Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

One of the most important components of Seduction is the “vibe” you put out there – meaning, how women perceive who you are and what you give to the world when you approach them.

There will always be women who are simply unable or unwilling, for reasons that are not yours to figure out, to accept the gifts you offer.

I’m frequently asked: what is the right way to handle women behaving toward you in a very rude manner?

For example, blatantly insulting you while you both wait in line at a pizza shop for no reason? Or being rude to you as if she’s testing you, or as if she has more of a right to exist than you do?

First, realize that anyone who gets rude or angry at your genuine, decent behaviour has a problem. It is about THEM, not YOU.

Here are three ways you can powerfully handle the situation and turn it to your advantage:

1. Use humour. Shake your head, and say, “Wow..I hope you get over the guy who really f@@ked you up…do you spell that “Daddy” or “Papa”?
2. Just hold compassion for them as a person in pain and say nothing, or say, “Wow. I’m sorry I interrupted you while you were being miserable.” (Credit to Stephane Hemon of ideaGasms for that one!)
3. Challenge them to something better, say,“Wow..what a rude, cold way to PRETEND to act”. Emphasize the PRETEND.

A couple months ago, I was at Whole Foods and approached a woman with one of my tried-and-true pick-up lines – one that has worked for me hundreds of times.

Her response (with dirty look and loud disgusted sigh): “What the F@@k do YOU want?”

Me: “You know, I know what your boyfriend looks like.”

Her: “Really now? What DOES my boyfriend look like, since you know it ALL?”

Me: “I see his face in the mirror every morning when I shave.”

Her (really angry and almost shouting, not getting it): “Are you in my bathroom, m^#$*rf@@ker? What the…. F@@K?!?!?!?”

Me: (points to her, laughs hysterically, and then in mock drawl) “Well then…. looks like…. ‘Exit, Stage Left!’ for me!” (walks away, not concerned that she might be giving me the finger behind my back)

Again: when you don’t take crappy behaviour from women (and people in general, for that matter) personally, it doesn’t happen as much. But it still happens. When you approach women with integrity and good intentions… the spiteful behavior of a few meanies won’t trip your game.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Have you experienced the feeling of knowing exactly what to do or say when you envision yourself powerfully commanding and mastering any life situation in your mind… but when you’re actually in the situation, you freeze up, “forget your lines,” and take no action at all because you suddenly have no idea what to do?

Not too long ago, I got a note from a student who can easily envision what happens when he walks up to women and then gets them all hot and bothered for him.

But when he is out in public surrounded by approachable hotties who have not yet had the chance to say YES to who he is and what he gives to the world, he feels afraid and can’t get himself moving and talking to women in the real world.

Here’s my answer:

I think the problem here is you are imagining a MOUNTAIN of work and meaning rolled into one small action (the Sarge).

In other words, I think every time you see a woman you want, you approach it on the basis of your ENTIRE GIRL-GETTING GAME being on the line. Thus, simply going up and talking to her becomes (for you) one huge, massive, impossible and measureless labor.

What if you just viewed her as ONE girl? ONE chance to learn one small piece of a skill?

I think what you are experiencing is NOT fear. It’s OVERWHELM.

When you were a baby and learning to walk, you didn’t stack all that meaning on ONE step, did you? You took it one step at a time.

Also, you are hanging to certainty. Rather than accept that you simply don’t know what her response will be, you cling to the certainty that she WILL reject you!

It’s funny: humans would rather project the CERTAINTY of failure and pain, rather than embrace the uncertainty of NOT knowing!

Rather than aiming at confidence, try aiming at neutrality. Neutrality doesn’t mean projecting that you KNOW you can do it and you KNOW she will drop to her knees and blow you.

Neutrality means sticking to facts:

1. I don’t know what is going to happen.
2. I don’t like that I don’t know.
3. Let’s go find out and see; maybe I will have fun and I CERTAINLY will learn SOMETHING.

Even if you learn that it was harder than you thought, that STILL is a learning that you can use to change. Or you might learn that your feet feel really good when you walk up. Or you might learn that ONE part of your body actually can relax and feel good while all the rest feels shaky!

You can ALWAYS, ALWAYS learn something.

Fact is, you don’t know WHAT you will learn.

But you CAN be certain about one thing: If you don’t get moving, you certainly WILL remain frustrated and alone! I GUARANTEE THAT!

So maybe you ought to trade that GUARANTEE for some uncertainty and see what you can learn. ONE STEP AT A TIME. Because you only learn ONE STEP AT A TIME ANYWAY! So take a step and learn whatever.

Remember: one step forward in your Sarge is one step forward toward getting laid. Stand still and you won’t get closer to getting laid; take a step and who knows – that might put you in front of the scandalously sexy babe who has been wondering when you would finally get around to making your move.

If you ask me, that sure beats a poke in the eye!

