Why Telling Her How Good She Looks Makes YOU Look… REALLY Bad To Her
Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,
When you pay a woman a direct compliment, you may well be buying yourself a one-way ticket to Dry Willy City rather than a pass to the all-you-can-eat buffet of erotic desire.
Direct compliments (such as “Wow, you really look good today” and “You have the most beautiful, warm, inviting eyes I’ve ever seen”) may not go over well because:
- She doesn’t really believe it about herself;
- She has reason to believe that you don’t really mean it and are just saying it to get in her pants;
- She has reason to believe you mean it, she believes it about herself too, but it just doesn’t impress her or speak to her in a way that results in her feeling positive about it. She is too used to hearing it directly, so it has lost impact. She’s heard it all before;
- Because of how she perceives your status or your degree of familiarity with her, she doesn’t believe you should be saying it.
The Power Of Implication And How It Says So Much More…
Especially Because You Don’t Directly Say It
A key point that I drive home again and again is the power of implied compliments. The implied compliment states something about women who have the qualities you are complimenting her about… and then IMPLIES by virtue of the fact that you are addressing her that she must fit into that group.
This works because making sense of what is implied is an active process. The listener has to put together the thought/connect the dots on her own. The thought is, “Oh…he is saying he thinks that about me! How sweet!”
Or, “Oh, he is saying he isn’t sure that is true about me…I better prove to him that it is!”
Here’s an example.
“It’s just that I admire women with really strong fashion sense, so I had to say hello” is saying the following:
- I admire women who have strong fashion sense.
- When I admire women like that I am compelled to say hello.
- I am compelled to say hello to you.
The implication is:
She has really strong fashion sense.
See how this works?
Peace and piece,
RJ
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