Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In my previous post, we explored how you can get more of the kind of women you really want when you master the skills and apply the techniques that boost your girl-getting game.

A lot of it comes from creating her motivation and desire to respond.  We have so far explored five ways to get that initial locking in of attention and desire to respond – analogs, vibe, format, touch, and when “you don’t care that they don’t care.”

And now, here are seven more approaches or techniques that may work for you.

6) Pattern interrupts: doing or saying the unexpected that is slightly puzzling or ambiguous. As in, “Your pirispinals are laterally asymmetrical” Did you just insult her or compliment her?  She can’t tell so it creates curiosity.  Or an unexpected and reframing response to one of her auto-pilot utterances, such as the “Boyfriend Destroyer.”

7) Demonstrating authority in her world: showing that you deeply understand something or can read her. This creates fascination, a great conductive medium across which you can throw anything and get strong responses!

Humor: make ‘er laugh and loosen her up.

9) Demonstrating dominance: Lots of ways to do this. Personally, I prefer to go in with funny dominance. For instance, a while ago I was out with some students. We got in line at a coffee place. A very cute blond was in front of me in line. I turned to my students and said in a very loud, but playful way, “OK, who’s buying me my ice tea?”

The blond laughed. (Just what I was aiming at). So I turned to her and said, “Ok, YOU are buying me my ice tea!”

It’s not always playful dominance but that is how I prefer to START.

10) Non-sequitur: sudden change of subject serves as a pattern interrupt that can get attention.

11) Fractionating among the different vibes: dominant, demonstrating deep understanding, being funny and playful, revealing what you are really thinking and feeling in the moment(authentic)

12) Looks: Yes, believe it or not, some women will just like your looks! Even if you don’t.  Hooray!

The women are waiting.  What, I ask, in the name of Isabella’s ice cream cones, are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

I need to make the following crystal clear: Speed Seduction® gets you more success with more of the women you truly desire, more of the time…

…without having to get sucked into the mastur-waiting game or resort to the 5 Bs’ (bullying, buying, begging, BS, and booze – as well as #6, biceps).

A student of mine, while explaining how he bedded a woman using specific techniques he picked up by spending an hour in the Secret Training Collection, then added the qualifier “she’s sort of thick and a little chubby in the belly area…but I like that on her.”  As if to defend himself for having invited a thick chick for a ride on his baloney pony.

I only had one issue with this: he felt the need to defend his choice.  (Yet another example of how social programming and the “media” with their false “ideals” are brainwashing smart men right out of their power of choice with women.)  Turns out, he has a thing for big, tall, thick women.  Bonus if she has long, curly black hair.

Let me say it again: more success with more of the women YOU truly desire, more of the time. 

Instead of a life by default, an existence where “getting lucky” is an event rather than part of who you are and what you do, now YOU claim YOUR choice with the women you find most attractive, according to YOUR preferences.  No more settling for whomever gives you the time of day, if you’re “lucky.”

You Can Have The Kind Of Woman You Want, When You Create The Motivation To Respond

How do you initially hook in and grab the attention in a way where more of the kind of women you want become OPEN to “seduction oriented” patterns, suggestions, etc?

This is from an email discussion I had not too long ago with a friend.  First of all, it isn’t so sequentially cut and dried. I always do everything, all the time, while also being aware of what I need to do in sequence.

Here is what I’ve found works to get that initial locking in of attention and desire to respond.  This may work for you as well.

A woman can hook into:

1) Analogs: she may like your tone of voice, tempo of speaking, body language.

2) “Vibe”: for lack of a better term. Some women pick up on “energy” and are attracted, unconsciously, before they are even aware of it consciously. It filters up or percolates up once you start talking to them. You may do this by ritually preparing and “programming” this with what are known as sigils.

3) The format: some women love games and quizzes. Suggestions put through that format work and get responses whereas in other formats: like questions or direct demos of trance, they don’t.

4) Some women hook into touch: You may have to TOUCH them to open them up to more.

5) Sometimes they may hook into you not caring that they are not hooking in! Not exactly a Mystery Method “freeze-out”.  just a sense that you don’t care that they don’t care.

Now, this is just Part 1.  Yes, there’s more.  I know, I’m such a tease some days.  Meet me back here in 24 hours and we’ll explore 7 more.

In the meantime, remember: her looks, her personality, her essence, all of that is HB10 based on how YOU define it.  Go for the kind of woman YOU want, for YOUR reasons.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

It happens to beginners… AND from time to time, even to skilled Speed Seduction® masters.  (VERY rarely, but it can happen to ANYONE, so don’t beat yourself up, just keep reading).

