Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

A major theme that rears its ugly head in almost any discussion on seduction is the concern about looking “too eager” or approaching a woman with the vibe that how your day turns out depends on how she responds to you right now.

Act TOO eager and she’ll think you’re desperate and shoot you down. Act too aloof and she’ll think you hate her and she won’t go to bed with you, much less agree to meet you later in a more intimate setting. So it leaves you wondering…

… just where the h@ll is the “middle ground” here?

I just got a question from a student who poses this issue from a slightly different angle:

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Hi Ross, I have a question. If I am talking to a girl, I will be trying to get rapport with her. It seems however, that when I’m trying to get rapport with a chick, that she will detect this and then push me away. What do you think I should do in order to obtain rapport without looking like I am “hungry for rapport” if you know what I mean? You know what I mean? Without looking like I’m “trying to get in with her?”

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As Voltaire said, “If you are going to debate with me, first define your terms.”

So, what exactly do you mean by “rapport”…because I think your meaning is way off base.

I think YOU mean, “acceptance, welcoming, interest.” That you are trying to get her to show you all of these things. And that is NOT rapport at all, at least not a useful definition for Sarging.

There are plenty of useful definitions, but one I would aim at is,

“An unconscious sense of connection, trust, ease, a sense of being on a similar wavelength, a relaxed ease in each other’s presence.”

This is quite different from gaining acceptance or being welcomed into the person’s world. Just because she accepts your tubesteak into her wet, willing love canal doesn’t mean you’ve become a part of her existence.

Back in October, a student of mine got laid on the first “date” with a “super squirter chick.” He had a great time with her that night, but their next meeting (three days later) was a bust… in which he didn’t get to see… her bust.

Then, she “dried up” and flaked with a bull%$@t excuse the day before what was supposed to be their third meeting. When he used an anti-flake pattern to get her to speak her truth about the matter, she told him she enjoyed their night together but didn’t feel anything in common and saw no future with him.

When she told him this, he even agreed. During the times he was with her and they weren’t f@@king, it felt to him like he was working to make even basic conversation with her. She wasn’t the kind of woman who responded to who he is and what he gives to the world.

None of the elements of MY definition of “rapport” were in place for him with her. He chose to “exit, stage left” at this point and move on to women who were more receptive to his vibe.

In other words: despite all my student’s angst that whole week about whether she “accepted” him, it was a one-night stand. Period.

The irony is, if he had not worried so much about “building rapport” and becoming “part of her world” per se, and just focused on getting laid (since he had nothing else in common with her but the sex was awesome), he probably would have f@@ked her again… and again… and if that ran its course, possibly nailed one of her hottie friends next.

When deciding where any woman you meet fits in your world, first define your terms for approaching women and life.

Peace and piece,

RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

When you Sarge on the amazing, incredibly sexy women in your world, the goal is to succeed with as many women as possible who meet your standards, based on the screening tools that you use to interpret the feedback they give you.

Like I’ve said: it’s a matter of interpretation. I hear many stories about students of mine who effortlessly approach a woman and use my techniques for getting her aroused and excited, but they don’t “make the move” because they just can’t tell if she’s really interested, or if he goes for the close, she might slap him.

Case in point:

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I would appreciate some good tips from you on “women’s signals of interest”. Also if there are any exceptions to those “signals of interest,” meaning they really may not be what they sound like….I am really terrible at this, although the obvious things are slamming my forehead screaming “Dude, wake up!!! That’s the signal!”

I still somehow hesitate because most of the time I am really unsure and don`t wish to screw up anything – and most importantly lose her as a friend.

Last time I had coffee with a friend of mine, everything was fine. We chatted a little bit and had some really good laughs. Somehow I noticed there may have been some interest from her side. Although she smiled, I still wasn’t too sure if it was a GO or NO GO. I mean, a man can’t simply see a woman’s interest just from her smile, if she is having a good time or laughing about something unless it is you.

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Thank you for your excellent question. My answer is in two parts.

First, let me challenge your thinking. Are you looking to make more friends, or are you looking for Penthouse-worthy erotic encounters with dripping-wet, hot women? I first powerfully approach women, then based on the feedback they give me I decide what category they fit in. When you approach women, you need to be clear on your end goal – and focus ALL of your energy, skills, and power toward claiming that goal.

Second, you don’t need to wait for sure to see if there’s interest on her side. When you use Speed Seduction®, you’ll see the fascination and desire in her face. I call this the “doggy bowl dinner” look.

The student I spoke about on my blog last month who had sex with the squirter on the first date told me that he had encountered challenges “reaching” her during their dinner to the point where he almost took her home early. But back at his place, after some bantering and patterning, she gave him this “look”. He chose to interpret it as her way of nonverbally saying, “it’s on” and powerfully made his move. He used Speed Seduction® to tell the difference.

Peace, piece, and here’s “looking” at much girl-getting success,

Ross Jeffries
Founder, Speed Seduction®

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Yesterday on my blog, I told you about my student who had sex with the super-squirting babe who dried up and flaked on a planned meeting.

24 hours before their next scheduled meeting, she texted him with this: “I have to cancel our plans for tomorrow. I totally forgot about a previous engagement.”

He knew immediately (as did I when he told me) that it was a flake, a line of total malarkey, because she didn’t say she was sorry, didn’t immediately offer to reschedule, and tried to hide behind texting rather than calling him.

