Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

So, you are in the course of Sarging and seducing a woman.  Everything seems to be going great – as far as you can tell, you’ve captured and led her interest, now you’re getting ready to buckle up for a rip-roarin, snatch-soarin’ ride on the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle.

Then, like out of nowhere, she starts flaking, going cold, losing interest.

“What happened?!?!?!” you ask yourself as you vision the cold winter sea water of a seduction-sliding-south engulfing you as things sink faster than the Titanic.

It’s Time To Take Stock, Not Slip Into Shock

Here is a “quicksand-stopping checklist” you can work through when, despite your best efforts, the seduction sizzle starts dissipating into soon-to-be-masturbatory fizzle. Learn it, and you’ll find a “jumping back in point” when you need one.

First, you can diagnose according to certain categories…

Add, Increase, Eliminate, Subtract

1. What needs to be added? Is there something you are missing entirely that needs to be put in?
2. What needs to be increased-maybe there is something you need to do more of-more repetitions, more intensity, more volume, etc.?
3. What needs to be eliminated-something needs to be removed entirely?
4. What needs to be diminished (subtracted)-ok to keep doing it, but less of it-less intense, less volume, less frequent?

Next, we need to look at levels.

1. Improve conceptual understanding. Is there a key concept or concepts you are not using or understanding?
2. Energy/vibe-do you need to correct something on the vibe/energy level?
3. Beliefs-is there something needing correction/improvement in your beliefs? Your cognitions about what moves women and what is required to bed them?
4. Tools/behavior-do you need to polish some individual tool or tools? Actions you ought to be taking but aren’t?
5. Analogs-do you need to correct body language, tonaity, volume, tempo?

Look: every girl-getting situation is different, but once you master the skills, you’ll be doing a lot more of it (girl-getting, that is).  The above is by no means an exhaustive list, but it gives some good “quick start” places to look when you’re trying to save a Sarge on the fly.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. For a life filled with vaginal victory and tight trim triumph, it’s mission-critical that you immerse yourself and master the skills.  One way is to join me at a live 3-day seminar (LA is this weekend; we have other dates and cities too – click here to learn more and book your attendance now)

P.P.S. If you can’t make it to a live seminar, or you’re just the kind of person who prefers to study in the comfort of your own home, there is an “in the box” solution – Speed Seduction® 3.0.  Click here to check it out and get your copy today!

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

I’ve dealt with the ethics of boyfriend destroying.  Today, I am going to share an actual Sarge report from a student who successfully used this technique.  Stay with me for a moment as I lay it out for you.

There’s a scintillatingly hot clerk at his local convenience store.  After seeing her and chatting her up a few times, he realized he needed to step up and claim his results.  So, on his third visit, he made his move.  Setting aside a plan to go back and say “when I was here earlier I forgot to pick up a few things” he decided instead to clearly state his intention when he saw her.

She heard what he had to say, then nicely told him she has a boyfriend.

His reponse?  “So what?  I wasn’t expecting you to LEAVE HIM FOR ME.” (Embedded command).

Then she said, “I really care about him, and he wouldn’t like it, and I just don’t do that kind of thing.”

He replied, “I really respect that. I hope someday you change your mind, and have a great day.”

And Then, HIS Day Got Much, Much Better…

At that moment, the most incredible thing happened.

She just melted. She OPENED UP she had been going through a really rough time lately, etc. He looked her in the eye and said “I’m so sorry. I know what it’s like, and things just get worse and worse no matter how hard you try. And I hope things get better for you soon.” He turned to walk away and she caught his arm and said “Wait”, wrote her phone number down and handed it to him.

The Keys To The Kingdom Are Dangling Before You

Just like the most delicious, perfectly shaped, more-than-a-mouthful boobies that have ever made their way to your face while she straddled you.

I tell you, when you get results like this, you are not far from the Kingdom of Sarge. When you hear my words and do them, you shall live in moist, pink abundance, forever and ever, Sarge without end.

The ability to see where the other person is at WITHOUT HAVING TO GO THERE YOURSELF is a key skill in any form of persuasion/seduction/influencing.

When you can combine equanimity with uncertainty – being ok with not knowing what is going to happen AND giving the other person radical permission to have their FIRST response to you, it creates an unbelievably powerful doorway for something unexpected to occur.

Believe what I say and you shall inherit the Kingdom of Poontang.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Understanding the real psychology of what gets women hot bothered and ready to go will give you an advantage over almost every other guy out there. Remember, it’s what’s between her ears that determines what gets you between her legs.  Claim your copy of Speed Seduction® 3.0 and you’ll be inserting your key in many holes.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

One of the components of what I call the waiting game (what others call the “dating” game) is this: “dating” is designed by the romance industry to get men to shower women with free stuff – free dinners, free candy, free movie tickets, free dirty weekend in Vegas, etc…

Just the other day, someone asked me this question: “Is there a pattern to turn the tables – to get women to buy ME free stuff – to take me to dinner, buy me clothes, take me to the movies, etc.”

