Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Should you ever accept a woman’s “excuses” for cancelling a date or meeting? Do you know how to successfully handle those cases where you really should give a woman another chance? Or do you keep getting sucked into another round of time and attention wasting female flim-flammery?

Bask In My Wisdom, Seduction-Master-In Training!

My rules for this are very simple:

1. No matter how good an “excuse” may sound to you, remember most women are excellent liars, and text makes it exceedingly easy for even a poor liar to do it quite well. After all, you can’t hear voice tone or inflection, which are two big keys to when a chick is fibbing.(Hint: another key is, she is moving her lips!)
2. The bottom line is that a woman who is truly interested in spending time with you but for some legitimate reason just can’t do so, will make her interest very clear, almost certainly by asking if she can see you another time and day.
3. What women do is far more important than what they say. What they say can easily play into your neediness, horniness, need for validation, etc. etc. What they do is clear and easy to see.

There’s No Excuse, For Date-Break Abuse!

So under what circumstances should you give a date-breakin’ chick another shot at the honor of riding your pink steel? And when should you shine her on as a waste of the space she’s squatting in?

Well, from what I’ve written above, it ought to be pretty clear, Buckwheat. The only scenario where I would even consider her as a prospect is if she makes it very clear in the text that cancels, that she really does want to spend time with you.

Anything else you need to either:

A) Forget it and move on

B) Put her in your mental “refrigerator” for 30 days. After 30 days goes by, text her and say, “Hey…if you see that cool fun girl I thought I met, have her text me. She was kinda interesting”.

Here’s the deeper truth: when you know how to easily meet women, anytime, anywhere, and quickly capture and lead their imagination and emotions, you won’t give two toots in hell if an occasional bimbo doesn’t get the value of having you bend her over your sofa and giving her the old “Sargy One Two Three”.

And that sure beats a poke in the eye, don’t it?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

My recent posts on women who “run hot and cold” have struck quite a nerve.

I’m getting a ton of e-mails and responses, so I know this is an issue that many smart guys like you, including those in my Speed Seduction® Coaching Program, need assistance getting handled.

Now, talk about “hot and cold” – this next letter comes from a student who is Sarging on a woman who goes from naming the kids and planning weekends with the in-laws to not returning his calls, just like that… and he just recently met her!

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The woman in particular is an attractive, 25 yr old small-business owner who seemed to open up very quickly. I met her friends and family right away and we spent a lot of time together. She talked about children’s names and eluded to “our in-laws.” She almost disappeared July 4th and within a week of extreme distance said “you’re not like anyone I’ve ever dated and I don’t know why I’m pushing away what I truly want.”

She bought me gifts and a card the second time we went out, text me many times throughout the day and seemed so sweet, compassionate and just wonderfully feminine.

I’m not sure what went wrong but it sucks, bad. What do you guys think? Did I kill the attraction?

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First of all, what does “open up very quickly” mean? DID YOU F@@K HER? DID YOU F@@K HER? DID YOU F@@K HER? (That’s a yes or no question – you did or you didn’t.)

Frequently in the “Steaming Hot Seduction Secrets” ezines I hammer the point that “dating is what you do with women you’re already sleeping with!” Why?

Because when the interaction turns to “dating,” women instinctively pull out their “checklist” of what the “perfect man” is and start rating whether you are “her type.” If you have not yet connected with her emotionally and set the “anchors” that make any “checklist” irrelevant, you don’t want to be “dating” her.

For the same reason, I’m not in a hurry to meet family and friends. It puts too much “meaning” on things, and immediately that often triggers a woman’s “is he REALLY the one” fractionation / emotional interruption mechanism.

Now, she’s talking about kids’ names and in-laws that early on? That means she is trying out that kind of thinking because she thinks it is how she SHOULD be thinking instead of wanting to go out with her girlfriends, get laid, have fun, etc. She’s trying to convince herself.

Right now, you’re in knots from her “running hot and cold” (the gifts and cards, followed by the “extreme distance”) because you are hooked on the validation and attention. So when she pulls it away, you freak out, get clingy, drive her away, instead of being aware of that response as it first arises and being able to redirect.

It’s time to break the “hot and cold” cycle caused by your need for validation by this (or ANY) woman, and find the woman (or women) who will just want consistent, steaming-hot fun.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. Starting now, forget about ever again being confused by a woman’s emotional 180s, her fluctuations between wanting you and pushing you away, her last minute buyers remorse, contradictory signals, sudden loss of interest and other up until now deeply frustrating and seemingly irrational actions.

With what I teach you throughout the 7 DVDs and 11 CDS of Speed Seduction® 3.0, you’ll be in charge as the effortless seduction architect of every interaction and situation.

Claim yours now, and stop letting her “give it and take it away” – for good!

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

About a week ago on my blog, I told you the story of the student who was facing challenges from a hot babe who kept cranking his faucet knob by “running hot and cold,” with the end result that she wasn’t cranking his other knob.

Last night, I received an e-mail from one of you who tells a similar tale, but with an interesting twist. And it got me thinking. So, let me share it with you now along with some more insights to help you create irresistible arousal and avoid the trap of “getting cranked”:

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My situation is that me and this incredible babe I’ve been seeing are probably more in the category of “intimate” in the sense that we are not just flirting and being sexual but there is also lots of holding hands and hugs, etc., and I have always stayed the night instead of it just being “hit and run.” We dont see that much of each other – maybe about once a week – so I can’t say things are really serious. Although, what I would like to know from her is would she like it to be serious!

However, and this is the big BUT…. I like affection, I like intimacy and the problem lies in that I will often if not always find myself initiating kissing with her, and sometimes I go to kiss her and she kind of doesn’t react at all, like she holds her mouth still, which I find weird. She is also texting me alot saying she can’t wait to get her hands on me and other flirty stuff. But when we are together in person she is far more reserved.