You know the feeling.  You see her.  She’s hot.  Real hot. You’ve seen her in your dreams, and now here she is.  Sitting alone.  Wearing that svelte dress that was sewn just for her scintillatingly salacious body.  She might as well be wearing a sign that says “Come Hither” with your name on it. It’s “go” time.  Time to take that bold step forward.

But then it hits you.

First it’s like a weight in the pit of your stomach.  Then it grows, moving up your solar plexus through your chest and up to the back of your throat. Your notice that your face feels a little warm as well. Your heart beat increases, and your breathing becomes more rapid. Your feet also feel heavy, almost like they’re stuck to the floor.

You know how this story ends, right?  MISSION ABORTED.

Well guess what…

…That’s all about to end!

Here’s the key: view this as an opportunity to learn HOW your body produces anxiety.

The next time this happens, just relax, and rather than trying to fight it or push through it, PAY ATTENTION.

Notice where IN YOUR BODY the feelings of anxiety first arise. Where do they start? Where do they spread to? What is the quality of the feeling… is it cold? Warm? Does it run only on the surface or deep inside?

What happens to the rest of your bodily awareness when this happens?  What are you doing with your breathing?  Just observe.

DO NOT TRY TO CHANGE ANY OF IT!

Just observe it, objectively and carefully. Don’t try to get into action or talk to any girl. Just observe your bodily response WITHOUT JUDGMENT.

That is the first step. Do this and see if you can find your way over to her now.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

According to my customer service manager, one of the biggest things that students ask is where can they get even more word-for-word patterns.

You’ll find them in many of my courses – for example, I cover “Twin Brothers” at great length on the Irresistible Arousal DVD that’s included with the Power Pack.

But for today, instead of “more” patterns, let me state that most guys would be better served by learning to use the patterns they already know more powerfully.

I would also add: the best “pattern” is to evoke a woman’s own responses and processes and use them.

In this respect, the most capable Speed Seducer might be MISTAKENLY viewed as “passive”, in that, rather than seeking to create something that is not there, he instead seeks to evoke what IS there, stimulate it to life, seize hold of it and direct it to his intent.

In other words, we stay VERY strong in our intent, yet we use what is given to us by the other person, once we have them sufficiently stimulated to be responding in useful ways…from the deeper structures and processes in her body/mind.

We tune in…listen…use our intuition..use our ability to stimulate the useful processes and responses in her to life. We may seem to the untrained to be “sensitive” but in fact, we are providing a STRONG lead the entire time.

To balance this strong intent…STRONGLY LEADING…yet being open to her responses. THAT is the balance.

This balance can take months to get good at, and years to master, but once you get it, it becomes very hard NOT to attract.

Now, what are the things that get in the way of this? How can we, like sculptors, remove what doesn’t belong in us so we can get to the essence of the skills?

Removing What Is In The Way

First, we must remove our old ways of seeing women. We can see like any other guy, the things that all guys appreciate: boobs, butts, legs, lips, vulva. All good, all fine, all right…IN THE RIGHT PLACE AND TIME.

We must also learn, however, to see differently and to listen in a different way.

Talk to a woman. Stimulate her mind and imagination in a certain way, and within 2 minutes she is telling you how she can feel her uterus contracting when she is attracted to someone and you get the sound she makes to herself when she feels it..not because she says, “Oh, and I make THIS sound… ummmmmmmmmmmm… when I feel that.”

No, I’m just listening, and as she describes the process, she makes the sound at the end of it. Ummmmmmmmmm.

Now, I am listening for what I can use and NOT what stimulates ME!

Ummmmmmmmmmm is HER verbal anchor for that state.

So, for a while anyway, we must learn to put aside our own stimulation or turn it down. That is the first thing many guys most remove.

Second, we must learn to remove old beliefs about what we have to do to attract women and instead learn to look at HER processes and responses. Like the good Lord, SHE will provide what we need…IF we know how to look and listen for it and how to stimulate it into life..and HOW to use it once we have it.

Listen AND Lead

A student of mine told me he was speaking with a woman on the phone with someone with whom he’d had some brief conversations but they’d been playing phone tag.

He took the lead and said, “Why don’t we make a firm plan to meet for an hour so we can explore what is obviously intriguing us both?”

He suggested time. She said, “okayyyyyyyyy” but he noticed it was not a firm, enthusiastic “ok”. He NOTICED. He used his skill to listen. Then he moved to a STRONG lead.

He said, “you know, I want to make sure this is something we both enthusiastically want and “okayyyyyyy” is not the same as “ok…YES!”. THAT’S what I need to hear if we are going to do this. So why don’t we try later in the evening? 8PM I will meet you at _____________

She tried suggesting another place. He said, “Is it quiet? I want a quiet place to talk, so let’s meet at _____________ as I said before”.

