Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Does playing hard-to-get make you more attractive to women?   Will letting her know you’re displeased with her make her want to give you more pleasure?

These are among the questions asked my a student of mine:

>I find out sometimes I show dissatisifaction with women and can get more control over them. They will ask what they can do for me, am I satisfied, et cetera, like they are afraid of getting me angry.

>So I would like to ask here, are there ways to test women like they will test you at first to see if they will take your bullshit?  Should I “sometimes” ignore women or teasing women, I don`t know if this will make me more attractive to them?  I think control is a little like attraction, is that right?

Alright, let’s dissect this… 

1. Control is an illusion. Humans are chaotic, complex, and at best, you have influence.
2. Do you want “control” – or what you perceive you’ll get as a result of “control”: more priority, more respect, more compliance? “Control” is really just a tool to achieve these other things. If you can get these other things without “control” then fantastic.
3. I would express dissatisfaction as part of an overall strategy of letting people know where they stand and where **I** stand. I wouldn’t do it as a tactic to create compliance. I’d do it to set things clear and make sure people(male, female) etc know my rules and that I DO have rules.

Now, it is true, some humans, and some women(the younger and less sure of themselves) do need and do respond to being dominated and “controlled” at every turn.

The problem is, this is a royal pain in the ass and a lot of work.  Not what I want.  I want a human being who can initiate and take the lead on occasion, not a mindless slave who fears displeasing me at any second.

To attract HEALTHY women:

• Create great feelings in them and link them to you
• Take those feelings away if they violate a major rule of yours that you have told them about or if they continue to violate less major rules. The worst “punishment” is to withdraw your company and attention.
• Call them on their bullshit WHEN they do it, in a firm but fair way.

BTW if your rules are that they must ALWAYS do as you say, must NEVER disagree and must NEVER have desires of their own that don’t include you, then your rules must be immediately repealed and replaced with something healthy.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

A big part of achieving ultimate success with women you truly desire comes from understanding of the concept of “frames”; the overall guidelines through which you present everything else you do.

I truly believe that understanding how to fit all of your thoughts, actions, responses and ideas with women into the right frame…the frame of NEVER supplicating, begging or “asking”, but instead, offering challenges, structuring opportunities and eliciting/evoking processes is the single most important key to making every other aspect of your success with women at least three to four times more effective and powerful.

A student asked me this question:

> Is a frame just anything that can make people see things differently? So how do you CONTROL the frame under those circumstances?
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> Essentially, the idea is you are supposed to hold a given point of view – “I’m testing to see if I can find someone who measures up to my standards”. Sure, that makes sense. But it still doesn’t leave me feeling like I understand the whole process. It is doesn’t leave me feeling like I could create a different frame for a different circumstance.

RJ here.  The frame, among other things, is the underlying, UNSPOKEN set of assumptions about WHO holds the power, WHO has what is of value, WHO must please WHOM.

Let’s chunk this down.

She says something like, “I just can’t find a guy who can treat me like a lady”.

An AFC would ask what she means and then act as she describes. She has set the frame that SHE is the prize who must be one.

We Speed Seduction® Masters turn it around, “Yeah, I know what you mean. I can’t find a lady who can move me past LUST into TRUE passion…you know…where you aren’t just feeling hot and sticky in the moment..you don’t just give all that you have…but you find things coming forth in you that you never knew were there…just waiting to be satisfied.”

You see what I mean? That’s just one example.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Want to learn how to present in a way that is much more receivable to the feminine psyche and mind…receivable in a way that just lets it slide right in…deep into the place where her wildest fantasies spring to life and action, with you?  Get my Frame Control and Sexual Themes course and claim your 16+ hours of teaching on this topic now.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Let’s say you’re out and about and walk-up to a hottie and really hit it off.  Or, you’re at a party and your host’s best friend is an HB10++++ and she smiles just right while hanging on your every word.

For s$%@s and giggles, maybe you’re online and chat with a woman, seeing her on “cam” verifies she actually IS hot, and she’s just so flirty and cute and 10 minutes from you and agreeing to meet you, in the succulent flesh, firm booty and huge tits and all, for coffee the next day.

All of these scenarios make you feel good.  Hey, nothing suck-seeds like suck-sess, and few things crank up the dial on a sunny day like a beautiful woman’s smile when it’s meant for you.

Problem, though.

