Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

I hear a lot about how certain “types” of women must (supposedly) be approached in a certain way.  Like, due to who she is and what “lifestyle” or whatever she leads, there’s a certain specific way a man can reach her if he really wants to succeed with her.

For example, punk/goth chicks.  You know the kind – nerdy, art school grad, tattooed-and-pierced, roller-derby, graphic designer types, with glasses.

A student of mine was wondering what “puzzle piece” he was missing when it came to Sarging them, like there was “something about” them that he just couldn’t figure out:

> It has to do with some kind of fascination they have with horror movies/splatter films (brain eating zombies, etc). They seem to all love them a lot. I would like to take whatever deeply moves them about that (it does seem to me to be very visceral thing they react to very powerfully. Is it love of danger? Is it totally about the body feelings of terror/fright? Is it the visual component of seeing that graphic image occur on screen, what?
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…In other words, what patterns/approaches can be used with chicks like this to re-direct those feelings and energies into a sexual way? And to connect them to me?

RJ again.  Here is a principle…

When in doubt, ASK.

ASK in a way that captures and leads her imagination and emotions AND gathers useful information.

Like, “What is your favorite all time splatter film? Who are your favorite characters and what do you like about them the most?”

Let her talk. Get curious about her answers. Ask questions that develop and accelerate the answers by feeding back bits of previous answers.

This is known as “recursion”. Using what you gain in a previous step to make the next step more effective.

So:

Question 1:

Response 1:

Question 2: (uses response 1-(her personal trance words, her non-verbal responses, personal anchors etc)

Response 2: (which is now even stronger as you’ve feed back what you learned from Response 1)

And so on and so forth.  Get it?

Ok, so using this, come up with your own possible series of questions.

Report back on it here… or share with me now, experiences you’ve already had.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. When you know what to look for and how to use a woman’s emotional responses, she will actually provide almost all of the energy for the seduction.  You’ll learn all about this and much, much, much, much, MUCH more at a live 3-day seminar.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

More than once, I’ve heard from men who were scared to use my patterns for getting women irresistibly aroused (i.e. “And as you sit there looking at me, thinking about what I’m saying, you can remember what it felt like…”)

There are a number of reasons – fear of “getting caught”, worry about her laughing so hard her drink comes out her nose and the mood is ruined, concern she might think “he’s trying to get me in bed, no dice fella”.  Other reasons too.

Here’s what’s important: just because you fear doing it, doesn’t mean it won’t work.

And, if you really tune in with clarity, it isn’t fear that stops you.

It is the internal sense of suffering that is produced when two conflicting desires – the desire to say it and the desire to keep your mouth shut – bump up against each other and create tremendous internal noise and friction.

You are going to have to let go of your need for certainty and guarantees BEFORE you open your mouth or I GUARANTEE you will never make any progress AND never know what works.

“You must let go of the NEED to know.”

Nothing wrong with PREFERRING to know.

But it’s only a preference.

And if any individual woman laughs at you or asks why you are talking funny, your world won’t shake apart. Even if wave after wave of humiliation should wash over you, don’t resist it or tighten up or turn away. Relax into it and it just turns into energy.

But she may just jump your bones and beg to be fucked.

And that sure beats a poke in the eye.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

It happens to beginners… AND from time to time, even to skilled Speed Seduction® masters.  (VERY rarely, but it can happen to ANYONE, so don’t beat yourself up, just keep reading).

You know the feeling.  You see her.  She’s hot.  Real hot. You’ve seen her in your dreams, and now here she is.  Sitting alone.  Wearing that svelte dress that was sewn just for her scintillatingly salacious body.  She might as well be wearing a sign that says “Come Hither” with your name on it. It’s “go” time.  Time to take that bold step forward.

But then it hits you.

First it’s like a weight in the pit of your stomach.  Then it grows, moving up your solar plexus through your chest and up to the back of your throat. Your notice that your face feels a little warm as well. Your heart beat increases, and your breathing becomes more rapid. Your feet also feel heavy, almost like they’re stuck to the floor.

You know how this story ends, right?  MISSION ABORTED.

Well guess what…

…That’s all about to end!

Here’s the key: view this as an opportunity to learn HOW your body produces anxiety.

The next time this happens, just relax, and rather than trying to fight it or push through it, PAY ATTENTION.

Notice where IN YOUR BODY the feelings of anxiety first arise. Where do they start? Where do they spread to? What is the quality of the feeling… is it cold? Warm? Does it run only on the surface or deep inside?

What happens to the rest of your bodily awareness when this happens?  What are you doing with your breathing?  Just observe.

DO NOT TRY TO CHANGE ANY OF IT!

Just observe it, objectively and carefully. Don’t try to get into action or talk to any girl. Just observe your bodily response WITHOUT JUDGMENT.

That is the first step. Do this and see if you can find your way over to her now.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

According to my customer service manager, one of the biggest things that students ask is where can they get even more word-for-word patterns.

You’ll find them in many of my courses – for example, I cover “Twin Brothers” at great length on the Irresistible Arousal DVD that’s included with the Power Pack.

