Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Does playing hard-to-get make you more attractive to women?   Will letting her know you’re displeased with her make her want to give you more pleasure?

These are among the questions asked my a student of mine:

>I find out sometimes I show dissatisifaction with women and can get more control over them. They will ask what they can do for me, am I satisfied, et cetera, like they are afraid of getting me angry.

>So I would like to ask here, are there ways to test women like they will test you at first to see if they will take your bullshit?  Should I “sometimes” ignore women or teasing women, I don`t know if this will make me more attractive to them?  I think control is a little like attraction, is that right?

Alright, let’s dissect this… 

1. Control is an illusion. Humans are chaotic, complex, and at best, you have influence.
2. Do you want “control” – or what you perceive you’ll get as a result of “control”: more priority, more respect, more compliance? “Control” is really just a tool to achieve these other things. If you can get these other things without “control” then fantastic.
3. I would express dissatisfaction as part of an overall strategy of letting people know where they stand and where **I** stand. I wouldn’t do it as a tactic to create compliance. I’d do it to set things clear and make sure people(male, female) etc know my rules and that I DO have rules.

Now, it is true, some humans, and some women(the younger and less sure of themselves) do need and do respond to being dominated and “controlled” at every turn.

The problem is, this is a royal pain in the ass and a lot of work.  Not what I want.  I want a human being who can initiate and take the lead on occasion, not a mindless slave who fears displeasing me at any second.

To attract HEALTHY women:

• Create great feelings in them and link them to you
• Take those feelings away if they violate a major rule of yours that you have told them about or if they continue to violate less major rules. The worst “punishment” is to withdraw your company and attention.
• Call them on their bullshit WHEN they do it, in a firm but fair way.

BTW if your rules are that they must ALWAYS do as you say, must NEVER disagree and must NEVER have desires of their own that don’t include you, then your rules must be immediately repealed and replaced with something healthy.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

How do you move closer to your destination?  Take a step toward it. 

How do you eat the giant elephant?  One bite at a time.

Claiming your results with women you truly desire is not much different.

If you’re just starting out, a “newbie” who has had a bit of success using the techniques but feeling a little intimidated because you haven’t yet effortlessly landed the terrific threesome with Debbie and her succulent sorority sister Sarah, think about what HAS happened for you.

You’ve made the decision that today is the last day of the way you used to be.

Perhaps you personally haven’t changed all that much, but the way you see things and the world in general HAS changed – for the WAY better.

With increased confidence that comes from seeing SOME success, you feel like the world is your oyster and you will grab it by the balls and squeeze until they crunch.  (Ha ha ha. I don’t think oysters HAVE balls, but I dig the picturesque metaphor in any event.)

What comes up many times for “newbies” who have gotten better at approaching and conversing with women: challenges mastering the Close, sealing the deal with women.

Hint: stop thinking about the “Close” as a separate stage, but as something that starts before you even walk out the door and continues with each further step of comfort, openness, challenge, excitement and desire you create in and with her and with the first initial friendly/warm touches/physical contact, which should be happening early on.

HINT HINT: If she isn’t comfortable or is frozen with that initial, friendly, non-sexual touching, RUN.

HINT HINT HINT: learn to screen women. What personality traits must be there in her for you to want to move forward? Can you mentally rehearse getting up from the table, smiling, shaking your head and saying, “No way” and just walking out the door, feeling 10 feet tall and humming out loud, “ANCHORS AWAY, MY BOYS! ANCHORS AWAAAAAY!”

Newbies: this is important, that last hint. Do it.

Start acting like you have choice and standards even if you currently don’t and your dick for the past ten years has been dry as nun’s pussy in the Sahara desert! It’s the most paradoxical, counter-intuitive mindset, but it W-O-R-K-S! Start believing, feeling, act-as-if you ALREADY have a world of choice.

And most of all, remember my rule: When I don’t know what to do, I take a bold step forward.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Recently here on Ross Jeffries Uncensored, I shared with you a number of ways you can hook a woman’s interest within the first 5 minutes of meeting her.

