Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Have you ever found yourself shying away from a Sarge because you worried that she won’t find you attractive? Well, when you “hold back” out of fear that she will shoot you down over your looks, then you’re ripping two people off:

1. HER, because you’re not giving HER the chance to decide if you’re the guy who will take her to new heights of excitement and pulsating pleasure, and
2. YOU, because you’re denying yourself the success with the women you truly desire.

So stick with me for a minute while I’ll explain…

Why You’re C@&k-Blocking Yourself
(And Dissing All Hot Women)
By Letting Your Own Looks Getting In The Way

First, if you reek of f@@king body odor and make people gag and have snot-stains on your t-shirt, YOU ARE IN TROUBLE. Hygiene DOES matter. For goodness’ sake, take care of yourself!

Now that being said, asking if “looks matter” is like asking “do strength and size matter in a fight?”

Sure… all other things being equal. The stronger, bigger guy with equal motivation and skill and determination will almost certainly beat the weaker, smaller guy… UNLESS THE SMALLER GUY PICKS UP A WEAPON AND GETS IN THE FIRST GOOD F@@KING HIT!

Most of the time, if you aren’t (in your own mind, perhaps) fabulously great looking, BUT you take good care of yourself, a woman will be neutral to your look. She won’t rule you out but she won’t be feeling any butterflies or pangs of irresistible arousal EITHER. That’s where your girl-getting game comes in…to create those feelings.

Look: I wish I looked like a movie star. But I don’t. I am who I am. So, am I going to cry in my f@@king chicken soup about it? Or am I going to use everything I DO have to get where I want to go?

Present yourself as best you can physically, take good care of yourself, wear clothes that fit you well RIGHT NOW. Stop c@&k-blocking yourself until you “lose a few” or “get your teeth fixed” or whatever excuse you’ve been making, and instead crank up your girl-getting game and you’ll find out that chicks will, in fact, dig you.

The women are waiting… so what in jumping Jenny’s panties are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

What happens when all of your effort with a woman, or multiple women go to s&$t?

The other day, I was doing an interview with an instructor in this field who is one of the few guys I actually respect. (When the interview goes live on his site, I’ll be sure to let you know).

But I was sharing with him the reality, that even I, having taught and practiced this stuff for years, don’t always get what I want with women.

Contrary to the brags and bluffs and claims of the others in this field, I am human. I have all the frustrations you do; I just have them a lot less often.

But more importantly, I have a good method of dealing with them.

How I Handled My Most Recent Frustrating And Disappointing Experience
With A Very Sweet, Hot, Sexy “China” Babe

Here is a recent case in point: I met a woman at my most recent LA seminar and it was clear she was attracted to me.. And I was attracted to her: hot, fun, smart, just how I like them.

We wind up hanging out two Sundays ago, and I had a great time with her, but this girl was clearly uncertain about how she felt with what I do for a living. She kept going back and forth between being clearly into me, and then bombarding me with questions. And try as I might to defuse it, I wound up getting NOWHERE with her.

Wait a second, you may be thinking. What kind of seduction guru brags about NOT getting somewhere with a woman?

Listen: the reality that no other “guru” will share with you, is that dealing with women, no matter how good your skill set, will occasionally feel a bit crazy. Women being the lovely chaotic and complex people that they are, can suddenly turn cold, display contradictory behavior, and behave pretty nuts from time to time.

Unless you have a disciplined method for dealing with the s&$t when it hits the fan, it will wind up sticking. Mostly right to you.

When this happens, it’s crucial you have a disciplined method, in place and ready, to rapidly handle the confusion and frustration and not let it color your sense of possibility in the world.

You can learn more about how to intelligently handle frustration and confusion, and convert them rapidly to clarity and informed motivation and right action, right here.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Did my experience with this girl sting? You bet. I laughed a lot with this lovely lady and really had a fantastic time. Remember, I may have mad skills, but I feel everything that you do, and I understand what these situations are like. That is why I feel uniquely qualified to help you deal with it.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

In my direct teaching work with students, a question that frequently comes up is from a smart guy who wonders if he let a “sure thing” just walk away. He’ll encounter a smoking-hot, sweet-smelling hottie, some things will happen like snuggling, making out, etc. He knows he could probably score a home run if he took his best swing at bat, but for whatever reason, he walks.

This thought-provoking e-mail is a case in point:

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Ross, I’m wondering if I missed an opportunity to get laid!

