Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

My recent posts on women who “run hot and cold” have struck quite a nerve.

I’m getting a ton of e-mails and responses, so I know this is an issue that many smart guys like you, including those in my Speed Seduction® Coaching Program, need assistance getting handled.

Now, talk about “hot and cold” – this next letter comes from a student who is Sarging on a woman who goes from naming the kids and planning weekends with the in-laws to not returning his calls, just like that… and he just recently met her!

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The woman in particular is an attractive, 25 yr old small-business owner who seemed to open up very quickly. I met her friends and family right away and we spent a lot of time together. She talked about children’s names and eluded to “our in-laws.” She almost disappeared July 4th and within a week of extreme distance said “you’re not like anyone I’ve ever dated and I don’t know why I’m pushing away what I truly want.”

She bought me gifts and a card the second time we went out, text me many times throughout the day and seemed so sweet, compassionate and just wonderfully feminine.

I’m not sure what went wrong but it sucks, bad. What do you guys think? Did I kill the attraction?

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First of all, what does “open up very quickly” mean? DID YOU F@@K HER? DID YOU F@@K HER? DID YOU F@@K HER? (That’s a yes or no question – you did or you didn’t.)

Frequently in the “Steaming Hot Seduction Secrets” ezines I hammer the point that “dating is what you do with women you’re already sleeping with!” Why?

Because when the interaction turns to “dating,” women instinctively pull out their “checklist” of what the “perfect man” is and start rating whether you are “her type.” If you have not yet connected with her emotionally and set the “anchors” that make any “checklist” irrelevant, you don’t want to be “dating” her.

For the same reason, I’m not in a hurry to meet family and friends. It puts too much “meaning” on things, and immediately that often triggers a woman’s “is he REALLY the one” fractionation / emotional interruption mechanism.

Now, she’s talking about kids’ names and in-laws that early on? That means she is trying out that kind of thinking because she thinks it is how she SHOULD be thinking instead of wanting to go out with her girlfriends, get laid, have fun, etc. She’s trying to convince herself.

Right now, you’re in knots from her “running hot and cold” (the gifts and cards, followed by the “extreme distance”) because you are hooked on the validation and attention. So when she pulls it away, you freak out, get clingy, drive her away, instead of being aware of that response as it first arises and being able to redirect.

It’s time to break the “hot and cold” cycle caused by your need for validation by this (or ANY) woman, and find the woman (or women) who will just want consistent, steaming-hot fun.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. Starting now, forget about ever again being confused by a woman’s emotional 180s, her fluctuations between wanting you and pushing you away, her last minute buyers remorse, contradictory signals, sudden loss of interest and other up until now deeply frustrating and seemingly irrational actions.

With what I teach you throughout the 7 DVDs and 11 CDS of Speed Seduction® 3.0, you’ll be in charge as the effortless seduction architect of every interaction and situation.

Claim yours now, and stop letting her “give it and take it away” – for good!

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

About a week ago on my blog, I told you the story of the student who was facing challenges from a hot babe who kept cranking his faucet knob by “running hot and cold,” with the end result that she wasn’t cranking his other knob.

Last night, I received an e-mail from one of you who tells a similar tale, but with an interesting twist. And it got me thinking. So, let me share it with you now along with some more insights to help you create irresistible arousal and avoid the trap of “getting cranked”:

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My situation is that me and this incredible babe I’ve been seeing are probably more in the category of “intimate” in the sense that we are not just flirting and being sexual but there is also lots of holding hands and hugs, etc., and I have always stayed the night instead of it just being “hit and run.” We dont see that much of each other – maybe about once a week – so I can’t say things are really serious. Although, what I would like to know from her is would she like it to be serious!

However, and this is the big BUT…. I like affection, I like intimacy and the problem lies in that I will often if not always find myself initiating kissing with her, and sometimes I go to kiss her and she kind of doesn’t react at all, like she holds her mouth still, which I find weird. She is also texting me alot saying she can’t wait to get her hands on me and other flirty stuff. But when we are together in person she is far more reserved.

In the past, I would chase girls or frighten them away (especially the the ones I like), hence I want to learn from my mistakes and not do it again.

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I have three rules to share, or rather, axioms:

Rule/Axiom #1:

CONFUSED PEOPLE BEHAVE IN CONFUSING WAYS.

It sounds to me like this lady can’t tell what she wants, from what she’s getting, from what she thinks she SHOULD want, etc etc.
You’re spending the night on the “every so often” occasions you see her. She acts all excited with anticipation when there’s a date planned, but then when you kiss her, she doesn’t move her lips?

Rule/Axiom #2:

IN ANY CONFLICT BETWEEN WHAT A WOMAN SAYS AND WHAT A WOMAN DOES, PAY ATTENTION AND GIVE WEIGHT TO WHAT SHE ****DOES****

As a Seduction master, it’s your job to receive and interpret the “vibe” she puts out, and feed it back to her in a way that gets her hot and bothered and inserting you into her fantasies, so when she lives them out, she lives them out with you.

Rule/Axiom #3:

WOMEN ARE CHAOTIC SYSTEMS. AS SUCH, WHAT THEY WANT AND WHAT THEY “RESPOND” TO MAY VARY FROM DAY TO DAY, WEEK TO WEEK, EVEN HOUR BY HOUR, DEPENDING ON ALL SORTS OF ENVIRONMENTAL FACTORS, HER OWN INTERNAL HORIZONTAL AND VERTICAL FRACTIONATION PROCESSES, HEALTH/MONTHLY CYCLE, etc.

Again, you need to remain in control of the situation and remember also that a woman’s first (or current) response is rarely an indicator of what’s “final.” Using Speed Seduction®, you have the power to influence that to help her find her way to you – assuming she is, indeed, open and willing. (And if not, you do “Exit, Stage Left!” and Sarge on the next hottie you see!)