So now let’s explore how you can hook her interest at the “closing.”

Where can you really grab that thread of attention is to pull her out of herself and really get her invested in the discussion with you. Sometimes what hooks her in is the closing.

I’ve hooked women in by saying, “I know we haven’t talked much.” Demonstrate you understand what’s going on. Say, “I know we haven’t talked much. Obviously, you have to get going and so do I. If you’re not with someone who’s with you in the way you truly want them to be, maybe we owe it to each other to talk.”

Often, it’s what was so powerful – and such a good place for where they’re at. It’s a taste for the fact of where they are with you. You don’t have a lot of time and have to go. That shows understanding.

Then to say, “If you’re not with someone who’s with you in the way that you truly want them to be,” often they’ll go home and say, “I really am not with the person I truly wanted to be. How did he know that?”

They’ll attribute it to you knowing, even though you didn’t say they’re not with the person they truly wanted to be with. They’re going to think, “How did he know?”

That, in and of itself, sure beats a poke in the eye.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

There are some scenarios that can (seemingly) put the kibosh on Sarging, even if you are skilled at approaching a group of women, approaching a group of people, or have made approaching women as they go about life part of who you are and what you do.

You’re at a wedding reception. Every woman except one is there with her husband (not borefriend – not “has-been-d” – devoted, loving, husband!) The only one who isn’t, she’s 7 months pregnant, texting her husband who couldn’t get off work, brushing off the people in the room right now.

Maybe you live in a small town with only one or two places to hang out (usually bars), full of the same people you couldn’t stand back in high school, either.  Even if (or perhaps because) you’ve scored with several of the “regular” women, for reasons that, up until now, you haven’t quite fathomed, that empty well has now left your bone dry.

My entrepreneur students go to seminars (hot spots for hot women) yet report challenges connecting with women on a Sargy level.  Schedules run late.  Presenters run overtime with their pitchfests and it cuts into lunch hour and the networking reception – forbid presenters actually being told to stick to schedule and lose their chance to empty your wallet!  When session FINALLY ends, people beeline to their cell phones to check in with home/work/life before you can get in a word.

Normally I’d call bullshit on all of it.  Normally I’d tell you to get off your “can’t do it” ass and go out there and DO IT.

Actually, I AM calling bullshit and I AM telling you that.

Rather than sit and make excuses…GO for it…down the path of least Sargy resistance.

Got the small town blues?  May I suggest that you locate the nearest large town/city near you. Book a cheap room somewhere. Then go to venues there and practice.  Give yourself a change from that small-town dive.  Path of least resistance, guys.

In the city, hit the larger hotels where they do weddings/parties/conventions. Lots of puss eager to get rammed! 

There for a seminar?  Usually there will be 3 or 4 seminars happening at the same hotel or convention center at the same time.  Lots of women milling in the hall, at the bar, all around.  Here in Los Angeles at the LAX Corridor, there are a couple dozen hotels within walking distance or a 2-minute cab ride of each other where on any given day there will be 3 or 4 seminars going on at EACH hotel.

That’s a LOT of women, many of them now in a place where nobody knows them and they can just totally let go.

The dry-desert wedding reception you’re at might be right next door to the other wedding reception…. where 25 single women are rushing toward the bouquet at this very moment.  Their gal-pal just got hitched and they’re wondering when THEY will encounter a “great guy.”  Ummmm….paging…YOU!!!

Let me close this lesson with an opener you can adapt as needed: Walk up to a woman and say, “Hi, I’m (new to town / from out of town / attending one of these for the very first time), so I’m just saying hello to all the more gorgeous women.”   Note the implied compliment.

The women are waiting.  Now what in the name of Holly’s hot-sexy halter-top are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Check out this video where I demonstrate an actual touching technique that drives her crazy and gets her hot and bothered for you.

