Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In this digital, instant-messaging age, more and more Penthouse-worthy erotic encounters as well as dating relationships begin with online chat on a dating site. Personally, I don’t think that’s very effective, because you can’t use many of the in-person techniques for approaching women.

But a lot of my students are trying their hand at Speed Seduction® using Match.com, Plentyoffish, e-Harmony, Singlesnet, Chemistry.com, or Friend Finder. A student of mine who is working on his “online Sarge” wrote to me the other day:

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Hey Ross! One thing I’ve learned is that I am not very good at seducing women online, at least with someone I have not already met in person. I’m having a hard time making the patterns work well with the woman when it’s typed words rather than face-to-face. For one thing, it is hard, maybe impossible, to be sure they link it to you. For another, you can’t watch them, and see how they are taking what you are saying. You can’t really calibrate.

Personally, I try to use online sarging only as a means of getting a face to face meeting set up. However, I’m sure many of you out there are expert internet sargers. Any tips on how I can improve my internet sarging, especially with women I either haven’t met, or only had time to swap e-mail addresses?

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You’re right when you say that it’s hard, maybe even impossible, to make sure she links the words you type back to you, and not to the images in her mind, which for all you know have nothing to do with you despite all the “oooo” and “aaahhh” and “you’ve got me so wet, babe” she’s typing back to you in that chat window.

The one possible advantage I see to chatting online is that sometimes you can get her to open up more, since she might be less nervous than if you had just approached her in person because she perceives less “risk.”

That said, here’s the deal: If you haven’t spent time talking to her face to face, use (limited) time online to do information gathering. One of the key principles of Speed Seduction® is how to use the information she gives you to reframe her to get her soaking wet hot-and-bothered … and to then associate those erotic feelings with YOU so YOU are the one she attacks like a wild woman on the kitchen floor when you meet in person.

Good luck, peace, and piece!

- RJ

P.S. Listen: when I first started teaching Speed Seduction® almost 20 years ago (back in the days of Usenet) I had no idea how far this would all go, and how much a part of our culture the internet would become for making erotic connections.

No matter what, though, the principles for scoring with women haven’t changed. And since enjoying damn near ridiculous levels of success, satisfaction and pleasure with the most amazing women around is something you are highly interested in, wherever you meet them…then check out Speed Seduction® 3.0. Get yours today:

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