Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Just got this great e-mail from a student of mine who has immersed himself in our Buddy To Bedmate course and, most recently, stepped up to the plate by claiming his copy of Nail Your Inner Game.

Now, he will tell us, in his own words, how these courses have turbo-charged his girl getting game:

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Hey Ross,

Thanks for free Buddy To Bedmate stuff….I’ve been absorbing as much of it as I can reading through all of the pdfs and files…and let me tell ya…this is fantastic stuff!  I’ve been trying out various strategies on some of the ones I know in the friend zone…and although we are not doing the “no-pants” dance…I am getting some very interesting responses.

The trance induction mp3 was very helpful to me.  I have listened to it 3 times…and plan to listen to it whenever I feel stuck and frustrated (I expect this when trying to connect with women…part of the learning process, eh? – no, I’m not Canadian : ) I sense a difference already in my attitude…and the crazy thought trains that used to run through my head like “the clock is ticking”  or “time is running out on me” or “this will never work” or “there are no women I can really talk to…connect with…”  …. well, you get the idea.

I appreciated especially your take on the “inner game”.  As you put it…the “double your masturbating” guy tried to talk on the inner game and had some useful stuff…but it was rather vague and undefined.  I read this year the Inner Game of Tennis by W. Timothy Gallwey and also the Inner Game of Work by the same author.  At the time I read these….I thought “wouldn’t it be great if there was an Inner Game to Seduction book?”  When I signed up for your Buddy To Bedmate system….I was happy to discover you had really “nailed” this topic!

I bought your Inner Game DVD/CD pack recently…and just watched it last night.  Fantastic stuff!  I especially appreciate your concept of transmutation…I did it today after having a tough time at work…I was all knotted up inside and found the detanglement process very, very helpful.

Now to apply this knowledge in all the right places!  : )

I have found your stuff much more practical than the other PUAs out there.  You should write a book someday -  The Art and Science of Persuasion!

With appreciation,

Ethan H.
Dallas, TX

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RJ here.  Ethan – good on you for claiming your mastery of the skills that will get you more of the women you truly desire, more of the time, and keep you from getting hit with the “F-bombs” that the Romance Racketeers just love to lob at smart men everywhere.

By the way – I’ve written a couple of books – and I do have a course called MindFrame Persuasion. 

Peace and piece,
RJ

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

It’s time to break out of the belief fostered by certain folks that in order to have fun or have sex with a woman, you must be open to a relationship or feel you “owe” her one.

It is time, my beloved students, friends, and fans, to shut the Romance Racketeers down.

Look: when you’re out there meeting new women, exploring new avenues, enjoying rides on the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle without excuses, regrets, apologies, and other bullshit so-called “price to pay” for being an HONEST man, the Romance Racketeers lose.

When you and a woman mutually agree to have some fun without complicating things, that means you both get what you want without money and time wasted on fancy dinners, flowers and chocolates, romantic cruises for two, and that rot.  The Romance Racketeers do NOT like this because they’re not getting your money.

But you, as a smart guy who masters the skills, will focus instead on having fun, making out with, and yes, f@@king the women you really want to be with.  Meanwhile the Romance Racketeers can go f@@k themselves, as far as you, me, and all of your fellow Speed Seduction® masters are concerned.

Most of us come from a background of being told to be “a nice guy”. Told, even if what you really want is some awesome sex with a hottie, to still make it known that you want a relationship and even make an effort to try to “find” one.  You know the old saw about “stuff you say to get into her panties”… and the over-generalized connotations around the phrase “Mr. Love ‘Em And Leave ‘Em.”  

Well guess what?  Many women you THOUGHT you never had a chance in Hell with, actually WOULD have slept with you, in fact masturbated while thinking about you, but were afraid to get involved with you AT ALL because they weren’t ready for a relationship and took those hints-to-the-contrary you felt “obligated” to drop, at face value.

Another clue: women who are dating other guys or have busy schedules are probably not looking for a relationship either.  A woman who has a “career first” mindset is unlikely to settle into a relationship, in fact she might get turned OFF by the idea.  But chances are she’s not committed to waiting 5 years to get laid. Have you thought of it from HER point of view?

One last thing: how many women commisserate about wishing they could find “Mr. Right” yet seem to be having a lot of sleepovers with “Mr. Right Now?”  I got news for you pal: she’s not letting Mr. Right Now in her shorts because she doesn’t want him there, even if it IS true that he’s not her “Mr. Right” that she envisions having kids and growing old with.

In fact it just might be possible she’s denying she really likes f@@king him – even complaining about what a “jerk” this “Mr. Right Now” of hers is – because she’s been programmed by the Romance Racketeer Cinema to fear “society” will call her a whore for daring to claim her choice to be a discerning, smart woman who wants to be happy and satisfied like any human being.