In the past, I would chase girls or frighten them away (especially the the ones I like), hence I want to learn from my mistakes and not do it again.

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I have three rules to share, or rather, axioms:

Rule/Axiom #1:

CONFUSED PEOPLE BEHAVE IN CONFUSING WAYS.

It sounds to me like this lady can’t tell what she wants, from what she’s getting, from what she thinks she SHOULD want, etc etc.
You’re spending the night on the “every so often” occasions you see her. She acts all excited with anticipation when there’s a date planned, but then when you kiss her, she doesn’t move her lips?

Rule/Axiom #2:

IN ANY CONFLICT BETWEEN WHAT A WOMAN SAYS AND WHAT A WOMAN DOES, PAY ATTENTION AND GIVE WEIGHT TO WHAT SHE ****DOES****

As a Seduction master, it’s your job to receive and interpret the “vibe” she puts out, and feed it back to her in a way that gets her hot and bothered and inserting you into her fantasies, so when she lives them out, she lives them out with you.

Rule/Axiom #3:

WOMEN ARE CHAOTIC SYSTEMS. AS SUCH, WHAT THEY WANT AND WHAT THEY “RESPOND” TO MAY VARY FROM DAY TO DAY, WEEK TO WEEK, EVEN HOUR BY HOUR, DEPENDING ON ALL SORTS OF ENVIRONMENTAL FACTORS, HER OWN INTERNAL HORIZONTAL AND VERTICAL FRACTIONATION PROCESSES, HEALTH/MONTHLY CYCLE, etc.

Again, you need to remain in control of the situation and remember also that a woman’s first (or current) response is rarely an indicator of what’s “final.” Using Speed Seduction®, you have the power to influence that to help her find her way to you – assuming she is, indeed, open and willing. (And if not, you do “Exit, Stage Left!” and Sarge on the next hottie you see!)

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. Starting now, forget about ever again being confused by a woman’s emotional 180s, her fluctuations between wanting you and pushing you away, her last minute buyers remorse, contradictory signals, sudden loss of interest and other up until now deeply frustrating and seemingly irrational actions.

With what I teach you throughout the 7 DVDs and 11 CDS of Speed Seduction® 3.0, you’ll be in charge as the effortless seduction architect of every interaction and situation.

Claim yours now, and start using your power to guide the path of her desires – TOWARD you!

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

I’ve seen “online dating” evolve from being what guys didn’t admit to using to meet that latest “hot babe,” to being so common that you can barely watch a half hour of TV without seeing a commercial for one of the major online-dating websites.

I know a number of guys who have had success Sarging online. A few told me how they applied my girl-getting techniques to the online scene and used them to screen out the time-wasters, pic-collectors, and c#%k-teasers and score with the “prime hotties” on the “dating sites.” I’ve said before, good on them for making it work and I wish them continued success.

More common, however, is what I received two days ago from one of my students who has, up until now, insisted that the chatroom is just as good as the coffee shop, bookstore, grocery store, pottery class, running club, rock star’s fan club meetings, local networking group, or favourite club for meeting hot women:

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You know Ross, I’ve had some success finding women online, meeting them in person. I’ve gotten laid a couple times and even dated a few. Good times. More often, though, chicks on the dating sites talk a big game about being ready to “go for it” until it comes time to take things to a higher level.

Right at the point where things are ready to progress from a little fun online chat to “things actually happening” is where many women online suddenly change. They’ll make up bulls#%t excuses. They’ll suddenly change from lively chats that could go on all night if I would have let them, to all they say in the chat window is “hi” “ok” “cool” and “bye” without any smiley faces or “lol” or “roflmao” like before. They’ll disappear without a trace. In about 1 out of 5 cases, they suddenly pick some stupid fight, blame it on me, and call me an a$@hole from behind their keyboard.

Even after we meet in person, most of the time it doesn’t take long before they retreat back behind their computer or texting on their Crackberry or i(Don’t-Actually-Talk-On-The)Phone.

Frankly, I’d rather occasionally have some stuck-up chick shoot me down in public while her gal-pals laugh at me than deal with online nonsense anymore. I’ve canceled my online dating profiles and deleted everyone off my IM buddy list who isn’t an actual “real life” friend. For a couple days it was weird with my IM being silent and no “she just winked at you” notifications, but I don’t miss it now. I’m done with work for the day and now I’m off to my regular club to see who’s hanging out tonight.

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I’ve been working closely with this student for two years now. He was playing the online game smart, using it as a means to get her quickly to the next phase (the phone, then an in-person meet). He wasn’t using the internet as a crutch or excuse to avoid taking bold in-person seduction moves himself.

Remember: the anonymity of the internet allows people to pretend without having to face the music.

Plus, you don’t know who she really is, no matter how good she is at typing “just the right things” in the “naughty box.” All those “pics” she sends you that show you how cute and yummy she looks… how do you know they’re really HER? And if they are her, how do you know they aren’t 10 years old, from before she went to hell in a handbasket?

In this 24/7, hectic, overwhelm world where sometimes it’s hard to get out of the office enough to Sarge, the chat rooms and dating sites let you interact with women without having to lift more than a finger or two. It’s tempting and easy – I appreciate this.

But look: save the online chat stuff for women you’ve already been sleeping with for a while, as a way of keeping them tittilated when they’re home alone waiting for you to get back from that 3-day seminar you’re away at and show them even more hot, steaming adventure in person.

All around you, OFFLINE, the women are waiting – what, my friend, are you waiting FOR?

Peace, peace, and here’s LOOKING at her IN PERSON,

RJ

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