Peace and piece,

RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

In my direct teaching work with students, a question that frequently comes up is from a smart guy who wonders if he let a “sure thing” just walk away. He’ll encounter a smoking-hot, sweet-smelling hottie, some things will happen like snuggling, making out, etc. He knows he could probably score a home run if he took his best swing at bat, but for whatever reason, he walks.

This thought-provoking e-mail is a case in point:

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Ross, I’m wondering if I missed an opportunity to get laid!

The other day I was flying home from Las Vegas. Normally when I fly I like to read a book, take a nap, and be alone, but my seatmate, Felicia, was really cute and open. She’s from Phoenix and married. I ran some patterns and did some anchoring by touching her arm and face, which she seemed to enjoy. After while she wanted to nap. She tried to get comfortable but kept stirring. So I nudged her and said “Felicia….” as I lifted up the arm rest and moved her close so she could cuddle with me while she napped. I held her close and enjoyed her perfume and her warm body next to me.

After the flight, before I left her at baggage claim, I thanked her for the best plane ride EVER, hugged and kissed her, and handed her my card and said “If I can ever be of service you….be well, Felicia” and walked away from her without another word. Part of it was because her in-laws were picking her up and I didn’t want a scene, but I enjoyed the ability to Sarge, then walk away from a scenario that I know isn’t worth my time.

I wanted to leave her with the memory of the plane ride and let HER wonder about ME, knowing she holds the key to me if she chooses to turn it. On the other hand, I am wondering if I missed out and I should have “gone for it” anyway. Did I let it walk away?

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You’re right – you won’t hear from her again – but that’s not the point. You were able to Sarge and have an enjoyable experience with a sweet-smelling hottie who was open and willing.

Okay, you didn’t get laid. Sounds like you didn’t try. And if she’s “petting the kitty” thinking about you and the plane ride now, that’s not the same as you doing it for her. But I’ll wager it felt good having her snuggling up to you, didn’t it? I bet every guy on the airplane who saw you wished he was a “stud” like you.

Remember: when you practice Speed Seduction® in your pursuit of the women you desire, it’s not about succeeding with the woman you are Sarging on right now. It’s about honing and mastering your skills to claim your results on your next 10 Sarges. If you ask me, you should have kissed her and made out with her, but you didn’t. This experience prepared you for next time this happens – and in your pursuit of girl-getting mastery, it WILL.

So again, you didn’t poke her, but you know THIS plane ride sure beat a poke in the eye!

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. With what I teach you throughout the 7 DVDs and 11 CDS of my Speed Seduction® 3.0 System, you’ll remain in control as the effortless seduction architect of every interaction and situation who claims his results and gets the women he wants.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

I absolutely love teaching smart guys like you how to get the steaming hot women you really want without having to resort to what I call the “5 B’s” – bullying, begging, buying, B.S. or booze.

The other day on one of my twice monthly “Ask Me Anything” calls, a member of my coaching program brought up this situation and I asked him to follow it up by posting on the community forum Here is what he posted:

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Ross,

I had an interesting situation come up when I was shopping for furniture. I saw a woman who had such a major league hot body, she could have easily been a stripper or a bikini model.

I went back to the home study courses you’ve talked about before and used the strategies, such as trying to get a sense of her energy.

But there was a sales clerk attached to her. She just kept pummeling him with questions. He’d flit away for five seconds and come right back.

They had an interaction that went on for so long that I felt like I was stalking her. I was wandering from aisle to aisle and killing what time I could, but eventually I felt like I was going to get busted or give her the creeps or something so I backed off.

What do you do? Is it ever doable to interrupt an interaction with an ongoing sales purchase? How can you break into that?

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This is a situation that most guys find themselves in. They want to approach a hottie in her daily life but there’s some co-worker, sales clerk, or other business acquaintance who won’t get out of the way long enough.

Here’s something to think about. Although this chick is smokin’ hot, maybe you’re just not going to meet her today. You can hang around, and maybe the clerk will go away. Chances are, that sales clerk will be there until the time she pays for her furniture – then she’s out of there.

Meanwhile, look around you. Right now. Are there any other beautiful women in the store who are more approachable – who you could approach instead? Is there somewhere nearby (a lounge, a coffee shop) you could look? In my Gold Walk-Up DVD. I cover many types of approaches that you can use in many different situations.

Peace and piece,

Ross Jeffries
Founder, Speed Seduction®

P.S. There are many ways to get her attention at work in a way that isn’t “weird” or “stalkerish” while she’s at work. You just have to think “outside the box” (pun intended) in order to get inside her box.

In my Speed Seduction® Home Study Course, you will learn and use patterns that cover every possible problem and contingency you might encounter when you see a steaming hot woman you just have to meet, so you’ll be able to smoothly exert total power and control from start to finish in virtually any situation – wherever and however you meet her.

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