Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

I recently received an e-mail from a student who has taken the “Up To Speed With Speed Seduction®” course that is part of our Coaching Program.

The challenge he shared speaks to one of the fears that many smart guys have – what if I touch her and she really doesn’t like it?

Here’s the situation:

He and his female friend were parked in his car, and during the course of their encounter he touched her boobs.  She freaked out and demanded he take her home, which he did.

Now, he  tried calling her a few days later, only for her to angrily tell him to f&$# off and not call him again.  What he’s trying to figure out is, why is she so mad?  They’ve known each other for a long time, and it’s not like he touched her boobs often.  Why did she explode on him?  Since then, nothing.  Text messages he sends her get no response.  No more phone calls.  No more meetings. 

Why Did Him Touching Her Boobs
Rub Her The Wrong Way?

A couple points to ponder.

First, foremost, important-most and uppermost: it’s one thing to touch a woman in a way that excites her and builds her connection to you, and it’s another thing to grope her.  Before you tested her melons, what work have you done with touching in general?  There are many touches that are subtle but unmistakable in how you build a rapport, and a power that makes her WANT to do your bidding.  The back-of-the-neck thing is just one example.

Second, when you made a grab for her boobs, did you work your way up to it, so that this was a natural next step?  Or did you just reach out and give them a good squeeze?  Was it within the context of something else, such as holding her close from behind while pondering the view from wherever you were parked and letting your hands explore invited?

Third, this student also suspects she likes when he takes her out to dinner, to shows, and the like.   If this is the pattern you’ve set, it creates, in and of itself, a No Boobies Zone.

Long-time aficionados of Ross Jeffries Uncensored will remember the super-squirter who dried up and flaked.  After that first night of gushing delight, my student’s next move with her, 4 days later, was to take her to dinner and a show.

Money-wise, he spent $7.50 on the coffee meeting that led to her coming home with him, then ponied up almost $100 on a “date” where he had to compete for her attention with her iPhone and she outright asked to end the night early.  There was no “next night.”

Fourth, what was YOUR reaction? Were you a deer in the headlights when she looked at you after your hands made contact?  Did you have a “recovery pattern” on tap to re-frame the experience, get her calmed down, and restore the earlier vibe so you could try again later?  Could be, she freaked out because YOU freaked out.

Let me conclude by adding: a woman’s immediate reaction should never be interpreted as her “final answer.”  But if you went into panic mode, you might have helped her get there herself.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Sarging, creating irresistible arousal, getting laid, developing a real relationship, is a journey, not a one-shot deal.  Like any journey, you’ll hit potholes, have to take detours and rest stops, and everything else.   To make it to your destination, you need to know how to adjust the travel plan as these things happen in order to make it to the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle.   And this will show you how.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Ten weeks.

In the grand scheme of things, not a lot of time.  Most people I know have gone at least ten weeks between a job interview and getting the job.  Some of the worst TV shows ever have lasted at least ten weeks before they mercifully pulled the plug. Many musical acts go from club acts to Top 40 legends selling out 20,000+ venues… in 10 weeks.

Ever been told that something would happen “within sixty days”?  Well, ten weeks is just sixty days with an extra week and change thrown in.

If you observe Halloween (a holiday less scary than Desperate Supplicators’ Day on February 14), that’s less than ten weeks away from right now.

So, what could YOU accomplish in ten weeks?  How could life be different for you, in ten weeks?

When students ask me “how long does it take for this stuff to work?” I ask them back: when you apply my girl-getting teaching, think what it could be like in ten weeks, if you start right now.

Not only having the confidence, but actually having it be commonplace and routine, to walk right up to any woman, anytime, anywhere.

Knowing that if she throws you a curveball, you’ll not only catch it, but you’ll pitch it back (straight into her glove).  And you’ll score a home run with her.

Instead of being a guy who waits, you’ll be a man who powerfully claims his choice of the most beautiful, appealing, exciting, compatible women.

Hell, imagine within ten weeks, going from a dry spell to getting laid repeatedly.  One of my students tells me again and again how in less than ten weeks (more like 20 days) he went from hoping that some hot chick might like him someday, to hoping he remembered to pick up the other bedclothes from the laundry because he had a “squirter” in his bed.

It takes effort.  It takes sticktoitiveness.  So does learning to ride a bicycle.  But once you acquire and master the skills, you’ll be two-wheeling for life.