You start to feel a new state coming on…then it erupts within you like a volcano.  Next thing, you associate her sexy eyes and twinkling smile and the way she says “babe” in her awww-shucks way…

… and are consumed by RAGING LUST, DESIRE, AND HORNINESS that obliterates any and all other feelings or senses.

Clearly, this is NOT a good state to come from when approaching women.  You end up getting invested in the result of bedding HER (rather than “interested in the woman” and “invested in sharpening your skills”) but, nevertheless, there it is.  BAM.  Your girl-getting game and experience goes out the window and it’s a very, very short ride to AFC-Ville.

How Do You Put Carnal Desire In Its Place So You Get Her Back To YOUR Place?

You realize it.  You need to get yourself into a calm, centered, powerful, playful, exploratory place, or the only good those desires will do you will be to give Jimmy a fighting chance in the hand-to-hand wrestling match you’ll have in about an hour while thinking about her.

Yet at the same time, you want to USE and CHANNEL that energy that arises from this “desire states” to HELP you get the results you want.

Here’s a quick exercise you can do, at that moment, to get these desires working FOR you, instead of just working you.  (NOTE: this requires a certain level of self-awareness and if that’s an area where you need changework, you want to check out Nail Your Inner Game).

1. Ground into your feet. Bend your knees slightly and feel your feet pressing into your shoes and the ground pressing back up through your shoes/feet
2. Tune into the lustful feelings and see if you can find the edge or border where they fade out into almost disappearing. Then hold your attention on the very border/edge of the feelings, just before they disappear. That will help.

Think about it.  Your mind full of raging lust, desire, and horniness…. or HER full of raging lust, desire, and horniness as she presses her succulent body, firm booty and huge tits and all, up against you?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Understanding how to fit all of your thoughts, actions, responses and ideas with women into the right frame – the frame of NEVER supplicating, begging or “asking”, but instead, offering challenges, structuring opportunities and eliciting/evoking processes is the single most important key to getting at least three to four times more women.  Learn more about this right here.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

To truly grasp, harness, and master the mighty power that comes with getting all the women your heart desires, you must gain a firm hold on not only the patterns and techniques, but the manner in which these are created.

Many students follow the patterns and phrases I teach, word-for-word, and are getting chicks like crazy.  And I might add, at the same time handling their business and not getting sidelined by crazy chicks.

One of my students explained to me how he uses a specific sequence of songs from his favorite musician, drawing levels of a woman’s attention to certain lyric snippets, things about the music and the beat, and changes in the singer’s voice.  He has her experience the music, then trace her feelings about the music and feed it back to him.

He actually invented this on the fly, exactly one year ago today, when he was “stuck” on a Sarge and having a hard time opening her up.  He often forgets his lines so memorizing “Twin Brothers” or “Discovery Channel” isn’t a walk in the park for him.

But yet, after an evening with her punctuated by awkward silences and repeated failed attempts to rev her up, this improvised music pattern had her dragging him into his bedroom and throwing herself at him in less than 20 minutes. 

I mean, he knows the music inside and out.  He listens to it every damn day.  Why SHOULDN’T he put it to work for him, getting him more women?   Now, you already figured out – it’s not the songs.  It’s what my student does with them.

And how was my student just able to “make this up” and then be able to easily recreate and re-use it (he’s used it successfully at least three times since then)?

It’s a version (a crude albeit effective version) of something known as “demo construction“  When you create a “demo” and use it on a woman, you achieve many things:

1. It allows you to test to see how she responds to instructions
2. It allows you to test to see how suggestible she is
3. It conditions her to follow directions and sets the frame that SHE is the one who must perform for YOU.
4. It takes feelings in her body and amplifies, putting them under YOUR control AND at the same time, making them more vivid and more REAL for HER and thus more controllable by YOU.
5. It allows her to confirm for herself that she is enjoying the experience and wants to reach for more, thus creating the illusion of participation.
6. It creates fascination and intrigue on her part, and the perception that you are unique, powerful, and someone from whom she can really experience, enjoy and learn.

Now, if you ask me, being able to make up your own patterns, using proven seduction techniques, translating the things you enjoy into more enjoyment with the ladies?  This, my friends, is a song we can all dance to.  Dance in the sheets, that is.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. How would you like to be able to create your own themes; harnessing the overall ideas that allow you to easily flow, in natural conversation from one pattern to the next, with complete easy and flexibility. Master this and you’ll be able to bring up any pattern in any situation. The ultimate in conversational flexibility, freedom and power.  And you can find it right now by clicking here.

