Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Ever had it happen where for some reason, you just can’t stop thinking about a particular chick?

Like, you spend hours visioning what your next meeting (or even phone call) will be like, exactly what you’re going to say?

Then, you find yourself agonizing over the right time of day you should call her? Suddenly worried that she might see what you put on your Facebook wall and fretting that she might interpret your status a certain way (that keeps your willy dry)?

Normally I ask, when I get questions like this I ask, first, foremost, uppermost, and important-most,

Is she the ONLY succulent, amazing woman
on the whole freaking planet???

However. in this case I think you realize that she isn’t. It’s just that there’s something inside of you keeping you fixated on this one chick.

First, you’re probably placing too much importance on this one chick. Have you f@@ked her yet? (It’s a yes or no question; either your Junior Explorer has explored her woman cave, or it hasn’t.)

Next, define “importance”. Importance as in sexually wanting her, or importance is in her being someone you connect with on an emotional/caring level?

I’d be VERY careful about connecting too strongly with women, emotionally, unless you are well into f@@king them. Most guys underestimate their need to care for someone and emotionally connect with.

A lot of times guys find their “stuckness” can be exacerbated by being confused by that woman’s emotional 180s, fluctuations between wanting you and pushing you away, contradictory signals, sudden loss of interest and other deeply frustrating and seemingly (to you) irrational actions. Sound familiar?

Sometimes I feel I stand at the fulcrum between two things: the living wall of fire that it is my lust and the flood of water that is my compassion and my need to connect and care. Can make things at times confusing, yes?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Have you ever found yourself shying away from a Sarge because you worried that she won’t find you attractive? Well, when you “hold back” out of fear that she will shoot you down over your looks, then you’re ripping two people off:

1. HER, because you’re not giving HER the chance to decide if you’re the guy who will take her to new heights of excitement and pulsating pleasure, and
2. YOU, because you’re denying yourself the success with the women you truly desire.

So stick with me for a minute while I’ll explain…

Why You’re C@&k-Blocking Yourself
(And Dissing All Hot Women)
By Letting Your Own Looks Getting In The Way

First, if you reek of f@@king body odor and make people gag and have snot-stains on your t-shirt, YOU ARE IN TROUBLE. Hygiene DOES matter. For goodness’ sake, take care of yourself!

Now that being said, asking if “looks matter” is like asking “do strength and size matter in a fight?”

Sure… all other things being equal. The stronger, bigger guy with equal motivation and skill and determination will almost certainly beat the weaker, smaller guy… UNLESS THE SMALLER GUY PICKS UP A WEAPON AND GETS IN THE FIRST GOOD F@@KING HIT!

Most of the time, if you aren’t (in your own mind, perhaps) fabulously great looking, BUT you take good care of yourself, a woman will be neutral to your look. She won’t rule you out but she won’t be feeling any butterflies or pangs of irresistible arousal EITHER. That’s where your girl-getting game comes in…to create those feelings.

Look: I wish I looked like a movie star. But I don’t. I am who I am. So, am I going to cry in my f@@king chicken soup about it? Or am I going to use everything I DO have to get where I want to go?

Present yourself as best you can physically, take good care of yourself, wear clothes that fit you well RIGHT NOW. Stop c@&k-blocking yourself until you “lose a few” or “get your teeth fixed” or whatever excuse you’ve been making, and instead crank up your girl-getting game and you’ll find out that chicks will, in fact, dig you.

The women are waiting… so what in jumping Jenny’s panties are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

When you pay a woman a direct compliment, you may well be buying yourself a one-way ticket to Dry Willy City rather than a pass to the all-you-can-eat buffet of erotic desire.

Direct compliments (such as “Wow, you really look good today” and “You have the most beautiful, warm, inviting eyes I’ve ever seen”) may not go over well because:

• She doesn’t really believe it about herself;
• She has reason to believe that you don’t really mean it and are just saying it to get in her pants;
• She has reason to believe you mean it, she believes it about herself too, but it just doesn’t impress her or speak to her in a way that results in her feeling positive about it. She is too used to hearing it directly, so it has lost impact. She’s heard it all before;
• Because of how she perceives your status or your degree of familiarity with her, she doesn’t believe you should be saying it.

The Power Of Implication And How It Says So Much More…
Especially Because You Don’t Directly Say It

A key point that I drive home again and again is the power of implied compliments. The implied compliment states something about women who have the qualities you are complimenting her about… and then IMPLIES by virtue of the fact that you are addressing her that she must fit into that group.

This works because making sense of what is implied is an active process. The listener has to put together the thought/connect the dots on her own. The thought is, “Oh…he is saying he thinks that about me! How sweet!”

Or, “Oh, he is saying he isn’t sure that is true about me…I better prove to him that it is!”

Here’s an example.

“It’s just that I admire women with really strong fashion sense, so I had to say hello” is saying the following:

1. I admire women who have strong fashion sense.
2. When I admire women like that I am compelled to say hello.
3. I am compelled to say hello to you.

The implication is:

She has really strong fashion sense.

See how this works?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

My recent posts on women who “run hot and cold” have struck quite a nerve.

I’m getting a ton of e-mails and responses, so I know this is an issue that many smart guys like you, including those in my Speed Seduction® Coaching Program, need assistance getting handled.

Now, talk about “hot and cold” – this next letter comes from a student who is Sarging on a woman who goes from naming the kids and planning weekends with the in-laws to not returning his calls, just like that… and he just recently met her!

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The woman in particular is an attractive, 25 yr old small-business owner who seemed to open up very quickly. I met her friends and family right away and we spent a lot of time together. She talked about children’s names and eluded to “our in-laws.” She almost disappeared July 4th and within a week of extreme distance said “you’re not like anyone I’ve ever dated and I don’t know why I’m pushing away what I truly want.”

She bought me gifts and a card the second time we went out, text me many times throughout the day and seemed so sweet, compassionate and just wonderfully feminine.

I’m not sure what went wrong but it sucks, bad. What do you guys think? Did I kill the attraction?

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First of all, what does “open up very quickly” mean? DID YOU F@@K HER? DID YOU F@@K HER? DID YOU F@@K HER? (That’s a yes or no question – you did or you didn’t.)

Frequently in the “Steaming Hot Seduction Secrets” ezines I hammer the point that “dating is what you do with women you’re already sleeping with!” Why?

Because when the interaction turns to “dating,” women instinctively pull out their “checklist” of what the “perfect man” is and start rating whether you are “her type.” If you have not yet connected with her emotionally and set the “anchors” that make any “checklist” irrelevant, you don’t want to be “dating” her.

For the same reason, I’m not in a hurry to meet family and friends. It puts too much “meaning” on things, and immediately that often triggers a woman’s “is he REALLY the one” fractionation / emotional interruption mechanism.

Now, she’s talking about kids’ names and in-laws that early on? That means she is trying out that kind of thinking because she thinks it is how she SHOULD be thinking instead of wanting to go out with her girlfriends, get laid, have fun, etc. She’s trying to convince herself.

Right now, you’re in knots from her “running hot and cold” (the gifts and cards, followed by the “extreme distance”) because you are hooked on the validation and attention. So when she pulls it away, you freak out, get clingy, drive her away, instead of being aware of that response as it first arises and being able to redirect.

It’s time to break the “hot and cold” cycle caused by your need for validation by this (or ANY) woman, and find the woman (or women) who will just want consistent, steaming-hot fun.

Peace and piece,

RJ

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Claim yours now, and stop letting her “give it and take it away” – for good!