Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In my one-on-one teaching with students, I often run into the many ways guys get tripped up by what they were incorrectly taught before. For example, guys are taught that after you meet her, you’re supposed to get her phone number, then wait two days to call her so you can invite her to meet you three days later for coffee, where you’ll chat for an hour and then….?

Let me be the one to clear this up: that’s complete, total, and utter bollocks.

But unfortunately, because these misconceptions are so prevalent, it can seriously trip up your game with women. Case in point:

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I have this feeling of not having the energy to call women that give me their phone numbers after our initial meeting. It’s like, the feeling is that I like the excitement of the approach, the smile on their face when they finally surrender their phone numbers. But something is holding me back from calling them and getting them to surrender themselves to me.

It’s like the feeling of not knowing what’s on the other side of the room, or not knowing the outcome that I am really looking for. At the same time, it’s like rejecting myself by not moving forward to do something about it. Can someone explain how I can “break out” of this and take things to the next level?

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Let me ask again. When you approach a woman, why is your end game to get her number? Why not go for the whole enchilada, then and there?

The goal of Speed Seduction® is getting her invested and involved in the erotic interaction with you, right from the start, in the first two minutes of conversation. Doing the approach in hopes of getting the phone number squanders the opportunity.

The desire she then feels for you should be an overwhelming signal to her that she must go for it with you, as quickly and as totally as she can, or risk missing out on an incredible chance to have her wildest and deepest desires and needs met – by you.

How much a smile indeed will be on her face when she surrenders herself to you…and THEN says “this was awesome, here’s my number, call me and let’s do this again next week.” I bet it will beat a poke in the eye!

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. Over the past 20 years, I’ve been able to peer deep down into the code of how women think, feel and move their way through their subjective emotional world.

Instead of worrying about what to do when you get her number, tap her “Operating System” and the “Machine Language” of her psyche to enjoy mind-blowing success, satisfaction and skill with women. It’s all in my Speed Seduction 3.0® Course. Get yours today:

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Becoming a Speed Seduction® master, like so much else in life, takes practice. When it comes to approaching women, for example, no matter how much you enjoy the results from what I teach in my Gold Walk-Up DVD, the clearest path to mastery is always going to be keeping yourself in the game, approaching many women, and using the strategies to get women hot, bothered and ready.

However, you also have to keep an important point in mind: sometimes, the closer you get to the skills you need for massive success with smoking-hot women, the more frustration you might encounter, Because suddenly you are in the game, in situations you only dreamed of before.

Case in point: a student recently told me this story:

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Ross,

I was in Starbucks. I saw a hot woman. I started observing her. I thought, “What can I know about this person that I can use?” She was reading a book. I had your notes in my hand. I had an opening with her saying, “I’m writing some stuff and need to know the female perspective on this.” Then I went with the Eros Stone Necklace pattern.

I did exactly what you teach, Ross, and it worked in less than an hour! I had her come to the beach with me. Things got hotter from there. I thought I had done everything right, so I went for the close. I told her, “We need to take some steps to enjoy this somewhere else or continue it in the future.” She said,

“Oh my god, this is too much! I can’t see you further.”

I thought I had her! I wonder what went wrong?

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Now, as far as I can tell, this guy did everything right. Nothing went wrong at all with any of his skills or insights.

All that went “wrong” was that this woman somehow had some kind of problem with getting intimate.

Maybe she had a jealous boyfriend.

Maybe she’s super-religious and doesn’t feel right about sex.

Maybe she’s got something crawling in her cootchie that defies medical science’s attempt to stamp it out.

My simple advice to this guy (and you, if you find yourself in this kind of situation) is this: first and foremost, make a list of everything you did right.

Focus on that. Realize how far you’ve come with your skills. Imagine continuing to practice and getting great results in the future.

Remember: Total victory and success with women that you’ve always wanted could be one simple skill set away.

Everything you need for total success from start to finish is right here.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. Remember, when you’re out there practicing Speed Seduction® principles and meeting women, you’re mastering the teaching. I’m proud of you. And I’m there for you.

If enjoying damn near ridiculous levels of success, satisfaction and pleasure with the most amazing women around is something you are highly interested in, check out my Speed Seduction 3.0 Course.