She said, ENTHUSIASTICALLY and with FULL agreement, “OK! I’m looking forward to it!”

Now, this is a SIMPLE example… Not dripping with juice or phone sex, but simple and important. He NOTICED her response, brought it out to the surface, and redirected things WITH A STRONG LEAD.

You see, macho doesn’t work because MACHO DOESN’T NOTICE OR LISTEN. So it only works on women who are dumb or weak or destroyed enough to not want to be heard.

Just listening doesn’t work, because WOMEN WANT A STRONG LEAD. You must listen to her responses then STRONGLY LEAD her using them and what you’ve learned from them.

Do both.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Using something known as an “implied compliment” is a fabulous way to capture a woman’s attention and make her receptive to your approach.  For many reasons, in fact, it’s better than paying her any sort of direct compliment.

There are several reasons why.  Let’s go through them:

1) When you IMPLY something, a woman has to use her active imagination to make sense of what you are saying.

As I have taught for years:

WHATEVER YOU CAN GET A WOMAN TO ACTIVELY IMAGINE WILL BE PERCEIVED BY HER AS BEING HER OWN THOUGHT. THEREFORE IT WILL NOT BE RESISTED AS SHE IS THE ONE WHO THOUGHT IT!

Implying something is a sub-category of being vague and using ambiguity. In order to make sense of what you are saying, the listener HAS to employ their active imagination.

When you say something with clear, direct meaning, the listener may or may not respond positively.

2) Very attractive women are used to direct compliments, so they can (but not necessarily WILL) more easily shrug them off.

3) Implied compliments come across as being witty and funny. Women often laugh at them.

4) One of the other principles I teach is to get attention in a positive way by doing or saying something different.Since women are not used to implied compliments, and since they are always positively received, it works out nicely to have you stand out from the crowd.

Ok, now that I’ve intrigued you with the theory, let’s get to the practice.

Let’s say you’re at Whole Foods waiting to pay for something at the counter.

Next to you at the counter you see a lovely, lovely blonde woman wearing those ubiquitous UGG brand boots.

You look at her and said, “Nice footgear. Those look comfortable”.

She responds, “They are very comfortable”

You say, “I guess when you have beauty to burn you can afford to dress for comfort”.

She melts at that.

Maybe she’s married, maybe she’s in a real-hate-shun-ship, whatever.  Test this combination with several women and watch how often you get a positive response.

Now, do you guys see how the compliment is implied.

1. Directly state/establish she is wearing shoes for comfort by stating it AND having her agree. Remember in the example she said, “They ARE comfortable”. So you have her agreement; she takes the first part of what you say as being true and acceptable and non-threatening.

2. Link that with an ambiguous use of the term “you”, not once, but twice.

(You used it when you talked about dressing for comfort AND having beauty to burn)

Just who does “you” refer to? “You” meaning people at large?  “You” meaning her, personally? It’s not clear, so to make sense of it she has to use her active imagination.

When you stack ambiguities like this, closely together in time, their power MULTIPLIES as opposed to merely adding.

3. Finally, not only did you not DIRECTLY say you thought she was beautiful, you were also vague about WHAT aspects of her are beautiful.

You didn’t say, “Beautiful hair or beautiful teeth or beautiful eyes”.

She might not agree if you were that specific.

You just said, “beauty to burn”. What kind of beauty? According to what standards?? As judged by whom?

Ok, I want to open this up for discussion. Using this structure, how else might you come up with some original implied compliments?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

As I once told a friend of mine who asked me how I could take being “rejected” by women, “I never get rejected. I just discover if a woman has good taste!”

Now, I admit, that’s a pretty extreme reframe. But notice the fun state of mind it created for me.

My actual attitude in any situation involving women is: “I will either get what I want (or better than I imagined) or I will enjoy the process of learning what I need to get what I want or better than I imagined”.

Now, just imagine holding THAT belief in front of you as you consider approaching a woman you’d like to meet.

What it comes down to is the MEANING you assign to approaching women that determines what you will be able to do.

Here is an example:

I have had SO many students tell me they can’t even talk to a beautiful woman.  I always ask them the following question.

“Ok. Suppose that stunningly beautiful woman you “can’t” talk to was standing there and I guy was coming up behind her with a knife raised in the air, about to bring it down on her and stab her. Could you talk to her then and at least yell, “Hey lady! Look out!”

Every guy I have ever asked that has at least said “yes” and many of them have said they would go on to try to take the knife away from the guy.

I always say,

“Congratulations. That’s talking to a beautiful woman!”

They always look at me kind of funny and say, “well, that’s different. I would be doing something good for her, in that case”.

Wow. As if talking to a woman and giving her the chance to possibly enter your world ISN’T A GOOD THING?