(WARNING: This is advanced stuff, like adding nitrous oxide to the Corvette.)

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

You’re a smart guy who’s “got it goin’ on” who knows how to overcome your fear, walk right over to the hottie you see at the next table, and Sarge on her ’till next thing you know, she’s screaming your name while you take her places she’s never been before.

But there’s one problem. The other guys she’s been with have treated her like garbage. You refuse to resort to bullying, begging, buying, bs or booze…but she’s so used to guys who DO, that you end up being the “therapist” she cries to about those other jerks.

You know, the jerks who are f@@king her silly while you fantasize about her during your date with Rosey and her five sisters. Here’s a note I got from a student who’s in that boat:

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I have the hots for this chick who has ONLY ever been attracted to guys who treated her like crap. Occasionally she’ll call me or I her and we’ll hang a bit or talk on the phone. Each time, I extend her comfort zone just a bit more and her affirm, ratify and REACH for more good feelings.

It’s been my experience, if you treat women nice they tend to run away because it is all new to them. And I’m left standing there, knowing I had good intentions. But good intentions ain’t getting my Willy wet.

Can you expand the process here of how you had to be “hard” on her at first (which is what she expects from men) and slowly change her comfort zone to reach for good feelings – that will open up her heart and blow her mind.

Can this be done without me becoming her therapist and “friend” instead of her lover?

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This is territory fraught with pitfalls. First, foremost, UPPERMOST, MOST importantly:

DETACH YOURSELF from the outcome. You might like this woman, but you have to detach; turn down your desire to bang her, make a difference, change her worldview, etc.

Do a little Frame Control on yourself before you try it on her. Repeat this to yourself till it’s clear:

“I am not attached, but nor am I disinterested.”

And then orient yourself to your end goal by asking:

“Do I want a poke in the eye, or do I want to poke her?”

(I think you KNOW what *I* prefer!)

Instead of being the “friend” whose shoulder she cries on about how those jerks treat her wrong, you’ll be the guy who gets her soaking wet with desire…the “best she’s ever had.” They’ll wish they were YOU.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. It sucks that you are competing for this chick against a–holes and d–kwads. But, what these jerks aren’t counting on is you having Ross Jeffries on your team.

Now, you can have word for word seduction patterns that induce permanent behavioral change in this woman’s thought processes that will have YOU – and not those other jerks – being the answer to her fantasies. It’s all in my Frame Control and Sexual Themes DVDs. Get yours now:

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

As a teacher, I am dedicated to helping smart guys like you apply Speed Seduction® toward all girl-getting situations. For you, it’s a matter of you mastering my teachings and applying them to your own situation to make life work for you.

Now…what happens when you want one thing…but she has other goals in mind?

A student of mine who got “stuck” while in the process of getting her hot and bothered asked me this:

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I realize that every woman is different and needs/wants different things to feel fulfilled.

I have found that women want either a Relationship / Connection OR a Fling / Adventure. Showing them the incredible potential of the AND, by being Bed Buddies, is my present continuing goal.

Different types of women (or women at different times or stages in their lives) will prefer one or the other; yet the idea of Bed Buddies doesn’t seem to appeal to them, nearly as much. They view it as a compromise – not as intimate as a relationship and not as exciting as a fling.

So how can I present this frame in a more appealing way?

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The kinds of themes you introduce in your Sarge will help steer things. For example, I wouldn’t talk about values in relationships with someone who just wants a fling.

In fact, why define the “relationship” upfront? Leave it open and tell the truth – that you’re open to the potential of ANYTHING, and at this point, all you promise is that you never want to do anything unless you and her are both totally certain it is what you want and are totally comfortable with.

If the most incredible, mind-blowing babe came along that so totally impressed me and met my needs and values, and wants and desires…HELL YES! I WOULD hang up my Speed Seduction® guns..at least for a while…and “bed-buddy” it up with her!

That’s a good place to start. It will open the doors for you to practice frame control to steer her in the direction you want her to go with you.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. Once you get the doors open by being honest and open-ended, how would it go for you if you had word for word seduction patterns that induce permanent behavioral change in the women you desire, allowing you to mold them to the exact erotic specifications you require, demand and dream of? Meaning if you want a Bed Buddy, you can make her your Bed Buddy?

I have put together over 16 hours of DIGITALLY recorded Frame Control and Sexual Themes on DVD. Get your copies NOW while I still have them available:

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