected in his view of sex-it's about dumping loads. About building a charge and discharging. About fluid pressure building and releasing. In other words, it's just and only a highly enjoyable and more vivid form of jacking off. Just using another human as opposed to pictures or movies.

Hey, you don’t need a philosophy for that. Just a few Ben Franklins and your nearest strip-club.

And speaking of philosophy, here is a point I want you fans of Tom to try to understand: "What the thinker thinks, the prover proves". If you put on a filter that only looks at women as evil, manipulative, vicious, self-centered exploiters, THEN THAT IS WHAT YOU WILL SEE.

I’m not talking about some idiotic “New Age” doctrine from “The Secret”. I’m talking simple psychology; if you create a strong sort filter, your brain will sort out what doesn’t fit with that filter.And equally importantly, what you set as your vision will be the limits of your experience.

If your vision of sex is simply dumping loads, you will probably dump lots of loads. But you will very likely never experience it as anything better, more exciting, or more satisfying and fulfilling.

Don't get me wrong; occasionally we guys all want to just dump loads. Hey, occasionally we all want to eat junk food. But it isn't exactly something I would like to have as the only choice on the menu.

'Nuff said about this to all you Leykis Loonies. I think it's time you raised your sights in terms of what you expect from women AND in terms of whom you turn to for advice. Might I suggest, as only I can, that you subscribe to my newsletter?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Why don’t you check out my Speed Seduction Home Study Course? It will put you into a world of satisfaction with women that Leykis can’t get with all of his fame and money.