Really the only difference is the meaning YOU assign to it.

Instead of the woman being the judge of your value or attractiveness what if you just viewed talking to her as a way to enjoy seeing what she was like and even to see how much fun you could have playing with her?

Or you could go really nutty with your imagination, get really playful, and imagine she was suffocating and there was air in your sac!

I admit that’s extreme, but it sure beats viewing talking to a girl as a life or death situation.

The bottom line: rejection cannot exist in a properly directed mind. There is only the meaning  YOU assign!

Hey…that sorta rhymes! Now write it down, 100 times!

The key here is to stay playful, have fun and assign the right meaning, the meaning that serves you, rather than the one that stops you in your tracks.

When you stay playful, your life will be “playful”.

Ha ha ha. This is fun.  But the rhyming is done. (OOPS!)

Here is an email from a student who let that playful attitude serve him very well:

I really have to thank you for all of your hard work and dedication to redressing the balance in the power of men and women

I have been a student for over six years now and have had some mind blowing results, but the most important thing to me is the fun you can have doing this when rejection no longer even exists in your PREVIOUSLY negative mind.

I’m hope there is no need to give you specific stories as there really are to many to mention and “doing the thing” with women within just an hour of meeting them was unimaginable, until I had your coaching . . .it then became the norm.

I believe that students need to adapt it to their own culture and environment, but that goes without saying and thankfully you give your students the tools to do this.

I have actually found my ideal partner in life now and because of your material it was totally by choice not because it “was the best I could do”.

I am 39yrs old with no money [ too lazy there ] I would say I was only OK looking too , but my partner is just 21 and a HB 10, she has an amazing mind too  [very important]. . . people are all ways in awe and ask ” how do you do so well with women”.

So thanks again and please keep up the amazing work so that you can help people to make themselves as happy as you helped make me

I hope your students never give up on having FUN with this and how easy it becomes with practice (not for the lazy ass or people shut down to fun).

A million thanks
Dave, England”

Dave, you are welcome. And let me say that the key here IS to keep it fun. If you start taking any of this too seriously, you will cut down the power of the techniques and get in your own way.

If you have ever seen me teach, I am constantly joking around but I take what I do very seriously. I just don’t have to approach it in a serious way.

I also very much appreciate your point about having found a life partner totally by choice and not because it was the best you could do.

When men come from true power and choice, that is when they can be truly loyal to a woman. Not because they gave up, but because they at last had the tools to STEP UP to the quality of woman they have always truly really wanted.

Peace and piece
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the most frequent questions I get is, “What happens if she x’s when I run a pattern?”

X could be “laugh” or “look bored” or whatever “negative” response you might think of.

A fundamental principle of any kind of persuasion (and seduction IS a sub-set of persuasion) is,

“USE WHATEVER RESPONSE SHE GIVES YOU”

To put it more clearly, I have a set of beliefs I come from:

1. I never take her first response as written in stone. It’s just a reflection of what she is thinking feeling or believing in THAT moment(or the part of her mind she is coming from) and it is always subject to change.
2. Anything she offers me is just a toy for me to play with.
3. Anything she offers me is just information I can use
4. Anything she offers me is just energy to be redirected
5. She can do whatever she wants: I CONTROL WHERE MY ENERGY GOES.

So let’s say a woman “laughs” at you or with you when you run a pattern.

The first thing to realize is, they are NOT laughing it off.  They are laughing it IN. Oftentimes, what you are getting is the laugh of recognition, not the laugh of resistance.

But let’s say she IS resisting a bit. Remember this: resistance is just a sign she is responding strongly to what you are offering and is scared of how strongly she is responding.

What she is seeking is some safety and a measure of feeling a bit more in control.

In that case, simply change the subject.  If you are describing an incredible connection, and you see she is in to it, but suddenly she does a 180 and looks a bit uncomfortable, BACK OFF.

Simply change the tone to something lighter or something funny.  Point out something going on in the environment around you, “Oh my God, did you see what your cat just did?” Give her a chance to regain some comfort, then go back to the direction you were going.

We call this “fractionation” in traditional hypnosis. Each time you go into a trance and then are brought back out, you go progressively deeper in the next time and the time after that.

The other aspect of this is self-control: keeping your state solid and steady and grounded, even when she APPEARS to be unresponsive or responding “negatively”.

Remember, it is the meaning and interpretation you give things, along with how you direct your body’s energetic flow that determines what will happen. The more you can stay relaxed in the immediate present, without referencing your past or worrying about the future, the more you can bring your power and skills to bear in even the diciest situations.

Now, things will not always work out as planned; you will still find situations that don’t go as you like, but you will have stretched yourself into new areas of learning and be more capable for the next wonderful woman(or whacked out witch) who comes your way.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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