What will YOUR life be like in ten weeks from now? Hell, what will it be like on December 31 (just over 16 weeks away) when you size up how the year has gone for you?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

Let me address the naysayers.  As some of you pointed out, by e-mailing or commenting the various student questions I’ve shared in this week’s “mail bag” series, the answers would SEEM simple.

I won’t quote a specific e-mail here, in this (the last installment of the “mail bag” series for now) because I’ve gotten a handful over the course of the year that say substantially the same thing – someone actually tried to call bullshit on me.  Yeah.  Really.

Now, in some of the cases we’ve studied this past week, there are a couple different ways the situation could have gone (like with the chick who told my student after-the-fact that she has a boyfriend).  But for seasoned, experienced students, the answers seemed, to some of you, almost Captain Obvious.  Yeah, I get that, except…

…There Are Some Additional Ingredients (Literally) Causing A Volatile Brew In Men’s Brains Right Now

Look: here in the States, a lot of energy is spent debating whether marijuana should be legalized.  FORGET Mary Jane for a minute… and let’s discuss the impact of consuming Debbie’s pu@@y, which is a much more potent and mind-altering substance than the grass-like stuff they also use to make paper, rope, and shirts.

Here is just a PARTIAL list of the chemicals that various scientific research studies show get released in your brain every time your ride in the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle reaches its destination: adrenaline (aka epinephrine), dopamine, endorphins, testosterone, oxytocin, serotonin, prolactin, norepinephrine, vasopressin, phenylethylamine, and the list goes on.  (Plus, don’t forget the impact of your ego when the hottest chick you’ve ever nailed tells you “wow, I’ve never actually SQUIRTED before…” as you hope you remembered to pick up the other set of bedsheets from the laundromat.)

These releases do everything from make you want to take a nap right after you finish, to causing a flare-up of Oneitis, and everything in between.  Over time they lead to the eventual transition in relationships where the passion seems to die off even while fondness and long-term attachment grows.

These are also the reasons why you’ll often find that “Exit, Stage Left” is suddenly easier-said-than-done even though it’s “obvious” you need to move on, and “intellectually” you GET it but you can’t seem to DO it.  When your friends starting singing in-chorus that “you can do a lot better than that tramp”, look to your brain for the reasons why you aren’t heeding their advice.

By the way, same thing when you wrestle with Jimmy while thinking about a chick you haven’t had sex with yet.  The chemicals still flow through your brain at the “peak” of your thoughts even though she’s not actually there, and now it’s associated with her every time you think about her or see her.  This leads to Oneitis, which more often than not leads to celibacy.

It’s also the reason why you find yourself highly attracted to women you see in real life who remind you of your favorite porn star (and why you like porn featuring chicks who look like women you really enjoyed f@@king, or want to f@@k but haven’t yet).

Pu@@y needs to be recognized as a controlled substance, I tell you. But even if it was, if getting some was wrong, I wouldn’t want to be right.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

A major theme that rears its ugly head in almost any discussion on seduction is the concern about looking “too eager” or approaching a woman with the vibe that how your day turns out depends on how she responds to you right now.

Act TOO eager and she’ll think you’re desperate and shoot you down. Act too aloof and she’ll think you hate her and she won’t go to bed with you, much less agree to meet you later in a more intimate setting. So it leaves you wondering…

… just where the h@ll is the “middle ground” here?

I just got a question from a student who poses this issue from a slightly different angle:

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Hi Ross, I have a question. If I am talking to a girl, I will be trying to get rapport with her. It seems however, that when I’m trying to get rapport with a chick, that she will detect this and then push me away. What do you think I should do in order to obtain rapport without looking like I am “hungry for rapport” if you know what I mean? You know what I mean? Without looking like I’m “trying to get in with her?”

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As Voltaire said, “If you are going to debate with me, first define your terms.”

So, what exactly do you mean by “rapport”…because I think your meaning is way off base.

I think YOU mean, “acceptance, welcoming, interest.” That you are trying to get her to show you all of these things. And that is NOT rapport at all, at least not a useful definition for Sarging.

There are plenty of useful definitions, but one I would aim at is,

“An unconscious sense of connection, trust, ease, a sense of being on a similar wavelength, a relaxed ease in each other’s presence.”

This is quite different from gaining acceptance or being welcomed into the person’s world. Just because she accepts your tubesteak into her wet, willing love canal doesn’t mean you’ve become a part of her existence.

Back in October, a student of mine got laid on the first “date” with a “super squirter chick.” He had a great time with her that night, but their next meeting (three days later) was a bust… in which he didn’t get to see… her bust.