A few minutes after I wrote yesterday’s Steaming Hot Seduction Secret, I found myself AGAIN in teacher/mentor mode (the place where I thrive). I wrote out a brand-new Anti-Flake Phone Message Pattern and e-mailed it to him. As you know, I do my best work when I am hands-on with my students, helping them succeed in their specific situations with women.

[For those who are joining me this Sunday (October 25) for our "Afternoon With Ross Jeffries," I will share this message pattern with you, word for word. And if you can't make it, click here anyway and pre-order the DVD recording of the event, and you'll receive the message pattern too.]

Some of the key points of the Anti-Flake Phone Message Pattern (spoken in my student’s voice) are:

• I’m trying to figure out what’s going on and want to open the opportunity for you to tell me
• I’d rather have it on the table or in my face, then behind my back (I use this in one of the screening patterns I use when I Sarge)
• I’ve enjoyed being with you and want to hear what’s going on

As a smart guy who is serious about success with the hottest of super-hot, wet women, he called her that evening and she answered the phone. After she tried to play him off and tell him she wasn’t “in the mood to talk” he had her pause and focus on listening, and then he spoke the Anti-Flake Phone Message Pattern to her, word-for-word.

For a “use a knife to cut the tension in the air” 20 seconds, she was silent. I would venture her previous men have been Average Frustrated Chumps (AFCs) and she’s never been in the presence of a real Speed Seduction® Master who powerfully claims his desire, his skills, his success, and his future. Now she was confronted by a man who doesn’t mess around when it comes to getting what he wants, and realized the “game” she is used to playing with men wasn’t going to work on him.

Then she said, slowly, “I’ve given this a lot of thought and I just don’t think we have much in common. You’ll make a woman happy very soon, but I’m just not feeling this. I’m sorry, I’m really bad at this.”

Whether or not this was THE truth, it was, as far as he’s concerned, “her truth” at the moment. And it wasn’t his job to “figure her out.” In fact, in my debriefing with him he said the only part he really heard was when she said “You’ll make a woman happy very soon.”

Like this pattern? Pretty cool eh? It clears things up so you can focus your energy and efforts on women who will be worth your time. That sure beats a poke in the eye!

And again, if you spend this Sunday afternoon with me (or pre-order the DVD if you can’t make it), I will share these, and others of my brand-new, best-of-the-best Seduction/Pick-up/Personal Change Breakthroughs with you.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. The goal of the Anti-Flake Phone Message Pattern is to get her to step out from behind her game and claim her truth (if she can). In this case, she couldn’t. This is an indicator of how she would behave toward him if their interactions progressed to “seeing each other” and then “boyfriend/girlfriend.” By using the Anti-Flake this early in the interactions with her – the VERY FIRST TIME she flaked on him, he sidestepped a landmine so he can refocus his Sarging efforts toward finding the RIGHT women for him.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Time and again, something that starts out so hot, can turn cold fast in an instant, and for no logical reason.

Many students of mine report that their initial meeting with incredibly hot, horny, WET women goes extremely well – but then, too soon, she dries up, flakes out, and leaves the guy “high and dry.”

I recently worked with a smart guy like you who follows my teachings, who had just such a thing happen.

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Man, has the past week been a whirlwind for me! About ten days ago, I met this stunning hottie while I was out running errands. I ran a 5-minute pickup pattern on her and closed her on the next meeting so fast that even I wondered what the hell just happened.

So, a few days later, we meet, we go to dinner, and we go back to my place. Dinner at the restaurant was good, but dessert – served in bed – was hot and JUICY! This chick came 13 times in 20 minutes. And she SQUIRTS! She came so hard and so often that she couldn’t move her legs for a half hour afterward.

I saw her again a few days later and we went on a more traditional date (that I planned to lead up to another night of passion) but she seemed cold and distant from the moment I picked her up. Knowing I couldn’t open her up that night, I took her home early. I closed her on the next meet and left. That was scheduled for tomorrow. Today, I got a text message from her that says “I have to cancel our plans for tomorrow. I totally forgot about a previous engagement.”

Oh no….the wet squirter chick has dried up! Can I pour some water on this to get it going again?

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Everyone, pay attention to this, this is very important;

When you skipped the “dating rituals” and instead used Speed Seduction® to succeed with this woman you wanted, you experienced what was probably some of the hottest, WETTEST sex of your life. The problem is, this chick is playing a game she doesn’t know how to handle.

She could be shocked that she went to bed with you so quick, and unsure how to approach you. Maybe the sex with you was so intense that it created feelings she can’t handle. Could be she was cheating on her boyfriend with you. Perhaps she was looking for a one-night stand to “ride her hard and put her away wet” and was kidding herself when she took a chance on there being “more.” The “date” you had with her a few days later probably clarified this for her.

This is life in the fast lane, fellas. With Speed Seduction®, however, you can bypass all the dating b.s. and find the “gusher” who will be your “Old Faithful” and spray again and again.

Get off your Seduction a@@ and back on your Sarging horse – she’s out there waiting and wet for you.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. One more point. You will never really know what “changed” for her. It’s not your job to figure it out.

YOUR job is to take the girl-getting skills that worked (the 5-minute pickup, the first meeting that led to her soaking your bed with her girl juice), and apply them to the next 10 women you meet who are even hotter than this one particular squirter chick.

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