You know, just like the Romance Racketeers would paint you a “rake” or a “sex obsessed jerk” (the “bad guy” in any sappy romance flick…you know…the guy who f@@ks the heroine over and over before she finally “lets” the “hero” of the story be seen buying her an expensive dinner in a public place on their way to the expensive show he bought the tickets for) for daring to admit that, yes, you like a woman because she’s good in bed and you like being in bed with her.

See, these Romance Racketeer assholes are making it difficult for the women-folk too.  And that’s bullshit that needs to STOP.

Now STAND UP, cast off their chains, go up to that woman you desire, and show her a BETTER choice.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. With inflation these days, it’s easier than you think to drop a few hundred in just one evening on the stuff Romance Racketeers want you to spend money on… EACH time you want to get laid.  What if you invested that same amount of money ONCE – in YOURSELF – and claimed the skills to get laid 100 times?  Click here to learn how.

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

A week or so ago, I posted this on my blog – a Sarge report from one of my longtime students who had met an HB8, had a few meetings in quick succession that led to an all-night makeout session… only to get a text from her the next morning in which she says they shouldn’t see each other anymore because she has a “borefriend.”

Said student read YOUR comments and thoughts and had a reaction along the lines of “DOH! What the f@@k was I thinking?!?!” and decided he’d give it another shot with her. Here’s what happened:

OK Ross, my gut told me to wait till the weekend to try contacting her, so that’s what I did. Meanwhile, on Thursday coincidentally and out of the blue she sent me a text that said “I’m so sorry, I actually don’t have a boyfriend. I wanted to see how you’d react if I did. I shouldn’t have done that.”

On Friday night I texted back “So which is it?” She followed up with basically a repeat of the above. So I called her Sunday (I deliberately dragged this out to build suspense) and she apologized profusely. I let her go on for a minute and then I said “Really, Debbie (not her real name of course), that totally threw me for a loop….I forgive you though.” We chatted for a bit. The plan is to get together this weekend coming up which is the next time our schedules match up. I’m heading over her place.

I’m not going to jump in head first. My other options still open (no “oneitis” here Ross). I’ll give her a mulligan on this one, but I’ll take this one step at a time. Give my thanks to everyone for their comments, especially the “constructive’ ones” I needed that!

You put into place the principle that a woman’s current reaction is rarely, if ever, her ‘final answer’. You remembered it a little late this time, but at least you remembered.  Next time you’ll remember sooner.

With all this suspense building, so long as you weren’t pining over her and agonizing on “what’s the right time to call” and “how long should I wait” and other dum-dum dating-game nonsense (sounds like that’s not an issue for you though).

Now let me aim the long, sharp needle at the balloon that is your ego.  SHE MIGHT NOT BE SINGLE.  Could be she has a boyfriend after all, but liked things with you so much she said what she needed to say to not lose you.  She might be getting ready to serve this guy his walking papers but wanting to interview other candidates first.  Or, maybe she just wants to f@@k around.

Before you come back all “woe is me” and “how did I let myself get suckered in” and all that rot, ask yourself – are ALL of these possibilities acceptable to YOU?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Wouldn’t it be an awesome thing to know that anytime a challenging situation comes up with a woman, you have the tools and wisdom in place to objectively process, and handle, the situation so everything “works out”? Click here to get these tools, starting now.

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

I don’t know about you, but I’m really enjoying this week’s “mail bag” series.

I don’t get a chance to do these very often, and I’ll be blunt: this is only a smattering of the girl-getting wisdom and teaching that you’ll find inside my Coaching Program.  You should really check it out.

In today’s installment, let’s look at a student who seems to be “stuck” on some chick and he’s trying to fix some real or purported “damage”…

I’m not old, fat, or ugly. I’m a student and lead singer of a band. I never had a problem getting girls, BUT the one girl I do want is more confusing than anything – and I’m at my wits end.

I’ve been on and off with her for three years and initially she was always ready to please sexually and otherwise – she claims I hurt her and now she is “emotionally damaged” … has no interest in sex and refuses to do anything sexual at all. I would like to seal the deal and be monogamous with this one girl but cannot because of the sexual issues. I’ve tried talking about it, being nice, yelling, threatening, all to no avail. She has random bursts of sexual interest but this stops short of actual intercourse.  Considering there are quite a few other girls willing to fulfill my needs it’s getting more and more difficult to stay faithful. I want a healthy, functioning sexual relationship again.