The other day I was flying home from Las Vegas. Normally when I fly I like to read a book, take a nap, and be alone, but my seatmate, Felicia, was really cute and open. She’s from Phoenix and married. I ran some patterns and did some anchoring by touching her arm and face, which she seemed to enjoy. After while she wanted to nap. She tried to get comfortable but kept stirring. So I nudged her and said “Felicia….” as I lifted up the arm rest and moved her close so she could cuddle with me while she napped. I held her close and enjoyed her perfume and her warm body next to me.

After the flight, before I left her at baggage claim, I thanked her for the best plane ride EVER, hugged and kissed her, and handed her my card and said “If I can ever be of service you….be well, Felicia” and walked away from her without another word. Part of it was because her in-laws were picking her up and I didn’t want a scene, but I enjoyed the ability to Sarge, then walk away from a scenario that I know isn’t worth my time.

I wanted to leave her with the memory of the plane ride and let HER wonder about ME, knowing she holds the key to me if she chooses to turn it. On the other hand, I am wondering if I missed out and I should have “gone for it” anyway. Did I let it walk away?

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You’re right – you won’t hear from her again – but that’s not the point. You were able to Sarge and have an enjoyable experience with a sweet-smelling hottie who was open and willing.

Okay, you didn’t get laid. Sounds like you didn’t try. And if she’s “petting the kitty” thinking about you and the plane ride now, that’s not the same as you doing it for her. But I’ll wager it felt good having her snuggling up to you, didn’t it? I bet every guy on the airplane who saw you wished he was a “stud” like you.

Remember: when you practice Speed Seduction® in your pursuit of the women you desire, it’s not about succeeding with the woman you are Sarging on right now. It’s about honing and mastering your skills to claim your results on your next 10 Sarges. If you ask me, you should have kissed her and made out with her, but you didn’t. This experience prepared you for next time this happens – and in your pursuit of girl-getting mastery, it WILL.

So again, you didn’t poke her, but you know THIS plane ride sure beat a poke in the eye!

Peace and piece,

RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

You’ve heard the saying “beauty is only skin deep.” The same applies to seduction too. There’s much more to it, or else themes, patterning, and other arousal techniques would not be necessary.

Many smart guys like you report to me that they’ve been bored to tears by goddesses-on-legs – she was unbelievably hot, yet the guy just couldn’t tap into her. I’ve also had students use phrases like “looks-wise she’s about a 7, and she’s sort of chubby – but in a way I think is really hot … and oh man, is she fun to f@@k and hang out with!”

The reason I bring it up is because of this note I received the other day:

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I have a great attitude and have success in meeting lots of women. I am fit and fairly good looking, but my success comes strictly from attitude. I smile and hold in my attitude that I am happy, and women pick up on it. It must be working as some of the “5s” and “6s” get blunt and tell ME I would do them a favor by scratching their “itch”. I started slowly over a 5-year period to get where I am today. Started with “3s” and “4s” and worked my way up to “10s.”

These “hot” women want more than just a few hops in the sack, and almost act like they want me exclusively. I get them in the moment, and instead of being grateful for a great evening, want MORE.

I have more fun with “7s” and “8s” as I find the hot “10″ women are merely beautiful on the outside. Maybe in California this is common, but it’s not here on the East Coast. I am hoping to get a better idea of why my situation seems to warp the hotties and works better on their lesser sisters.

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Recently on my blog, I’ve covered the topics of screening and categorization of the women you meet and Sarge on, as you sort through the hordes of hotties waiting for you to succeed with the women YOU really desire.

Being a Speed Seduction® master means that you create a world where success with women is who you are and what you do. For reasons unique to your experiences, there are certain kinds of women (looks, personality, and other factors) that uniquely appeal to you. Could it be that these “7s” and “8s” are really the “10s” who will consistently rock your world?

Remember that with Speed Seduction® you use the information, vibe, and feedback she gives you to craft your patterning and banter to connect YOU with her erotic desires, wants and needs. So, as you Sarge on more “10s”, pay closer attention to the information they give you, as this will help you warp fewer of them and succeed with more of them.

And more success with hotter women sure beats a poke in the eye!

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. It sounds to me like you need to first and foremost spot everything and anything you’ve done right in every situation, so you develop an intelligent and informed motivation – not ignoring what needs to be fixed when it comes to scoring with hotties, but first and foremost seeing what you are doing well with women.