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. Starting now, forget about ever again being confused by a woman’s emotional 180s, her fluctuations between wanting you and pushing you away, her last minute buyers remorse, contradictory signals, sudden loss of interest and other up until now deeply frustrating and seemingly irrational actions.

With what I teach you throughout the 7 DVDs and 11 CDS of Speed Seduction® 3.0, you’ll be in charge as the effortless seduction architect of every interaction and situation.

Claim yours now, and start using your power to guide the path of her desires – TOWARD you!

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Speed Seduction® is the system, the strategy, and the skillset that gets smart guys like you more success with the women you truly desire. And it’s not just for those who are looking to get laid, either.

When you are looking to get laid and have lots of hot, sizzling action with incredibly sexy women, Speed Seduction® gives you the the tools to get her irresistibly aroused so you get what you want, faster, and more often. (Show me better, show me more, show me more, show me better… NOW!)

If you’re looking to find a girlfriend or life partner, Speed Seduction® cuts through the “dating game” so you get there faster (life’s too short for bulls#&$ games, pal) by quickly identifying and succeeding with the women (and ultimately the one woman) who is most compatible with who you are and what you give to the world.

Does Speed Seduction® work for married couples too? This student is asking…

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I am having a hard time having sex. With my wife. I’ve been married for a while, we have kids and are busy raising a family. We used to f@@K like crazy when we first got married, but with time, things have cooled off a little.

I want to have the crazy wild sex with her again like we used to have… before one of your students gets to her and has sex with her that is! How can you help me?

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A few things to keep in mind. (This is for everyone, not just you guys who are married or in committed relationships.)

First of all, attraction, romance, and love don’t “just happen.” People don’t just “magically” find their “soulmate” and live happily ever after. If you believe this, stop watching sappy romantic movies and get your a@% out in the field Sarging on real, live women. NOW, before it’s too late.

Mutual attraction, chemistry, and “romance” are generated by the interactions between people and the way they react to sensory inputs. A Seduction master uses the vibe and feedback that women give him to tap into her psyche and guide her responses toward the results he wants.

Second, people change. In the years you’ve been married, since the kids have been born and are now growing, things have changed. You’ve changed. She’s changed. She’s not the same girl you married – even if she’s just as hot (or even hotter) than she was the day you first created attraction with her. Believe it.

View the changes (in you, in your wife, in the world, in your lives) not as a challenge or a detriment, but as an opportunity. A chance to do something new… explore exciting new avenues of carnal pleasure. Approach her (and your sex life) from angles you’ve never tried before.

The results will sure beat a poke in the eye!

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. How would you like to know how to use and master four core, key skills to make the hottest women (including that timeless beauty who shares your bed every night already) hyper-responsive to your needs, suggestions and desires?

Better yet, what if you could have HER do most of the work to get there?

Reach deep into the vault and claim your copy of my Secrets Of Hyper-Response And “Core-Attraction” DVDs! I don’t offer these very often, but right now, I have a few on the shelves.

Will YOU be the smart guy who claims them and gets the success and satisfaction you deserve – starting right now?

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

You’ve heard the saying “beauty is only skin deep.” The same applies to seduction too. There’s much more to it, or else themes, patterning, and other arousal techniques would not be necessary.

Many smart guys like you report to me that they’ve been bored to tears by goddesses-on-legs – she was unbelievably hot, yet the guy just couldn’t tap into her. I’ve also had students use phrases like “looks-wise she’s about a 7, and she’s sort of chubby – but in a way I think is really hot … and oh man, is she fun to f@@k and hang out with!”

The reason I bring it up is because of this note I received the other day:

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I have a great attitude and have success in meeting lots of women. I am fit and fairly good looking, but my success comes strictly from attitude. I smile and hold in my attitude that I am happy, and women pick up on it. It must be working as some of the “5s” and “6s” get blunt and tell ME I would do them a favor by scratching their “itch”. I started slowly over a 5-year period to get where I am today. Started with “3s” and “4s” and worked my way up to “10s.”

These “hot” women want more than just a few hops in the sack, and almost act like they want me exclusively. I get them in the moment, and instead of being grateful for a great evening, want MORE.

I have more fun with “7s” and “8s” as I find the hot “10″ women are merely beautiful on the outside. Maybe in California this is common, but it’s not here on the East Coast. I am hoping to get a better idea of why my situation seems to warp the hotties and works better on their lesser sisters.

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Recently on my blog, I’ve covered the topics of screening and categorization of the women you meet and Sarge on, as you sort through the hordes of hotties waiting for you to succeed with the women YOU really desire.

Being a Speed Seduction® master means that you create a world where success with women is who you are and what you do. For reasons unique to your experiences, there are certain kinds of women (looks, personality, and other factors) that uniquely appeal to you. Could it be that these “7s” and “8s” are really the “10s” who will consistently rock your world?

Remember that with Speed Seduction® you use the information, vibe, and feedback she gives you to craft your patterning and banter to connect YOU with her erotic desires, wants and needs. So, as you Sarge on more “10s”, pay closer attention to the information they give you, as this will help you warp fewer of them and succeed with more of them.

And more success with hotter women sure beats a poke in the eye!

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. It sounds to me like you need to first and foremost spot everything and anything you’ve done right in every situation, so you develop an intelligent and informed motivation – not ignoring what needs to be fixed when it comes to scoring with hotties, but first and foremost seeing what you are doing well with women.

In my Nail Your Inner Game System, I give you a simple 20 minute process you’ll use, at the end of every Sarge, successful, screwed up, or those “in-between” ones that you really can’t quite figure out! This process will have you turning around even the most difficult Sarges and, get you back in the field doing things right, with easy, effortless confidence!

Claim yours now!