But for today, instead of “more” patterns, let me state that most guys would be better served by learning to use the patterns they already know more powerfully.

I would also add: the best “pattern” is to evoke a woman’s own responses and processes and use them.

In this respect, the most capable Speed Seducer might be MISTAKENLY viewed as “passive”, in that, rather than seeking to create something that is not there, he instead seeks to evoke what IS there, stimulate it to life, seize hold of it and direct it to his intent.

In other words, we stay VERY strong in our intent, yet we use what is given to us by the other person, once we have them sufficiently stimulated to be responding in useful ways…from the deeper structures and processes in her body/mind.

We tune in…listen…use our intuition..use our ability to stimulate the useful processes and responses in her to life. We may seem to the untrained to be “sensitive” but in fact, we are providing a STRONG lead the entire time.

To balance this strong intent…STRONGLY LEADING…yet being open to her responses. THAT is the balance.

This balance can take months to get good at, and years to master, but once you get it, it becomes very hard NOT to attract.

Now, what are the things that get in the way of this? How can we, like sculptors, remove what doesn’t belong in us so we can get to the essence of the skills?

Removing What Is In The Way

First, we must remove our old ways of seeing women. We can see like any other guy, the things that all guys appreciate: boobs, butts, legs, lips, vulva. All good, all fine, all right…IN THE RIGHT PLACE AND TIME.

We must also learn, however, to see differently and to listen in a different way.

Talk to a woman. Stimulate her mind and imagination in a certain way, and within 2 minutes she is telling you how she can feel her uterus contracting when she is attracted to someone and you get the sound she makes to herself when she feels it..not because she says, “Oh, and I make THIS sound… ummmmmmmmmmmm… when I feel that.”

No, I’m just listening, and as she describes the process, she makes the sound at the end of it. Ummmmmmmmmm.

Now, I am listening for what I can use and NOT what stimulates ME!

Ummmmmmmmmmm is HER verbal anchor for that state.

So, for a while anyway, we must learn to put aside our own stimulation or turn it down. That is the first thing many guys most remove.

Second, we must learn to remove old beliefs about what we have to do to attract women and instead learn to look at HER processes and responses. Like the good Lord, SHE will provide what we need…IF we know how to look and listen for it and how to stimulate it into life..and HOW to use it once we have it.

Listen AND Lead

A student of mine told me he was speaking with a woman on the phone with someone with whom he’d had some brief conversations but they’d been playing phone tag.

He took the lead and said, “Why don’t we make a firm plan to meet for an hour so we can explore what is obviously intriguing us both?”

He suggested time. She said, “okayyyyyyyyy” but he noticed it was not a firm, enthusiastic “ok”. He NOTICED. He used his skill to listen. Then he moved to a STRONG lead.

He said, “you know, I want to make sure this is something we both enthusiastically want and “okayyyyyyy” is not the same as “ok…YES!”. THAT’S what I need to hear if we are going to do this. So why don’t we try later in the evening? 8PM I will meet you at _____________

She tried suggesting another place. He said, “Is it quiet? I want a quiet place to talk, so let’s meet at _____________ as I said before”.

She said, ENTHUSIASTICALLY and with FULL agreement, “OK! I’m looking forward to it!”

Now, this is a SIMPLE example… Not dripping with juice or phone sex, but simple and important. He NOTICED her response, brought it out to the surface, and redirected things WITH A STRONG LEAD.

You see, macho doesn’t work because MACHO DOESN’T NOTICE OR LISTEN. So it only works on women who are dumb or weak or destroyed enough to not want to be heard.

Just listening doesn’t work, because WOMEN WANT A STRONG LEAD. You must listen to her responses then STRONGLY LEAD her using them and what you’ve learned from them.

Do both.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

To truly grasp, harness, and master the mighty power that comes with getting all the women your heart desires, you must gain a firm hold on not only the patterns and techniques, but the manner in which these are created.

Many students follow the patterns and phrases I teach, word-for-word, and are getting chicks like crazy.  And I might add, at the same time handling their business and not getting sidelined by crazy chicks.

One of my students explained to me how he uses a specific sequence of songs from his favorite musician, drawing levels of a woman’s attention to certain lyric snippets, things about the music and the beat, and changes in the singer’s voice.  He has her experience the music, then trace her feelings about the music and feed it back to him.

He actually invented this on the fly, exactly one year ago today, when he was “stuck” on a Sarge and having a hard time opening her up.  He often forgets his lines so memorizing “Twin Brothers” or “Discovery Channel” isn’t a walk in the park for him.

But yet, after an evening with her punctuated by awkward silences and repeated failed attempts to rev her up, this improvised music pattern had her dragging him into his bedroom and throwing herself at him in less than 20 minutes. 

I mean, he knows the music inside and out.  He listens to it every damn day.  Why SHOULDN’T he put it to work for him, getting him more women?   Now, you already figured out – it’s not the songs.  It’s what my student does with them.

And how was my student just able to “make this up” and then be able to easily recreate and re-use it (he’s used it successfully at least three times since then)?