I think there’s a word for that: gigolo.  And how nice would THAT be?

But: you see, there’s a huge PRIMARY error in that way of thinking.

What is that error?

You are thinking in terms of behavior – what you want her to do – BEFORE you think of what emotional states she ought to be in such that it would be natural for her to WANT to give you that behavior.

Rather than try to create a pattern specifically geared to getting her to, say, buy you a Rolls Royce, how about generating such amazing feelings inside of her – feelings that she craves – feelings that she ratifies and affirms that she LOVES – that she then feels motivated to please you in EVERY possible way?

Then, and ONLY then, would I even think about patterns that allow you to embed suggestions to buy you stuff.

Do you see the error?

Remember: as a master of your girl-getting game, you are responsible for creating the state in which she is willing, indeed eager, to go where you want her to go.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Again, there is NOTHING wrong at all (per se) with wanting to have a woman buy you lots of stuff. It is how you are structuring your thinking FIRST in terms of her behavior before you think about structuring her emotions and state of mind.  To get a ton more on this topic “in a box”, click here.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

It’s an oft-told story…

Boy meets Girl in an “everyday” setting.

Girl smiles and giggles oh-so-cute and Boy sees the door open and beckoning.

Boy strikes up a little convo.  Girl’s answer to his innocent-yet-obviously-leading question (the one where he asks her out without actually f@@king ASKING) leaves him stumped even though it’s plain-as-daylight stuff.

Let’s hear from a student who felt like he just got “traded down to the minors” off such a seemingly innocent response:

The other day, I went to a local clothing store because I needed to pick up a couple things.  I was greeted by a cute, bubbly sales associate.  I said hi and bought a belt and a few other things (I was there for that in the first place).  I commented on her style, then I left.  But – as if opportunity was raining down from heaven, I had forgotten my cell phone, so I went back and said I lost it!

She asked for my number so we could call it and hear it ring.  Lo and behold, it fell off while I was trying on the belt and landed under a rack with fall jackets on it.  Heard it ring and picked it up.  Then I asked where she lived, and her name, and if she had plans for the evening.  She said she was going to relax at her place.

I didn’t know what to say, so I left (with her phone number, and her name). She seemed interested in me, and I was wondering what I could do to get in contact with her, and get her to meet me. Can you help me?

Let me start with the Captain Obvious answer: call her and and f@@king ask her out.

Don’t try to figure out if she really seemed interested… or just being all cute and flirty to loosen up your wallet by tightening up your Johnson (something that, uh, RARELY happens in the real world and is, uh, NEVER done on purpose).  Besides, your memory of actual events is probably distorted by now over hot you think she is… and how hot you wish, hope, and pray she was FOR YOU.

But think about what you’re asking her (or the next woman, when you go back for cuff links):

You asked where she lived (which DOESN’T MATTER until you go back to her place for some EEE-RRR-EEE-RRR), her name (was she wearing a nametag, as a sales associate in a retail store?), and what she was doing tonight (other than breathing and eventually sleeping?)

Were THESE the questions she was being called upon to answer while sidelined from making money so she can pay her rent?  What did her responses tell you about her “vibe” and what inspires her, so you could use it to anchor her emotions and get her excited and irresistibly aroused at-will?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Sick and tired of letting opportunities with sexy, beautiful women pass right by while you sit there virtually paralyzed not knowing exactly what to do or say to close the deal with them?  The solutions to such quandries can be found right here.

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

The easiest thing you can possibly do is sit on your ass and let things go on as they are.  Yeah, you might have a miserable life, out of shape, bad health, need a haircut really bad, no women, no nookie, no Giggity Giggity Goo.

But there’s no risk.  You can be certain (unless there’s a blackout) the boob tube will keep you company when you sit alone on the couch watching late-night TV.

Now, if you choose to “rock the boat” by taking drastic measures such as updating your wardrobe, getting a haircut, hitting the gym (to feel good about yourself), and getting yourself in circulation so people can see the gifts you offer to the world…that’s downright scary.  What if it doesn’t work?  What if your friends (or even family members) make fun of you?  What if the women you Sarge on dust you off with a dismissive hand gesture?

Case in point: one of your fellow readers on this blog, who is now working his way toward girl-getting mastery:

I am still in the “trying” phases and haven’t got laid yet – what could I possibly be doing wrong?  Also, when a girl doesn’t respond when I use the patterns (such as “have you ever…”, the Twin Brothers, etc.), how can I handle the discouragement I feel in me after that?

And finally Ross, which is the fastest way to learn Speed Seduction® via home study?

First of all, congratulations on your decision to “step up” and claim results with the women you really want.  Who said you’re doing anything wrong?