Then, she “dried up” and flaked with a bull%$@t excuse the day before what was supposed to be their third meeting. When he used an anti-flake pattern to get her to speak her truth about the matter, she told him she enjoyed their night together but didn’t feel anything in common and saw no future with him.

When she told him this, he even agreed. During the times he was with her and they weren’t f@@king, it felt to him like he was working to make even basic conversation with her. She wasn’t the kind of woman who responded to who he is and what he gives to the world.

None of the elements of MY definition of “rapport” were in place for him with her. He chose to “exit, stage left” at this point and move on to women who were more receptive to his vibe.

In other words: despite all my student’s angst that whole week about whether she “accepted” him, it was a one-night stand. Period.

The irony is, if he had not worried so much about “building rapport” and becoming “part of her world” per se, and just focused on getting laid (since he had nothing else in common with her but the sex was awesome), he probably would have f@@ked her again… and again… and if that ran its course, possibly nailed one of her hottie friends next.

When deciding where any woman you meet fits in your world, first define your terms for approaching women and life.

Peace and piece,

RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

When you Sarge on the amazing, incredibly sexy women in your world, the goal is to succeed with as many women as possible who meet your standards, based on the screening tools that you use to interpret the feedback they give you.

Like I’ve said: it’s a matter of interpretation. I hear many stories about students of mine who effortlessly approach a woman and use my techniques for getting her aroused and excited, but they don’t “make the move” because they just can’t tell if she’s really interested, or if he goes for the close, she might slap him.

Case in point:

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I would appreciate some good tips from you on “women’s signals of interest”. Also if there are any exceptions to those “signals of interest,” meaning they really may not be what they sound like….I am really terrible at this, although the obvious things are slamming my forehead screaming “Dude, wake up!!! That’s the signal!”

I still somehow hesitate because most of the time I am really unsure and don`t wish to screw up anything – and most importantly lose her as a friend.

Last time I had coffee with a friend of mine, everything was fine. We chatted a little bit and had some really good laughs. Somehow I noticed there may have been some interest from her side. Although she smiled, I still wasn’t too sure if it was a GO or NO GO. I mean, a man can’t simply see a woman’s interest just from her smile, if she is having a good time or laughing about something unless it is you.

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Thank you for your excellent question. My answer is in two parts.

First, let me challenge your thinking. Are you looking to make more friends, or are you looking for Penthouse-worthy erotic encounters with dripping-wet, hot women? I first powerfully approach women, then based on the feedback they give me I decide what category they fit in. When you approach women, you need to be clear on your end goal – and focus ALL of your energy, skills, and power toward claiming that goal.

Second, you don’t need to wait for sure to see if there’s interest on her side. When you use Speed Seduction®, you’ll see the fascination and desire in her face. I call this the “doggy bowl dinner” look.

The student I spoke about on my blog last month who had sex with the squirter on the first date told me that he had encountered challenges “reaching” her during their dinner to the point where he almost took her home early. But back at his place, after some bantering and patterning, she gave him this “look”. He chose to interpret it as her way of nonverbally saying, “it’s on” and powerfully made his move. He used Speed Seduction® to tell the difference.

Peace, piece, and here’s “looking” at much girl-getting success,

Ross Jeffries
Founder, Speed Seduction®

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Yesterday on my blog, I told you about my student who had sex with the super-squirting babe who dried up and flaked on a planned meeting.

24 hours before their next scheduled meeting, she texted him with this: “I have to cancel our plans for tomorrow. I totally forgot about a previous engagement.”

He knew immediately (as did I when he told me) that it was a flake, a line of total malarkey, because she didn’t say she was sorry, didn’t immediately offer to reschedule, and tried to hide behind texting rather than calling him.

A few minutes after I wrote yesterday’s Steaming Hot Seduction Secret, I found myself AGAIN in teacher/mentor mode (the place where I thrive). I wrote out a brand-new Anti-Flake Phone Message Pattern and e-mailed it to him. As you know, I do my best work when I am hands-on with my students, helping them succeed in their specific situations with women.

Some of the key points of the Anti-Flake Phone Message Pattern (spoken in my student’s voice) are:

• I’m trying to figure out what’s going on and want to open the opportunity for you to tell me
• I’d rather have it on the table or in my face, then behind my back (I use this in one of the screening patterns I use when I Sarge)
• I’ve enjoyed being with you and want to hear what’s going on

As a smart guy who is serious about success with the hottest of super-hot, wet women, he called her that evening and she answered the phone. After she tried to play him off and tell him she wasn’t “in the mood to talk” he had her pause and focus on listening, and then he spoke the Anti-Flake Phone Message Pattern to her, word-for-word.

