Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

We’ve been hearing since childhood about how some guys just have a “way with women.”

For some reason, they’ve just “got it.”  Seems like they can get any girl they want.  They’re always in the company of beautiful women.

Here’s a note from a student that drives this point home:

> I had a friend who was a real natural.
>
> He said he would simply put his hand on her hip, and talk to her, while moving her hip about.

No… No… NO.

Look beneath the obvious and see what is really going on.

What is this guy doing with his intent, his will and his energy/vibe?

Get that down FIRST and then look at the pieces of behavior: where he puts his hand and where he moves her body.

How can you get a sinfully succulent co-ed steaming hot for you… so hot she’s turning beet red (in the moment, then all the next day at work)?

Without putting your hand on her hip or dancing with her.  Or even touching her.

I keep pointing at the moon.
You CONTINUE to stare at my finger.

Listen: it’s an axiom in science that if you look beneath the obvious things that people take for granted you will find out things everyone else is missing.

Does time flow uniformly, at the same rate, for all frames of reference? So it appears but in fact, it does not. Einstein looked behind and beneath the “obvious” truth to discover what is really going on.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. “Building Skill At Feel” is a pathway to true masculine power with women.  This is among the many things you learn in Showing Up Attractive, the companion course to Sexual Aggression Mastery.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

It’s one thing to have a woman in your arms on the dance floor.  It’s another thing when it’s a sexytime dance with some movin’ and groovin’ especially if that leads to doin’.

It’s yet another thing entirely to get that delicious dancer OFF the dance floor and onto the next chapter in your adventure together.

Check this out, excerpted from a Sarge report from one of my students:

> …Then I told her that I saw her out one the dance floor, that it looked like she was having a lot of fun out there. She said yes she was, so I told her to give me a couple of minutes and I would meet her out on the dance floor. She smiled and said ok.

> I continued with my conversation with my friends, then went to her with a smile on my face. After dancing for a few minutes I told her that I love dancing. She said she did too. I told her that dancing is fun, and when you are with someone (sp) that you want to keep dancing with even after the music stops.. its even better.

> She looked at me with a puzzled look and asked what I meant by that. I told her the music was too loud to have an exciting conversation like that, but she could meet me outside and I would tell her.

RJ here.  Let’s dissect this. 

First of all, he did fantastic by telling her to “give him a couple minutes” before he joined her on the dance floor.  He didn’t chase her but showed he had something else going on.  Good balance.

Next, let’s look at how he handled the conversation on the dance floor and how it got her doing most of the seduction work:

1. When he said “dancing is fun”, he didn’t specify HOW.  He left it vague. That allowed her to search her own imagination to find what “fun” meant for her.
2. He was vague as to who “someone” means.
3. Suggestion: “you want to keep dancing after the music stops”.
4. Dancing in what way? How is it better? Again, by being vague, he created response potential. She’s curious about what you mean and she searches for her own meaning.

Finally, note how he segued into getting that delicious dancer off the dance floor. Both in terms of moving her to a quieter environment so he could use his voice to better effect, but also moving her to another location creates a sense of having spent more time with her.  Classic move.

That’s how it’s done.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Especially in the dance club, waiting for signs she’s interested could be fatal to your Sarge.  My brand new Sexual Aggression Mastery course cuts through all that and shows you how to close the deal with mastery.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students,

Chew on this:

Some questions for aspiring seducers…

1) Where do you get the idea that you have to be totally certain of a perfect result before you can enjoy trying out behaviors that are totally new?

2) Where do you get the idea that women expect you to be totally confident and sure of yourself in order to feel attracted to you?

Is it possible that both of these ideas are delusions with no basis in fact? And that these twin delusions-more than any special social skills-are what have been standing in your way of enjoying some amazing fulfillment with some remarkable ladies?

Please share your thoughts below.

Peace and piece,
RJ

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In the initial phases of seduction, a little “tension” can be good.  “Give her a little of what she wants, then pull back and make her work for more” is a generalized way of putting that.

But what if you’re the kind of person who, when shown affection or appreciation, responds with higher levels of the same?  What if you do so to the point where the other person gets burned out on your presence?

This can be challenging indeed when resisting the urge to be affectionate is difficult, or otherwise no fun.

So, what to do? 

I would say, first and foremost, get a full experience of the actual physical feeling of giving affection and apreciation.

What is the feeling flow in the body?

Pour all of your attention into that, turning off the internal talk and imagery.

Every few seconds, note out loud if the feeling is the same or if it is changing.

Feelings can change in many ways: intensity, shape, duration(short bursts or long waves), direction of flow, continuous or separated by patches of empty or much lesser intensity.

Do that for a couple of minutes.