I have to ask, though  (just to be sure): are you reciting the patterns verbatim?  And if you’re not, could it be that you sound like you are, like you rehearsed the lines?  She’s not going to respond to that, because it’s not YOU she’s experiencing.

Now, I don’t think you’re going up to women reading the patterns off cue cards, but I’ve had students who DID.  One of them got laid.  With the cue cards. His secret?  He applied the lessons of Speed Seduction® to that SPECIFIC situation with that SPECIFIC woman.  He used the cue cards to make her laugh and open her up… then he took it naturally from there.

Handling discouragement?  Well, when something bad happens, AND when something good happens, I repeat as necessary:

Show me better, show me more, show me more, show me better, now!

That galvanizes me to go get more chicks.  If I “strike out”, there’s always tomorrow (or even 5 minutes from now).  Even if the one I just met is a straight up fox, now that I’ve had her, I want one even hotter.

Keep Sarging. You have me, and the entire community, on your side and in your corner.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. The fastest way to learn Speed Seduction® via home study is, of course, my home study course called Speed Seduction® 3.0.  It’s like having me, Ross Jeffries, on tap, 24/7, whenever you need me.  Click here to learn more.

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

I often get asked, in e-mails I get from students as well as during live appearances on video chats and in-person seminars, what are some of the best pick-up lines for guys to use on chicks.

Let me begin by stating: I don’t teach “pick-up lines.”  Speed Seduction® Masters-In-Training (MITs) use conversational patterns.

So let’s ask: what IS a “pattern”?

A “pattern” is much more than memorized “lines” or even complete “speeches”.  It includes a more broad variety of actions/methods/techniques designed to engage the woman, capture her vibe, and appeal to what drives her…wild.

I know you want to see some pattern language in action.  So before we go any further, watch this short video clip of me working a hot Brazilian chick at one of my live seminars into an erotic trance.  (My apologies in advance, this clip is low-quality, but you’ll still be able to hear and see what’s happening.)

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More importantly: the right question can be a “pattern”.

A “pattern” is any communication that captures and leads a woman’s imagination and stimulates her emotions in the right direction.

Which of the following, for example, is a “pattern”:

1. What do you do for a living?

2. What do you find most challenging about what you do, and what do you find most fulfilling about what you do?

Do you get my point here?

Here’s another example:

1. Where was the last place you went on vacation?

2. If you could go somewhere where money and time were no object, where would you go, and what kind of….things…would you like to try?

Here’s a fun assignment: come up with a typical question women get asked by Average Frustrated Chump (AFC) guys. Then take a stab at coming up with a Speed Seduction® version of the same question that actually would stimulate her emotions and imagination in a useful direction.  Post them here on the blog!

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Success with women involves creating irresistible POSITIVE challenge, that draws women forward and massively magnifies her attraction to you, from the first word spoken to her last gasp of pleasure.  Click here to find the “mother lode” of conversational patterns…

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

A few weeks ago I was at one of my local hangouts in LA, working on some e-mails on the WiFi while checking out the bevy of bodacious babes that were swarming the place….and Sarging on a few of them.

My concentration got interrupted by a scene caused by a very desperate looking fellow.

See, this is the type of place where, after you finish your food order, you take the tray up and dump your garbage in the trash receptacle and then leave your tray.

Apparently, he had gotten some hot chick’s number and had accidentally left it on his tray when he tossed it. He left the restaurant, then realized his mistake, and came back hoping to get the phone number back. He was pleading with the manager for help. Coincidentally, the restaurant staff had just emptied that particular receptacle and taken its trash out to the dumpster in the back.

So he said to the manager: “No problem, I’ll just go into the dumpster and dig it out. No problem. It’s the one on top right?”

Manager’s flat-out, no-bullshit, no-messing-around response: “No, you won’t.”

Cut to the chase: guy who thought he was about to score with some babe, walks out dejected, knowing he “blew it.“

Yeah, I’d say he blew it.

He blew it from the moment he set “scoring the digits” as his goal. If this chick was so hot (and hot for him), what stopped him from scheduling a follow up meeting with her, then and there? What stopped him from making his move, then and there? Why did he take what was happening RIGHT THEN and willfully postpone it until an undefined “later” that might (and now DEFINITELY will) never come?

Too many smart guys are programmed into following “dating rituals.” Wait to get her number…wait two days to call her…then wait two days to see her…wait till the end of the date to give her a kiss…then wait till the next day to call her to say it was great…and then wait a day before calling back to ask for the next “date.”

Look: “wait” on THIS.

It’s true, the women ARE waiting. For you. So, champ, what are YOU waiting FOR?

If she’s here, now... and she seems interested, now… make your move, NOW. If she says no, fine, move on. But when she says yes (and she’s more likely to say yes because the vibe in the air that has her intrigued RIGHT NOW will dissipate if you go away and try to come back later), the results will sure beat a poke in the eye.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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