In my Nail Your Inner Game System, I give you a simple 20 minute process you’ll use, at the end of every Sarge, successful, screwed up, or those “in-between” ones that you really can’t quite figure out! This process will have you turning around even the most difficult Sarges and, get you back in the field doing things right, with easy, effortless confidence!

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Dear Speed Seduction (R) Student,

There isn’t a whole hell of a lot to do in Vacaville, CA. I know, because this is where I’m spending the last days of the 4th of July weekend.

Here is the scoop: this weekend I thought I’d get the hell out of Marina del Rey and take a long drive to visit some friends up in northern California. And also, because the Marina is swamped with 50,000 tourists who destroy my neighborhood as they party, litter, and defecate all over the place while watching our award winning(and tax dollar burning) fireworks show.

But also because I wanted to have plenty of time to think about my beloved father, Irv, who died a little over 2 weeks ago. Somehow driving through Interstate 5, which is mostly desert, helps me think-there really is not much to see on that journey.

Losing my Dad is a very big deal, you see, and I wanted to think about what his life meant, what he contributed to me that lives on, what passed on with him etc. etc.

But headed back to LA, my lovely SAAB blew a radiator hose on I-80, and I slid off the freeway to a lonely road that quite literally was in the middle of nowhere; it might as well have been the intersection of Bumfuck and TwilightZone.

Now, I should say the folks here in Vacaville are very friendly to stranded Seduction Gurus by the side of the road-in the 45 minutes I waited for the tow-truck, 4 different cars stopped to offer assistance. The last one was a van occupied by a woman and her teen-age daughter who insisted on waiting with me until Triple A arrived.

It seems, you see, that I was right near a state park that is frequented by mountain lions. Just what I need; to be eaten by a big pussy on the outskirts of Vacaville, CA.

But you know what?

Vacaville isn’t that bad. Sure, there is virtually nothing to do here compared to the excitement and endless stimulation of LA. And there certainly isn’t the parade of gorgeous women you see in Los Angeles either

But the folks here are just the same as the folks anywhere in the world. They have hopes and dreams. Fears and expectations. And I’m sure the guys here are as wanting to attract and enjoy hot women(if there were any) as guys are wanting to attract and enjoy hot women all over the world.

And they are probably, percentage-wise, almost equally clueless and in desperate need of my help. If they knew what even my most newbie students knew about how to meet and attract hot women, they’d be cleaning up with all the hotties in town…er…well, they’d be cleaning up with what passes for hot in Vacaville instead of relying on whatever dumb pick up lines or dating tips they’ve been using.

So what am I going to do here in Vacaville until the repair shop opens tomorrow morning? I’m going to do what I set out to do.

I’m going to think a lot about my father and his life. If I see any hot women worthy of it, I’ll practice my sarging skills(hey, nothing wrong with a little c*nt-teasing now and again).

And if any of my students are in the Sacramento/SF/Oakland area and you want to meet up with me, tonight, Sunday, July 6, I’ll be in the lobby of the Hampton Inn right off of I-80 and we’ll hold a meet and greet.

And raise a glass to the memory of my Dad, who use to take my little brother Steve and I on silly-ass road trips not too different from this one when we were just kids.

Peace and piece, RJ

P.S. Like I said, guys everywhere need help with women; as the tow truck driver was taking me to the hotel, we passed the one open “club” on Main Street in Vacaville, where the guys were standing outside, smoking cigarettes, trying to work up the courage to talk to the girls outside who were smoking cigarettes. If only they had my Gold Walk Up DVD so they could meet women anytime anywhere and never worry about what to say. And yes, goddamn it, that was shameless plugs. Upkeeping Swedish cars(and girlfriends) is expensive as hell.

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My Ten Steamy Days With A Swedish Sex Kitten, Part III



Were it not for one crucial principle for success with women that I exercised with Pernilla back in London, none of the wonderful experiences that followed would ever have happened.



She never would have come out to LA, I never would have discovered how deeply wonderful she truly is; what an amazing and delightful surprise she continues to be in my life.

Now, many of you have gone Mr. Nilsson bananas over my teaching of phonetic ambiguity, linguistic patterns of speaking, etc. etc. etc.



And while all of those things are, in the proper context, important components of what I teach, the far more important aspects are about the attitudes and vibes that make men attractive to women.

There are actually four vibes/attitudes that make men attractive to women, but for purposes of this blog post, I’m only going to discuss one-the crucial one-in this case. And that’s being dominant and a strong leader.