You say it’s getting more difficult to stay faithful?  To WHAT? Did I miss the part where you said she is currently your girlfriend and you and her are building a life TOGETHER?  She claims you hurt her and emotionally damaged her, and at random intervals she’ll show “some” interest but you never actually board the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle.  And you have other women wanting to fulfill your needs.  Consider this:

• Whether you did or didn’t really “emotionally damage” her, you need to figure out why that has you revolving your whole life around trying to “fix” it.  What, within you, is holding you back from resolving this for YOURSELF?
• Even if you COULD fix whatever damage was done, you can’t do it with her unless you fix it WITHIN YOU first.
• What, inside you, compels you to feel the need to “fix” her at expense of your own emotional power?  (It’s written between the lines.)
• That being said…dude…you’re a rock star with women pining for you.  Maybe you’re not picking the ripest cherries from this bushel because of the unresolved issues (within yourself) behind Door Number One?

All the more reason to get clear with YOURSELF.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. If I had a dollar for every student who actually did screw up with a chick he was really into and beat himself up over it, I’d be living on a yacht with Tabbatha Jean and Tazzleberry Marie, on a 12-month (instead of 3-week) Speed Seduction® 3.0 Live Tour.  There’s a way past it, but it doesn’t have anything to do with HER.  Click here to see what I mean.

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

Pretty much every student of mine, even those who completely master my teachings and do everything just as I would recommend, has an experience with a woman that leaves him wondering, “What the HELL just happened???”

This one particular Sarge report I just received really stands out, so I’ll review it first:

Hey Ross, you know, you’d think by now I’d have a keen sense for women who are just looking for a cheap thrill.  Thursday night I met a hottie (I’d say she’s an HB8) and we really hit it off.  Things went so well I decided to cut it short and make her “want it more” by telling her I had to go but I’d see her tomorrow (we made plans then and there).

So next day we hang out for a couple drinks, it’s cool, and then got together again (at my place) Saturday night.  Next thing you know, we end up in a crazy-ass makeout session in my bed that goes until 7:00 AM.  She left, then I went to bed for a couple hours.  As you’d expect, I was in bed pretty early last night, then woke up at 5:00 this AM to a text from her: “I’m thinking we shouldn’t see each other anymore.”

Now, thinking to myself with a half-chuckle “Boy, THIS is gonna be good…” I texted her back “What brings this on?”  I’ll spare you the play-by-play and summarize with: turns out she has a boyfriend, she felt bad, she confessed her liaison with me to both him and me, she had been bored and horny when she met me and was looking for a good time but hadn’t planned on liking me so much, which was why she wanted to confess the truth to me, and if only she was single, etc.

In her explanation (a half-ass one if I ever read one) I got a bit offended, and I asked her “So would your boyfriend also forgive you if you confessed you wish you were single?” She replied “I’m sure he would.” I then wrote “I feel bad for the predicament he’s in.” After which she pretty much told me to F-off.  I have to admit, it bugged me a little.

Overall, this was well-played on my student’s part.  I would, however, add a couple things.  First let me ask: for what it’s worth, was she good in bed?  As long as she wasn’t a weak lay, ya know….

Now, I don’t think her explanation was “half-ass.”  She came right out and admitted she had been out for a good time, and in my student she found it.  She also seems to have no real qualms about playing around on her man.

It speaks to her character.  I’ve had women admit to me that they cheat on every boyfriend they have.  My response: “Why would I want to be with you then?  You just came out and admitted, in advance, you’d be unfaithful to me.”

I’m also pretty sure this pretty chick didn’t “pretty much” tell him to F-off.  I’m not a betting man, but I’ll wager a handsome sum the text read more like “Fuck off asshole, and don’t ever contact me again.” Because my student let her know in exactly so many words that he was onto her little game, and he accurately called her out on her behavior and now the spotlight burned her a little.

Look: when this happens to YOU, remember this: you met her, you got some, it’s all good, now let it go. Lots of women out there actually ARE single and ready to mingle.  A better one is waiting. Now what in the name of Becky’s bloomers are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. What was missing from my student’s reaction?  I’ll tell you what: oh, yeah, he was a little offended and disappointed.  BUT his world didn’t drop out from under him, he wasn’t crushed or discouraged, and he didn’t freak out either on her or the world in general.  Hell, he was more curious to see what story she’d come up with, then worried about “losing” this cheat or worrying “what did he do wrong.”

How would YOU like that THAT mindset?  Click here to learn how to get it.

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

Another so-called “axiom” that I can’t STAND… yet another example of how smart men nonetheless get socially programmed into Average Frustrated Chumps (AFCs) is this:

“Nice guys finish last.”

So, if I’m following this, women claim (as reinforced by the romance industry) that women want sweet, sensitive, NICE guys… because they, too, are programmed that they’re “supposed” to… but deep down, they want a “bad boy” or even a “jerk” because supposedly they’re more “exciting.”

People: you can’t have it both ways.

For this one student of mine, being a “bad boy” does not come naturally to him.  He’s charming, and he’s got girl-getting game.  But he thinks something’s “missing” – namely, that “bad boy” persona that he is convinced is the cooter-soaking “cinch” that will have him beating off the babes with a stick…as opposed to…well…you get the picture.