This will give you great awareness so that when the feeling/urge begins to arise you can have awareness and choice.

Also, look at how much of your desire to nurture, give affection is done because it is more comfortable than say, being commanding or aggressive or strongly sexual.

Don’t get me wrong; you can be tender and affectionate in your sexual expression too.

And, above all, look for women who will lap it up. There ARE women who want kindness and connection and safety rolled into and surrounding and perfusing through their sexual connections.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Has anyone ever offered to “hook you up” with a friend of theirs? Have you ever asked someone to do this for you?

A student of mine’s cousin (let’s call her Bianca) wanted to “hook him up” with a “cute” co-worker of hers (we’ll call her… you guessed it… Debbie).  Bianca’s idea was this: “You and a couple of your friends come out and hang out with us one night, and you and Debbie can meet.”

Internally he knew that whole scene would zap his Sargy energy.  He’d be in a situational disadvantage with Debbie, since she’d feel under the microscope and would be putting up extra resistance.  In declining the offer, he told his cousin Bianca “I would not be comfortable in this scenario and this is just not how I meet women.  I won’t put Debbie in this situation either.”

Bianca snorted and said, “Gee, too bad, how the hell do you expect to find a girlfriend?  Your loss.” But the way Bianca wanted to “hook him up” with Debbie was uncomfortable for him.

So if my student knew who Debbie was and thought she was hot and might be worth a shot, what would be a better way than having Bianca explicitly “hook him up” with her?  What could YOU do?

I would actually say that you have to add some value to their lives if you expect them to add value to yours (eg, intro you to chicks).

For example, let’s say you are friendly with the woman who sits next to you at work, and she is pretty damn hot.

Treat her like a friend, because you like her as a person, genuinely. She’s a good person and you are friendly and are cool with and to each other.

You likely won’t move it past that if you “don’t shit where you eat.”  Yet you know she has cool, HOT female friends (you’ve seen her Facebook page) and sooner or later she might introduce you around to her social circle as a genuinely cool guy, if you know her well enough to pal around at the Friday after-work happy hour.

So, what value are YOU providing to this female friend?

Don’t expect her to “hook you up” but rather aim at having her introduce you/include you in her social circle.

And treat their social circle like a National Park. You don’t go into Yellowstone and shoot the deer, dump beer cans in the river, piss on the trees, etc. etc.

Treat her friends well, don’t piss in the pool or you won’t be invited back.

Do it right, and her friends will talk about how great you are in bed and you’ll be in hot demand. Rather than be greedy when that happens, actually REFRAIN from doing all the deeds you will indeedy do be doing.

Get it?

You can be strong, hot, challenging, fun, outrageous and STILL respect the vaginal environment. Play responsibly. Replace and replenish as you go.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Once you meet her friends, it isn’t just suggestive language that will get them joining you on the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle  – it’s also the clever way in which it’s structured to seem like a perfectly ordinary conversation! Learn how this is done in Speed Seduction® 3.0.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

A key signal that you have achieved a level of self-assurance and confidence that lets you fully show the world who you are and what you have to offer is boldly claiming your results with women without first getting absolute certainty that you’ll succeed on EVERY approach.

One source of uncertainty: does she have a boyfriend?

Second source: what if she acts single and receives what I have to give now, then LATER she suddenly sicks her boyfriend on me like a raging pit bull claiming I was bugging her?

One night, recently, a student of mine got a text from a woman he’d hooked up with recently, and at first it seemed like she was letting him know she wanted an encore, that night if he was available.  BUT, after 3 or 4 back and forths, she all of a sudden comes out with this: “I want to talk to you but I can’t.  My ex is riding me about me talking to you.”

He texted back: “I thought he was your EX.  Once you get clear on your status, please let me know.” Then he said to himself, “Exit, stage left!” and went back to what he was doing at the time.

But, a minute later it raised a larger question in my student’s mind…

“What if that had actually been her so-called ‘ex’ writing that, and now he’s gonna come after me?”

Hey: boyfriend destroyer or no boyfriend destroyer, the next woman you Sarge might have a boyfriend, and just because kicking your ass because you approached his woman may seem childish and insecure to YOU, doesn’t mean he won’t kick your ass anyway.

Even if she did nothing but ENCOURAGE you to make a move at the time, regardless of the story she’s telling him now.

The only way to have certainty this will never happen is to take a vow of celibacy and solitude RIGHT NOW.

OR, you could take how another student handled this same situation as a guide:

Wednesday night, I called a woman I had “number closed” on Monday, who I met Monday when I was at a business meeting where she works. I asked for her. She says “speaking”. I introduced myself and said “we met on Monday at your office?” She says “yeah?”. It was 9:30 pm and I tell her I hope its not to late to call.