Let me define my terms: I did not say “domineering”. “Domineering” goes beyond setting a strong lead and into the realm of having a rude disregard for the needs, feelings and concerns of others. As well, “domineering” calls to mind and incorporates elements of being punitive, and using negative emotions like shame, guilt and fear.



So to make it clear: I detest humans of any gender who walk through the world like this. I have a bit of compassion for them too, because most people who behave this way really don’t know any better; it was what was modeled for them as children, so this is the emotional filter through which they see their world.

But someone who is dominant-a leader- sets the direction and the path, and at the same time knows how to listen and discern the concerns, needs and feelings of those under his lead and his protection. He weighs them both and from their decides how to proceed.



I have said this over and over and over to my students: anyone under your influence is also under your protection, and you have a duty to protect that is commeasurate with your influence.

In Pernilla’s case, the crucial moment actually came during my London seminar, where, as you will recall, she had attended along with some German guy who invited her.



At one point, I called for female volunteer to come up on stage for me to work with and demonstrate some of the language tools I teach. I pointed to Pernilla and asked her to come up.

She turned beet red, and strongly but politely said “no”.



At that point, one of my more vocal students, an Irish guy who had some “boundary” issues, turned around and started cajoling her. “C’mon..come up! Come on!”





Some of the other students joined in, and at that point, I put my foot down.

I told them all to knock it off immediately. “It’s her choice” I said. “I don’t brow-beat anyone to come up her and I’ll be damned if I allow any of you to brow beat one of my guests. I’m not of a mind to give a gift to someone who isn’t of a mind to eagerly accept, so her answer is “no”and that’s it”.

And I meant every word of it; as my guest, Pernilla was under my protection. While it would have served my outcome as a teacher to have her on stage(and I believe she would have had a great experience), as the person who was in the lead, I had an obligation to protect her and to respect her wish not to be on stage.

And I also really meant the part about offering a gift; I did truly believe that the opportunity to learn about her feelings, her imagination, and what she could (and later would) experience with me was an amazing gift. You don’t have to sell a gift; you simply offer it. If you have to sell it, it ceases to be a gift and becomes, at best, a bonus.



Later, when she was out here in LA, we discussed that moment, as I properly intuited that this had been a big turning point in her trusting me. She said that, at that moment, she felt and saw that I was willing to stand up for her against the entire class, even if it meant I couldn’t give the demonstration that I had wanted to, and at that moment, she knew I’d continue to protect her and that she could trust me.

I didn’t shame her, or try to persuade her in any fashion, or even ask more than once. I made the offer and let her truly have her choice. But I did it in a way that demonstrated that however she chose to open and learn with and from me, I’d continue to protect her and keep her safe, even if it momentarily meant I wasn’t going to get what I had planned or wanted.

Thank God for that choice. Because Pernilla has turned out to be a wonderful, joyous, live-affirming surprise who continues to surprise me. And since I know for a fact she’s reading this blog, let me just say, “M., I love you. And I’m very happy you’ve come into my life.”

Peace and piece,



RJ
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The girl in the video is NOT Pernilla, but I thought I’d treat you to a view of a lovely Swedish girl!

Dear Speed Seduction Student,

If you are an “older” guy then trying to “date” younger women is the dumbest, dumb-ass, idiotic thing you could even attempt to do.



Listen: I just got this email from a guy who likes younger gals. Read on:

“Like you I am a middle aged man who very much appreciates younger women, may I dare say even some of the coeds at my old alma mater (USC), simply because they are more visually appealing to me as well as having less emotional baggage. But I am worried they will think I am a bit of a pervert for following through on pickups due to the age difference. Too bad, I think they miss out on the pleasures of being made love to by a mature man. (Amazingly, I hear about a lot of twenty year old guys who fantasize about having sex with middle aged women!) Do you have any techniques to overcome their initial resistance to dating a man that is old enough to be their father? Mike”

Now, the problem with this guy is he is thinking in terms of “dating” instead of getting sexual without dating. The problem with “dating” is that young women are going to put him through all of their checklists and social approval requirements-what will her friends think, etc etc.

Never ask a young woman out on a “date”. Instead intrigue her with how you capture and lead her imagination and emotions, how you understand her inner world of desire, fantasy, her need to surrender to powerful experiences, escape etc. Learn how here:

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Hang out, meet for coffee-no problem. Ideal. But get the image of picking her up, driving to a restaurant etc out of your mind.

I currently have a 19 year old and a 23 year old in my rotation. I’ve not spent $5 aggregate total. Neither should you.

Peace and piece,

RJ

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