It’s a version (a crude albeit effective version) of something known as “demo construction“  When you create a “demo” and use it on a woman, you achieve many things:

1. It allows you to test to see how she responds to instructions
2. It allows you to test to see how suggestible she is
3. It conditions her to follow directions and sets the frame that SHE is the one who must perform for YOU.
4. It takes feelings in her body and amplifies, putting them under YOUR control AND at the same time, making them more vivid and more REAL for HER and thus more controllable by YOU.
5. It allows her to confirm for herself that she is enjoying the experience and wants to reach for more, thus creating the illusion of participation.
6. It creates fascination and intrigue on her part, and the perception that you are unique, powerful, and someone from whom she can really experience, enjoy and learn.

Now, if you ask me, being able to make up your own patterns, using proven seduction techniques, translating the things you enjoy into more enjoyment with the ladies?  This, my friends, is a song we can all dance to.  Dance in the sheets, that is.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Everybody has their own “Sarging zone.”

For some guys, it’s the bars and clubs.  Others lay their mack down at the bookstores and coffee shops.

I have students who go grocery shopping every day, buying just what they need to make dinner that day, because it keeps them in play daily in a place where women of all levels of hotness can be found, pretty much any time.

Others, I kid you not, religiously attend services every week because there are a lot of women there.  (Something can be said for that: you know from the jump you have something in common that’s extremely important to both of you!)

So how annoying is it when you’re at a bar or club and you just want to hang out and enjoy a couple drinks, and your buddies keep razzing you because you just don’t want to walk right up to that hottie up at the bar, right this second.  Even worse when they say “Awww come on, show us some of that Speed Seduction® stuff you talk about.  Show us how you ‘Sarge’ will ya?”

While one of the goals of Speed Seduction® is the ability to effortlessly and fearlessly meet women anytime, anyhow, anywhere, THAT DOESN’T MEAN YOU HAVE TO, EVERY SINGLE FREAKING TIME.

Maybe you’re at the bookstore because you want to buy a f@@king BOOK.  Maybe you have a headache, or you just found out your investments bellied-up and you’re just not thinking about getting laid RIGHT THAT SECOND.

So, why, when you’re in a club, do you HAVE to do this or that?  Is there some rule that forces you to turn into a hound-dog just because you saw it in some movie?

Look: at 51 years of age, I DON’T GO TO CLUBS.  It’s just not my thing.  I CAN and DO easily pick-up women in almost any other environment. As in VERY easily. So if someone’s giving you a hard time because, on a finger-snap, you’re not racing up to every single woman like a Pavlovian dog, first of all have compassion.  Could be your friends mean well, but they aren’t getting any and are looking to live vicariously through you.

Part of the power of Speed Seduction® is the power of CHOICE.  You CHOOSE what you want to do at this very moment.  Maybe in a moment from now, you’ll see the woman you CHOOSE to approach and claim your results with.  That, to me, beats a “friendly jab”… or a poke in the eye!

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

It’s an oft-told story…

Boy meets Girl in an “everyday” setting.

Girl smiles and giggles oh-so-cute and Boy sees the door open and beckoning.

Boy strikes up a little convo.  Girl’s answer to his innocent-yet-obviously-leading question (the one where he asks her out without actually f@@king ASKING) leaves him stumped even though it’s plain-as-daylight stuff.

Let’s hear from a student who felt like he just got “traded down to the minors” off such a seemingly innocent response:

The other day, I went to a local clothing store because I needed to pick up a couple things.  I was greeted by a cute, bubbly sales associate.  I said hi and bought a belt and a few other things (I was there for that in the first place).  I commented on her style, then I left.  But – as if opportunity was raining down from heaven, I had forgotten my cell phone, so I went back and said I lost it!

She asked for my number so we could call it and hear it ring.  Lo and behold, it fell off while I was trying on the belt and landed under a rack with fall jackets on it.  Heard it ring and picked it up.  Then I asked where she lived, and her name, and if she had plans for the evening.  She said she was going to relax at her place.

I didn’t know what to say, so I left (with her phone number, and her name). She seemed interested in me, and I was wondering what I could do to get in contact with her, and get her to meet me. Can you help me?

Let me start with the Captain Obvious answer: call her and and f@@king ask her out.

Don’t try to figure out if she really seemed interested… or just being all cute and flirty to loosen up your wallet by tightening up your Johnson (something that, uh, RARELY happens in the real world and is, uh, NEVER done on purpose).  Besides, your memory of actual events is probably distorted by now over hot you think she is… and how hot you wish, hope, and pray she was FOR YOU.

But think about what you’re asking her (or the next woman, when you go back for cuff links):

You asked where she lived (which DOESN’T MATTER until you go back to her place for some EEE-RRR-EEE-RRR), her name (was she wearing a nametag, as a sales associate in a retail store?), and what she was doing tonight (other than breathing and eventually sleeping?)

Were THESE the questions she was being called upon to answer while sidelined from making money so she can pay her rent?  What did her responses tell you about her “vibe” and what inspires her, so you could use it to anchor her emotions and get her excited and irresistibly aroused at-will?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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