Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Freud asked, “What do women want”?

I ask, “What do women respond to”?

Watch this and learn more:

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

You know the saying, “All’s fair in love and war?”

I have news for you: it’s not.  Especially when she changes the rules on you in the middle of the game.

I’ve had many students report how they will be involved with a woman and then abruptly her behavior or response patterns will change.

Or, as one student called it, she’ll move the goalposts.  For example, once you’ve slept with her a couple times, she’ll want to start spending more time non-sexually.  Then, once that happens, she’ll start insisting you stop seeing other woman and go exclusive with her.

Hey, if she’s the one you really, truly, want to be with, and what you have brewing isn’t a “real-hate-shun-ship by default,” this being her way of drawing you closer might mean you’re getting your results.

Smart men like you draw the women you desire to be with closer to you by using Speed Seduction®.  So if she uses her own methods to accomplish the same goals for herself, isn’t turnabout fair play?

But what if you’re not ready for this?  Seems like an ultimatum: “Either be my boyfriend, or you don’t get to pet my kitty anymore.” (Especially sucks if she ALSO happens to have a really nice domestic cat who you enjoy hanging out with over at her place.)

Let’s back this up and look at it from another perspective.

Maybe what you offer her is SO much better than what she has experienced before and better than what she perceives she could get elsewhere, that NOW she doesn’t want to bother going anywhere else. In her mind, the feelings she has with you just are the best and she is afraid if you go away, she can’t find them elsewhere.

I would reframe this so she gets that yes… together you and she experience things wonderful AND she has also grown as a woman to the point where her ability to experience and have wonderful feelings might just extend to many MANY things and situations that have nothing to do with you. That it ISN’T just about you, but about how her own responsiveness and ability to feel inside have grown.

Way back in the day I knew a young lady who at first resisted me, because up until me, she had ONLY ever been attracted to guys who treated her like crap. I did NOT pursue this girl, but occasionally she would call me or I her and we’d hang a bit or talk on the phone. Each time, I extended her comfort zone just a bit more and had her affirm, ratify and REACH for more good feelings.

What shifted is, she no longer saw what she felt with me as being alien or something she had to get used to. NOW, she was defining it as what is NORMAL for her, and the old stuff is no LONGER normal. It’s now what she reaches for and what she wants, AND she is finding she can redefine who she is and what she wants IN OTHER AREAS OF LIFE AS WELL, so it isn’t just about me.

Now ask yourself: would that beat a poke in the eye?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Why in the world would any guy in his right mind want to take a step backward down the intimacy ladder with women?

Yet that is exactly what many men are doing by following stupid-ass advice from “PUA GURUS” to use text messaging with women they’ve just met.

Listen: using your voice is far more powerful, conveys far more emotional meaning, and enables you to evoke far more powerful states of emotion than even the most cleverly worded text.

Hey: if it is true that 70% of communication is not the actual words we use, but facial expressions and the tone of our voice, then what in the world do you think is the result of just typing words?

Is it just me, or does that seem like screwing when your dick is soft?

The only time you should ever use text messages with women is after you have already “hooked up”. Once you’ve done that, then texting can be a way to easily arrange meetings or stay in touch, but even then it has to be used judiciously and sparingly.

A few other things to bear in mind:

• My students often tell me about women who at the end of a phone call will say “text me” or who will want to hang up, yet immediately continue the conversation via txt msg-ng.  Is she serious? Don’t you want her to take a step forward, TOWARD you?  Will texting “hey wassup?” pull her closer?
• So she’s into “sexting.”  Like cybering, you have to wonder, is she visioning you when she types all that naughty stuff, or is she thinking about a guy she’s actually fckng who isn’t there rite now 2 srvce hr 2day?

Remember: txt mssgs sck dck and only asshls use them on chicks they hvnt fckd.

Peace and piece,

RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

The other day here on my blog, I delved into the difference between a woman deliberately trying to manipulate you, versus her need for safety and control by self-fractionating.

As I explained in that post, there are a few basic things that set up and create her willingness for seduction/trance etc. These factors make any patterning you do much more readily received and usually are factors you generally CAN control.

Now, recently, a few students have commented on my blog posts because they thought I was saying that sometimes, you cannot control the woman’s response. To that I would reply by beginning with: sometimes, factors that are beyond your control CAN work in your favor.

These include:

1) She happens to be among the 15% of the population that are sonambulistic; that is, she will readily accept and make real ANY set of suggestions anyone gives to her. She will sit with her doggy dinner bowl as you recite patterns word for word, go right in to trance and have exactly the responses you want. CAUTION: she also has a loose grip on reality and when she makes YOU her grip on reality, watch it when you try to get that grip to loosen.

2) You happen to match her “checklist”; you have the height, weight, looks, age range, job, status, etc. Given that, any patterning you do will be very well received.