Here’s where this student thinks he’s stuck…

What happens in my own seduction process is that sooner or later, something happens and women decide I fall in the “nice guy” category. I don’t do the “AFC” thing – I do not attach excess meaning to any one woman I’m sarging.  I don’t put up with games or nonsense, and I clearly position myself as “the prize” (limited availability).

Some reason though I end up as the guy they want as the “boyfriend” and not the fling.  So bottom line, women tend to take more time before hopping in the sack with me because they see me as “boyfriend material” rather than a “disposable fling.”  Maybe if I was more of a “bad boy,” the woman would show me her “bad girl” side.

Wow. So women think you’re a prize catch?  What a terrible problem to have!

Seriously though, I think there are ways to approach this without having to reinvent yourself as a character from an early Marlon Brando movie.

Perhaps you simply need to better structure her expectations from the beginning.  As in, not seeing her more than once a week (instead of “always being there”). Not allowing yourself to be available for large chunks of time (so she sees you as a “prize” she needs to work for, rather than the doormat who’s always on her front step). Or, simply, better screening to find women who really are only looking for flings, if that’s what you want.

Or you may just have to stop being such a champ in the sack that she decides you MUST be a “keeper” and tries to hoard you for herself, ONLY!

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. It’s true both ways: “bad boys” can’t pull off a “nice guy” act anywhere as convincingly as a genuine Nice Guy.  What if, instead of trying to be something you’re not, you had a “stealth charisma” that was subtly attractive, completely undetectable, and utterly independent of any external validation from anyone?  Click here to learn how to get it, starting now.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

A major challenge facing almost every smart man comes, at one point or another on his Seduction journey, when he is interested in a particular hottie who “runs hot and cold.”

One minute she’s all excited about getting together (giving you a chance to get her all hot and bothered and enjoy some crazy wild sex with her)… but in the blink of an eye, she cancels meetings, leaves messages at weird times when she knows you can’t answer, and then doesn’t answer or reply when you call back.

This student is currently getting his knob twisted in the wrong way by just such a woman:

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Ross, I have a bit of a problem. I have met a married woman who I made some plans with a week ago for this upcoming weekend. We were going to get together at my place on Friday afternoon and again on Sunday for the playoffs game – her treat. She said she would call to verify early in the week, and we’d go to a local club to watch the game. She said “hopefully I won’t get too nervous that someone will see me (at the game).”

Anyway, she called and left a message yesterday morning w/ no mention of our plans and said she’d call back. I called her back and left a message in the afternoon which she hasn’t returned. Obviously, we never got together.

When she was at my place once before, I was running all sorts of patterns with her and she was REALLY into it and then she got a call from her husband and got cold feet. I tried relaxing her, and did so to some extent but didn’t push the issue. Since then, we have not gotten together (she then cancelled plans we made subsequently), but this weekend seemed right b/c he was out of town and it was her idea to get together.

I want to stay out of a mindset within her of “cancelled plans” so she doesn’t continue to support this notion of me. Any suggestions on how to handle or shift this frame would be appreciated.

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Ev-ery time someone comes to me with a story like this, I start by asking one basic, important question:

“Is she the ONLY succulent, amazing woman on the whole freaking planet???”

Am I missing something here? When you were together before, she wasn’t completely available to you, especially after she got that phone call. She’s cancelled on you twice now. And you’re thinking she may be in a mindset of cancelling on you whenever?!?!?!?!

So clue me in here. Why, on earth, would you want to continue this? Do you live in downtown Sausageville where there are absolutely no available and willing hot women?

Don’t let this cheating married woman twist your faucet knob by running hot and cold. Drop her NOW. Let her husband, or some AFC, put up with her crap. You have better things (and women) to do, pal.

I permit you one cold shower, IF she’s THAT hot that you need it. But I assure you I’ve f@@ked women who put her to shame in looks, personality, and everything else.

So actually, forget the cold shower. Take a normal shower and put on your best clothes and favourite cologne that drives the women crazy. Get your Seduction a## back out in the field and find a new hottie who will twist your knob the RIGHT way and then share a HOT (in more ways than one) shower with you.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. What if you had an effective, sure way to develop and nurture a “stealth charisma” that was subtly attractive, completely undetectable, and utterly independent of any external validation from anyone… so that you no longer let yourself be subject to the whims of one flakey woman who’s obviously just using you for a cheap thrill anyway?

Within the 3 DVDs and 3 CDs of my powerful Nail Your Inner Game System, you learn techniques to quiet and clear your mind, for maximum learning and empowered perception so you don’t get your faucet knob twisted anymore.

Claim your copy – and the RIGHT kind of “hot and MORE HOT” – today!