The time is now. Get yours today:

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Dear Speed Seduction(R) Students,

It’s official.

My London Speed Seduction(R) seminar is open for enrollment NOW!

This will be my only European event for 2009, and we always pack ‘em in when we go to the UK.

Here is the link with all the info.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S.  I love doing these live events!  This is your chance to have me work with you, live, on stage.  That’s 20 years and thousands of students worth of experience waiting and ready to serve your breakthrough success and satisfaction with the women you truly desire.

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Dear Speed Seduction(R) Students,

In this video(which is #3 of 10 in my Youtube  Beyond Dating Tips Playlist) I discuss the nature of approach anxiety-what it really is-and how to destroy it so you can enjoy the ability to approach and pick-up(and seduce) hot women with ease.

I have a radically and fundamentally different view of approach anxiety; I don’t view it as being about fear of rejection or even fear of the approach

Rather I view it as neurological friction; the result of two equally powerful and conflicting desires arising in your neurology at the same time.

What are these?

The desire to move forward and talk to the woman(or women) and the equal and opposite desire to stay right where you are and not say a word until you are certain that what you are going to say and do will work.

Let me give you a metaphor to understand.

Suppose I gave you a radio-controlled toy car.  And you gave it the command to turn left and turn right at the exact same moment.

What would the car do?

I think you know the answer.

It would freeze up and spin its motor until it burned out or the battery ran out.

Is this beginning to make sense?

A huge breakthrough will occur when you now realize that approach anxiety isn’t really that at all. It’s internal conflict manifesting as neurological friction and cognitive confusion.

Now there is one more complicating factor and that is the meaning you give to the feelings of neurological upset.

If you conclude that the anxious, or rather FRICTION feelings means that you face some external threat-that you are about to be rejected, defeated or humiliated in the external world, then you are going to create secondary anxiety about that.

Now, in addition to the internal conflict, you get to add in a nice dose of fight or flight syndrome.

So what is the solution to all of this?

Watch the damned video. And if you’ d like to go directly to Youtube to watch, and so you can help me spread the word by rating and commenting on it, then it’s How To Destroy Approach Anxiety And Approach Women With Ease.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. Hey, could you please do me a favor and help me out? If you’ve found value from this article, and/or the video, could you please help me spread the word by Twittering the video’s Youtube URL: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8R4tJjXqJ7k.

P.P.S. Did you know when you follow me on Twitter you can ask me anything and usually get a reply within just a few hours?

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Dear Speed Seduction(R) Student,

Here we are with video 2 of the 10 part new video series: Beyond Dating Tips/Advice For Men Mastery Series.

In this video I talk about avoiding the confidence trap: how you can get in a lot of trouble and screw up your pick up success by aiming at the wrong kind of confidence.

The Biggest Mistake: Aiming For Performance Confidence Before You Do Any Performing!

As you watch this video, you’ll notice that I talk about the number 1 trap guys get sucked into-they want to be perfect at their pick-up performance, before they’ve even done any performing!

You’ll see that my definition of the problem-as well as the proposed solutions-are quite good.

Give it a watch, and tell your friends too!

Once again, it’s about Avoiding The Confidence Trap: Gaining The Right Kind Of Confidence For Pick Up Operations!

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S.  If you want the best, most breakthrough system for reforming your self-image, beliefs, and abilities with women, check out my Nail Your Inner Game Program!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

I’m more convinced than ever that 90% of the success and satisfaction you can enjoy with women is influenced far more by what is between your ears than what is between her legs.

Now, don’t get me wrong here.

As you are about to learn here, I do NOT believe in “positive” thinking when it comes to women, money, or anything else.  In fact I think “positive thinking” is one of the most destructive illusions that has ever been peddled.

Here’s why.

Positive thinking usually just amounts to “shut your eyes, ignore that fact that you are failing or are miserable, and pretend things are going the way you want them to go”.   Just “believe” and you will achieve.

How “Positive” Advice Multiplied My Personal Suffering With Women

I can’t tell you how frustrated I used to get at all the “positive” advice I got from friends and relatives back when I was a 20 year old virgin, desperately trying to end my loneliness and get my freak on.

What kind of crap did I here?