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It’s another way you can “innocently” extend an invitation to the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle while sharing a cup of coffee.  Let me know your thoughts.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

OK…so you’re doing some street Sarging and you come across a really hot chick (let’s say she’s an HB9 right now, and will look even hotter OUTSIDE that cute jogging suit).

You’re feeling an adventure coming on… you wonder… “Here on the street she’s a lady… but what’s she like between the sheets?

Is the type of woman who gets really turned on by taking a risk?  Being naughty? “How can I use the information she’s going to give me when I open the conversation to ignite her passion and get her to take a risk with me?” you wonder to yourself.

Let’s Bring The Bad Girl Out: How Ya Gonna Get Her To Ride The Bronco?

First, you need to be aware of the concept of conversational THEMES. These are overall topics of conversation that steer, direct and guide things.  I typically have 4-5 different places I can go, conversationally:

1. Questions/observations/challenges to/about her
2. Demos, games, quizzes, jokes, poems
3. Connections.
4. Indulgence (escape / adventure / cravings
5. Sex. But be careful about going to that too soon, too directly.

My preferred “m.o.” is to get her talking, gather information about her, get her to generate her own responses.

Give her the sense that I am curious about her, somewhat interested, and am asking questions out of curiosity and also because I am screening her. I find that giving the sense that you are screening and that THEY are being screened increases their response potential for the rest of what you do.

Also, throughout this, evaluate her and get her overall vibe. Is the an adventurous woman with a history of f@@king guys right off the bat? Is she more of a “romantic” type (but perhaps with a hidden, naughty side that really WANTS to experience a quick f@@k or some nasty, “bad” sexual acts)?

Bottom line though: get her talking. Use her responses, fed back through any of the above as a way of amping up the situation, testing at each step for physical readiness.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Seem like a lot?  There’s a lot of places you could go with this that could have all sorts of endings (and beginnings).  What if you knew that no matter what the situation, you had potentially hundreds of conversations, on tap and ready to flow, for every kind of girl (freaky or otherwise)?  How about if you had a methodical step-by-step plan? 

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Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

Another so-called “axiom” that I can’t STAND… yet another example of how smart men nonetheless get socially programmed into Average Frustrated Chumps (AFCs) is this:

“Nice guys finish last.”

So, if I’m following this, women claim (as reinforced by the romance industry) that women want sweet, sensitive, NICE guys… because they, too, are programmed that they’re “supposed” to… but deep down, they want a “bad boy” or even a “jerk” because supposedly they’re more “exciting.”

People: you can’t have it both ways.

For this one student of mine, being a “bad boy” does not come naturally to him.  He’s charming, and he’s got girl-getting game.  But he thinks something’s “missing” – namely, that “bad boy” persona that he is convinced is the cooter-soaking “cinch” that will have him beating off the babes with a stick…as opposed to…well…you get the picture.

Here’s where this student thinks he’s stuck…

What happens in my own seduction process is that sooner or later, something happens and women decide I fall in the “nice guy” category. I don’t do the “AFC” thing – I do not attach excess meaning to any one woman I’m sarging.  I don’t put up with games or nonsense, and I clearly position myself as “the prize” (limited availability).

Some reason though I end up as the guy they want as the “boyfriend” and not the fling.  So bottom line, women tend to take more time before hopping in the sack with me because they see me as “boyfriend material” rather than a “disposable fling.”  Maybe if I was more of a “bad boy,” the woman would show me her “bad girl” side.

Wow. So women think you’re a prize catch?  What a terrible problem to have!

Seriously though, I think there are ways to approach this without having to reinvent yourself as a character from an early Marlon Brando movie.

Perhaps you simply need to better structure her expectations from the beginning.  As in, not seeing her more than once a week (instead of “always being there”). Not allowing yourself to be available for large chunks of time (so she sees you as a “prize” she needs to work for, rather than the doormat who’s always on her front step). Or, simply, better screening to find women who really are only looking for flings, if that’s what you want.

Or you may just have to stop being such a champ in the sack that she decides you MUST be a “keeper” and tries to hoard you for herself, ONLY!

Peace and piece,
RJ

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