For a “use a knife to cut the tension in the air” 20 seconds, she was silent. I would venture her previous men have been Average Frustrated Chumps (AFCs) and she’s never been in the presence of a real Speed Seduction® Master who powerfully claims his desire, his skills, his success, and his future. Now she was confronted by a man who doesn’t mess around when it comes to getting what he wants, and realized the “game” she is used to playing with men wasn’t going to work on him.

Then she said, slowly, “I’ve given this a lot of thought and I just don’t think we have much in common. You’ll make a woman happy very soon, but I’m just not feeling this. I’m sorry, I’m really bad at this.”

Whether or not this was THE truth, it was, as far as he’s concerned, “her truth” at the moment. And it wasn’t his job to “figure her out.” In fact, in my debriefing with him he said the only part he really heard was when she said “You’ll make a woman happy very soon.”

Like this pattern? Pretty cool eh? It clears things up so you can focus your energy and efforts on women who will be worth your time. That sure beats a poke in the eye!

For those of you who claim access to the brand-new Speed Seduction® Secret Training Collection, among the bonuses you will find an e-book that contains several actual, word-for-word patterns that overcome any “phone flake” situation.  Including the one where this student clarified that the super-squirter was indeed “all wet” and he could, and would, do much, much better.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. The goal of the Anti-Flake Phone Message Pattern is to get her to step out from behind her game and claim her truth (if she can). In this case, she couldn’t. This is an indicator of how she would behave toward him if their interactions progressed to “seeing each other” and then “boyfriend/girlfriend.” By using the Anti-Flake this early in the interactions with her – the VERY FIRST TIME she flaked on him, he sidestepped a landmine so he can refocus his Sarging efforts toward finding the RIGHT women for him.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Time and again, something that starts out so hot, can turn cold fast in an instant, and for no logical reason.

Many students of mine report that their initial meeting with incredibly hot, horny, WET women goes extremely well – but then, too soon, she dries up, flakes out, and leaves the guy “high and dry.”

I recently worked with a smart guy like you who follows my teachings, who had just such a thing happen.

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Man, has the past week been a whirlwind for me! About ten days ago, I met this stunning hottie while I was out running errands. I ran a 5-minute pickup pattern on her and closed her on the next meeting so fast that even I wondered what the hell just happened.

So, a few days later, we meet, we go to dinner, and we go back to my place. Dinner at the restaurant was good, but dessert – served in bed – was hot and JUICY! This chick came 13 times in 20 minutes. And she SQUIRTS! She came so hard and so often that she couldn’t move her legs for a half hour afterward.

I saw her again a few days later and we went on a more traditional date (that I planned to lead up to another night of passion) but she seemed cold and distant from the moment I picked her up. Knowing I couldn’t open her up that night, I took her home early. I closed her on the next meet and left. That was scheduled for tomorrow. Today, I got a text message from her that says “I have to cancel our plans for tomorrow. I totally forgot about a previous engagement.”

Oh no….the wet squirter chick has dried up! Can I pour some water on this to get it going again?

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Everyone, pay attention to this, this is very important;

When you skipped the “dating rituals” and instead used Speed Seduction® to succeed with this woman you wanted, you experienced what was probably some of the hottest, WETTEST sex of your life. The problem is, this chick is playing a game she doesn’t know how to handle.

She could be shocked that she went to bed with you so quick, and unsure how to approach you. Maybe the sex with you was so intense that it created feelings she can’t handle. Could be she was cheating on her boyfriend with you. Perhaps she was looking for a one-night stand to “ride her hard and put her away wet” and was kidding herself when she took a chance on there being “more.” The “date” you had with her a few days later probably clarified this for her.

This is life in the fast lane, fellas. With Speed Seduction®, however, you can bypass all the dating b.s. and find the “gusher” who will be your “Old Faithful” and spray again and again.

Get off your Seduction a@@ and back on your Sarging horse – she’s out there waiting and wet for you.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. One more point. You will never really know what “changed” for her. It’s not your job to figure it out.

YOUR job is to take the girl-getting skills that worked (the 5-minute pickup, the first meeting that led to her soaking your bed with her girl juice), and apply them to the next 10 women you meet who are even hotter than this one particular squirter chick.

P.P.S. With what I teach you about this principle throughout the 7 DVDs and 11 CDS in Speed Seduction® 3.0, you’ll have everything you need to handle matters when the squirting chick “dries up” on you.

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