“Just love yourself and then women will love you”.  Yeah, right.

“You’ll find someone”.  Well, eventually, maybe.  But who wants to wait? And who wants “someone”?

“Just be nice. Women love nice guys”. Don’t get me started.

The Real Problem With “Positive” Thinking

The problem with “positive” thinking is that it is oftentimes an invitation to ignore the reality of your situation, to turn a blind eye to what you need to learn, and to keep on repeating mistakes.  It’s tied together with another destructive “mind virus” that is part of our culture: “if at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.”

How About A Dose Of Informed Enthusiasm Instead?

What I would actually like you to do is junk positive thinking entirely and instead work on developing what I call informed enthusiasm and intelligent motivation.

Informed enthusiasm simply means that you’ve trained yourself to spot where you are doing well, across many different levels; some obvious and some not so obvious.  And, additionally, you’ve developed an incredibly effective way to remove confusion from situations that don’t’quite go your way and to see exactly what you need to do differently the next time.

Intelligent motivation comes from knowing that, while you may not get what you want right away, you certainly will learn what you need to get what you want, or better.    It’s a totally reality-based confidence in your ability to learn from each and every encounter and situation with women.

If you’d really like to learn how to totally reform your thinking, beliefs, attitudes and perceptions about women, and develop a lighting-fast, super-efficient learning system check out my Nail Your Inner Game Program.  This is my best breakthroughs from 20 years of research from helping guys from all around the globe go from stuck to stardom in bed with women.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S.  If you are feeling you’d like to have me as your personal seduction teacher, coach and mentor-have me there personally to hold your hand and walk you through, you can watch some free samples of my Coaching Program videos here,

Dear Speed Seduction(R) Student,

Sometimes guys want to learn more than to pick up women, master seduction, and get hot women into bed.

The other day on my clients-ony Yahoo group, a guy made a post asking for tips on how to get women to buy him, and I quote "lots of stuff".

That’s right.  He doesn’t just want to be  a master of seduction. He wants to be a master of acquisition as well.

Now, I’m all for choosing women who treat you well.  Hell, using Speed Seduction, you can easily take your pick of the women you really want. And if that means women who have $$$ to spend and who spend it on you, more power to you.

However….this guy is making one huge, fundamental error in his thinking about women.

You see, as I explain my report Ten Fatal Mistakes With Women, mistake #1 is focusing on the behaviors you want women to do, rather than the states of mind and emotions from which women would eagerly give you all those behaviors.

Do you get this distinction? It is the emotions a woman feels and her state of mind that determines what she will do.

So learn to create those strong emotional states of fascination, desire, lust, connection and "do this right now".  From those states, she’s far more likely to bounce your bedsprings and think it is HER idea.  And when you want to persuade anyone to do anything it’s always best when….

....They Think It’s Their Own Idea!

(I’ll note in a rather self-congratulatory way that Speed Seduction(R) teaches understandings you can use in any area of life.  Try that with Misery Method or Double Your Masturbating)

Now, there’s one more crucial piece here that really will help you in your quest for satisfaction with women, and it will help this guy as well.

And here it is: make sure you pick good material to work with.

If a woman is inherently a selfish person-if her idea of giving is sharing her herpes-then you aren’t going to transform her into a loving, giving human being.

Or as someone once said to me, "You can polish a brick all day long, but you’ll never shine it into being a mirror".

But you know what?

I’d like to know what YOU think. Has it been your experience that you’ve overfocused way too much on what you want women to do, as opposed to focusing on the emotional states you’d like them to be in?  In what way has overfocusing on their behavior blocked your cock?

Post your comments below me, ok?

Piece and peace,

RJ

P.S. Normally, I require you give me your name and email address to get my 10 Fatal Mistakes Report.  But screw it.  If I’m really going to "move the free line" I may as well start making this kind of thing TOTALLY free. Which means not only not charging money, but also not asking for anything from you, including an email address.  Go ahead and sample my wares TRULY for free. Just  click the link to get your 32 Page FMR right now.

P.P.S. Please subscribe to this blog to start seeing just how far I "move the free line".  I intend to give away lots more in the weeks and months to come to really prove that I’m the top teacher in this community and that Speed Seduction is the top tech for success and satisfaction with women.