Her response was a cold, “I am with my boyfriend right now!” (In a tone to indicate, like, I should have known so). I say “Ok then, I’ll call back some other time.” and we hang up.

Within 30 seconds, my phone rings.

ME: Hello?

BF: Hello. Who is this?

ME: This is Rick, who is this?

BF: This is Angie’s boyfriend. I am calling to tell you that I don’t want you to call her anymore.

ME: Is this what Angie wants?

(I don’t know where I got the balls to turn this on them, but I am glad I did. At this point he puts me on hold and asks her if this is what she wants. I hear in the distance her voice saying that she doesn’t want me to call her again. He then comes back on the phone)

BF: Angie says that she doesn’t want you to call her again.

ME: Then why didn’t she just tell me that? Why did she give me her number?

BF: And what the hell are you thinking picking up somebody at work? You put her on the spot asking in front of everyone!

ME: We were ALONE when she gave me her number!

BF: (pause) You were alone?

ME: Of course! There was no one around. (raising my voice to match his) Why didn’t she tell me that she had a boyfriend? She never said that. She could have said No when I asked for the number.

BF: (backing off) Well, she’s shy.

ME: Even so, all she had to say was that she had a boyfriend. What are you thinking? Ask her! Ask her if she ever told me she had a boyfriend! Ask her now!

(Pause. I am guessing that he at this point doesn’t know where this is going. I hear him ask her, “Did you tell him that you have a boyfriend? To my happy surprise, she ADMITTED she didn’t. I think she was just as surprised by my hutzspa as I was.)

BF: Ok. She didn’t tell you.

ME: You see? She didn’t have to give me the number, she could have said, no, she could have told me that she had a boyfriend and she didn’t!

BF: Look, I am just telling you that if you plan to call her again…

ME: (cutting him off) Don’t you worry, I have no intentions of ever calling her again. This is stupid. Look you, I am not the type of guy that goes around starting trouble OK? I meant YOU no disrespect! And what she did here is disrespectful! She should’ve just said that she had a boyfriend, and she didn’t! (At this point, I am in control, but I am obviously pissed off in my tonality)

BF: (apologetically) Well, it’s OK.

ME: No it’s not! What she did is disrespectful to YOU, AND me! This is not acceptable at all.

At this point, he seems to be trying to calm me down, and by the time we get off the phone, I am still in control, and hang up after I say “bye”. In a weird sense, I got some rapport with him, and I really felt that near the end, he was actually on my side.

The study of seduction is more that just memorizing the next pick up line. It is a process that changes who you are inside and out. Three years ago, I would have freaked out, tried to figure out how I was to blame, and apologized like crazy. Today, I made no apologies for my desires as a man, and I called a woman on her bullshit. I know that I have still a ways to go. But by the universe as my witness, I will become a true Master Seducer.

Bottom line: this student has taken a HUGE step toward becoming a true Master Seducer. He had the balls to stand up to her shit and to give them BOTH a lesson.  Chances are, her little game backfired on a BIG way and this boyfriend of hers will see the light and leave that trouble making cock teaser in the dust.

The best part?  My student found out her little act before wasting any time or money.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. You know, Angie’s boyfriend might not be a total meathead after all.  If he came to me and asked how Speed Seduction® might blast him past the stuck points that have had him, up until now, settling for these cock teases and letting them yank his chain instead of getting real results with top quality women who will treat him right, I would suggest he click here right now.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Really… how was your weekend with women?

Was it a vaginally-victorious, ripe-for-harvest, 69-acre field of moist pink abundance?

Did you meet a great new woman, easily and effortlessly, despite any imperfections in yourself or in her, and powerfully capture her interest and create a new space where the two of you could take things, together, in a new direction?

Did you get laid?

If some hottie threw you a curveball – gave you a nasty glare, shot you down cold before you had a chance to work your Sargy magic (or Magick), or otherwise threw a wrench in the gears – did you know what to do?  How to handle it?  How to turn things around your way to still get the results you want?

OK, so maybe you’ve been seeing someone.  Have you slept with her yet? Things heatings up between you two?

(Or you three, if she, like her salaciously succulent sorority sister, is the freaky girl that many of my students would like to meet at least once… or maybe again and again)?

I get it – maybe you’re in a serious, committed relationship and this is indeed the woman you think you might want to marry.  After all, you did take her home to meet your momma and it was already like your parents “didn’t lose a son, but gained a daughter”. 

Is it a relationship, or a real-hate-shun-ship? Are you sure?  Do you know what to do if you really like her but so far it seems like you real-hate too much?

Seriously, let me know.  I want to hear from you.  Leave a comment below, please.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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