3) She happens to be readily open and looking for whatever it is you happen to present, so it matches her perceived reality; she is looking to get laid that night, you present that opportunity in your patterns, and she jumps on it.

4) She has hidden/suppressed needs and the patterns bring those needs to the surface. You grab on to them and link them to you.

Now What If…

What if none of these factors work in your favor? 

What if she’s not suggestible to ANYTHING?  What if you don’t meet the criteria on her “checklist”?  Perhaps she’s not interested in getting laid at all, and she’s so intent on NOT getting laid she might even catch on to your patterns?  Her hidden/suppressed needs aren’t rising to the surface tonight?

Consider this:

• Despite all of the above, a woman’s current response should rarely be taken as her final answer.  More likely, she’s responding to what’s in her mind and her world AT THAT MOMENT.  That can change…in a moment.
• Why did she pull out her “checklist?” Is it because you took her on a “date” complete with dinner, movie, and a “romantic walk” in the park?  Remember: dating is what you do with women you are ALREADY sleeping with.  Also note, the checklist CAN change.
• Her looks might be hotter than her libido. Look around.  Ask yourself.  “Is she the ONLY succulent, amazing woman on the whole freaking planet???”
• Remember what I say: “Interested in the girl, invested in mastering the skills.”

Could any of the above apply?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Want to have two chicks at the same time?

So many of my students either have, or want to, that I’m thinking of adding it to a “bucket list” of must-haves that every smart guy must experience at least once, if for no other reason than to know he “went there.”

Problem: many women won’t “go there.”

Why?  Oftentimes it’s societal “rules.” It breaks a taboo to engage in any sort of group sex, or anything other than one man and one woman doing it.  You’d think that the ticket booth at the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle only sells tickets in pairs.  Not true.

Sometimes, she’s skiddish.  Or afraid of unanticipated consequences.  Or maybe she really doesn’t want to touch another girl, and she isn’t sold on your “promises” that it will be her and her best friend working on you, but not each other.  Maybe she’s worried you’ll like her friend better (it could be a competition or ego thing).

The “Warming Question” That Breaks The Ice And Gets You Closer To The Triple Play

Now: the following is something I almost never just hand out.  So you’ll want to write this down, print it, bookmark this post, whatever the f@@k you have to do so you don’t lose it.  Ask this question:

“If you could go somewhere where no one knew who you were, and nothing you did would ever get back to anyone you did know, what kinds of experiences would you like to have, with what kind of person, with what kind of feelings?”

Then add:

I find when I LET THOSE THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS run through YOUR MIND, it’s the kind of thing that let’s me realize that sometimes YOU WANT TO SUCK SEED in stripping away from every day life, now and again, and FEEL YOUR OPENING to something novel..some new..A NEW DIRECTION you can IMAGINE TAKING INSIDE.

Now…when you ask that question you will get the following kinds of responses:

1. A vivid response with a vivid description.
2. A vivid response with a non-vivid description. They just go inside, access the thoughts and the states. Often they blush or look embarrassed
3. A non-vivid response with a vivid description(they describe it vividly but for some reason they don’t access the feelings-this is most rare)
4. A confused response. They don’t get what you mean
5. A defensive response.

I’m looking for 1 & 2. 3 can be worked with as well. 4 is possible if they also show a willingness to understand. Forget 5.

Ever tried this (or something like it?)  How did it work out for you?  (Leave a comment below).  Or, go out and do it and then report back here how it went.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

My recent posts on women who “run hot and cold” have struck quite a nerve.

I’m getting a ton of e-mails and responses, so I know this is an issue that many smart guys like you, including those in my Speed Seduction® Coaching Program, need assistance getting handled.

Now, talk about “hot and cold” – this next letter comes from a student who is Sarging on a woman who goes from naming the kids and planning weekends with the in-laws to not returning his calls, just like that… and he just recently met her!

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The woman in particular is an attractive, 25 yr old small-business owner who seemed to open up very quickly. I met her friends and family right away and we spent a lot of time together. She talked about children’s names and eluded to “our in-laws.” She almost disappeared July 4th and within a week of extreme distance said “you’re not like anyone I’ve ever dated and I don’t know why I’m pushing away what I truly want.”

She bought me gifts and a card the second time we went out, text me many times throughout the day and seemed so sweet, compassionate and just wonderfully feminine.

I’m not sure what went wrong but it sucks, bad. What do you guys think? Did I kill the attraction?

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First of all, what does “open up very quickly” mean? DID YOU F@@K HER? DID YOU F@@K HER? DID YOU F@@K HER? (That’s a yes or no question – you did or you didn’t.)

Frequently in the “Steaming Hot Seduction Secrets” ezines I hammer the point that “dating is what you do with women you’re already sleeping with!” Why?

Because when the interaction turns to “dating,” women instinctively pull out their “checklist” of what the “perfect man” is and start rating whether you are “her type.” If you have not yet connected with her emotionally and set the “anchors” that make any “checklist” irrelevant, you don’t want to be “dating” her.

