Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

You’re a smart guy who’s “got it goin’ on” who knows how to overcome your fear, walk right over to the hottie you see at the next table, and Sarge on her ’till next thing you know, she’s screaming your name while you take her places she’s never been before.

But there’s one problem. The other guys she’s been with have treated her like garbage. You refuse to resort to bullying, begging, buying, bs or booze…but she’s so used to guys who DO, that you end up being the “therapist” she cries to about those other jerks.

You know, the jerks who are f@@king her silly while you fantasize about her during your date with Rosey and her five sisters. Here’s a note I got from a student who’s in that boat:

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I have the hots for this chick who has ONLY ever been attracted to guys who treated her like crap. Occasionally she’ll call me or I her and we’ll hang a bit or talk on the phone. Each time, I extend her comfort zone just a bit more and her affirm, ratify and REACH for more good feelings.

It’s been my experience, if you treat women nice they tend to run away because it is all new to them. And I’m left standing there, knowing I had good intentions. But good intentions ain’t getting my Willy wet.

Can you expand the process here of how you had to be “hard” on her at first (which is what she expects from men) and slowly change her comfort zone to reach for good feelings – that will open up her heart and blow her mind.

Can this be done without me becoming her therapist and “friend” instead of her lover?

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This is territory fraught with pitfalls. First, foremost, UPPERMOST, MOST importantly:

DETACH YOURSELF from the outcome. You might like this woman, but you have to detach; turn down your desire to bang her, make a difference, change her worldview, etc.

Do a little Frame Control on yourself before you try it on her. Repeat this to yourself till it’s clear:

“I am not attached, but nor am I disinterested.”

And then orient yourself to your end goal by asking:

“Do I want a poke in the eye, or do I want to poke her?”

(I think you KNOW what *I* prefer!)

Instead of being the “friend” whose shoulder she cries on about how those jerks treat her wrong, you’ll be the guy who gets her soaking wet with desire…the “best she’s ever had.” They’ll wish they were YOU.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. It sucks that you are competing for this chick against a–holes and d–kwads. But, what these jerks aren’t counting on is you having Ross Jeffries on your team.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

As a teacher, I am dedicated to helping smart guys like you apply Speed Seduction® toward all girl-getting situations. For you, it’s a matter of you mastering my teachings and applying them to your own situation to make life work for you.

Now…what happens when you want one thing…but she has other goals in mind?

A student of mine who got “stuck” while in the process of getting her hot and bothered asked me this:

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I realize that every woman is different and needs/wants different things to feel fulfilled.

I have found that women want either a Relationship / Connection OR a Fling / Adventure. Showing them the incredible potential of the AND, by being Bed Buddies, is my present continuing goal.

Different types of women (or women at different times or stages in their lives) will prefer one or the other; yet the idea of Bed Buddies doesn’t seem to appeal to them, nearly as much. They view it as a compromise – not as intimate as a relationship and not as exciting as a fling.

So how can I present this frame in a more appealing way?

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The kinds of themes you introduce in your Sarge will help steer things. For example, I wouldn’t talk about values in relationships with someone who just wants a fling.

In fact, why define the “relationship” upfront? Leave it open and tell the truth – that you’re open to the potential of ANYTHING, and at this point, all you promise is that you never want to do anything unless you and her are both totally certain it is what you want and are totally comfortable with.

If the most incredible, mind-blowing babe came along that so totally impressed me and met my needs and values, and wants and desires…HELL YES! I WOULD hang up my Speed Seduction® guns..at least for a while…and “bed-buddy” it up with her!

That’s a good place to start. It will open the doors for you to practice frame control to steer her in the direction you want her to go with you.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. Once you get the doors open by being honest and open-ended, how would it go for you if you had word for word seduction patterns that induce permanent behavioral change in the women you desire, allowing you to mold them to the exact erotic specifications you require, demand and dream of? Meaning if you want a Bed Buddy, you can make her your Bed Buddy?

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