For the same reason, I’m not in a hurry to meet family and friends. It puts too much “meaning” on things, and immediately that often triggers a woman’s “is he REALLY the one” fractionation / emotional interruption mechanism.

Now, she’s talking about kids’ names and in-laws that early on? That means she is trying out that kind of thinking because she thinks it is how she SHOULD be thinking instead of wanting to go out with her girlfriends, get laid, have fun, etc. She’s trying to convince herself.

Right now, you’re in knots from her “running hot and cold” (the gifts and cards, followed by the “extreme distance”) because you are hooked on the validation and attention. So when she pulls it away, you freak out, get clingy, drive her away, instead of being aware of that response as it first arises and being able to redirect.

It’s time to break the “hot and cold” cycle caused by your need for validation by this (or ANY) woman, and find the woman (or women) who will just want consistent, steaming-hot fun.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. Starting now, forget about ever again being confused by a woman’s emotional 180s, her fluctuations between wanting you and pushing you away, her last minute buyers remorse, contradictory signals, sudden loss of interest and other up until now deeply frustrating and seemingly irrational actions.

With what I teach you throughout the 7 DVDs and 11 CDS of Speed Seduction® 3.0, you’ll be in charge as the effortless seduction architect of every interaction and situation.

Claim yours now, and stop letting her “give it and take it away” – for good!

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

About a week ago on my blog, I told you the story of the student who was facing challenges from a hot babe who kept cranking his faucet knob by “running hot and cold,” with the end result that she wasn’t cranking his other knob.

Last night, I received an e-mail from one of you who tells a similar tale, but with an interesting twist. And it got me thinking. So, let me share it with you now along with some more insights to help you create irresistible arousal and avoid the trap of “getting cranked”:

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My situation is that me and this incredible babe I’ve been seeing are probably more in the category of “intimate” in the sense that we are not just flirting and being sexual but there is also lots of holding hands and hugs, etc., and I have always stayed the night instead of it just being “hit and run.” We dont see that much of each other – maybe about once a week – so I can’t say things are really serious. Although, what I would like to know from her is would she like it to be serious!

However, and this is the big BUT…. I like affection, I like intimacy and the problem lies in that I will often if not always find myself initiating kissing with her, and sometimes I go to kiss her and she kind of doesn’t react at all, like she holds her mouth still, which I find weird. She is also texting me alot saying she can’t wait to get her hands on me and other flirty stuff. But when we are together in person she is far more reserved.

In the past, I would chase girls or frighten them away (especially the the ones I like), hence I want to learn from my mistakes and not do it again.

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I have three rules to share, or rather, axioms:

Rule/Axiom #1:

CONFUSED PEOPLE BEHAVE IN CONFUSING WAYS.

It sounds to me like this lady can’t tell what she wants, from what she’s getting, from what she thinks she SHOULD want, etc etc.
You’re spending the night on the “every so often” occasions you see her. She acts all excited with anticipation when there’s a date planned, but then when you kiss her, she doesn’t move her lips?

Rule/Axiom #2:

IN ANY CONFLICT BETWEEN WHAT A WOMAN SAYS AND WHAT A WOMAN DOES, PAY ATTENTION AND GIVE WEIGHT TO WHAT SHE ****DOES****

As a Seduction master, it’s your job to receive and interpret the “vibe” she puts out, and feed it back to her in a way that gets her hot and bothered and inserting you into her fantasies, so when she lives them out, she lives them out with you.

Rule/Axiom #3:

WOMEN ARE CHAOTIC SYSTEMS. AS SUCH, WHAT THEY WANT AND WHAT THEY “RESPOND” TO MAY VARY FROM DAY TO DAY, WEEK TO WEEK, EVEN HOUR BY HOUR, DEPENDING ON ALL SORTS OF ENVIRONMENTAL FACTORS, HER OWN INTERNAL HORIZONTAL AND VERTICAL FRACTIONATION PROCESSES, HEALTH/MONTHLY CYCLE, etc.

Again, you need to remain in control of the situation and remember also that a woman’s first (or current) response is rarely an indicator of what’s “final.” Using Speed Seduction®, you have the power to influence that to help her find her way to you – assuming she is, indeed, open and willing. (And if not, you do “Exit, Stage Left!” and Sarge on the next hottie you see!)

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. Starting now, forget about ever again being confused by a woman’s emotional 180s, her fluctuations between wanting you and pushing you away, her last minute buyers remorse, contradictory signals, sudden loss of interest and other up until now deeply frustrating and seemingly irrational actions.

With what I teach you throughout the 7 DVDs and 11 CDS of Speed Seduction® 3.0, you’ll be in charge as the effortless seduction architect of every interaction and situation.

Claim yours now, and start using your power to guide the path of her desires – TOWARD you!