Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,
A crush is defined by Dictionary.com as “an intense but usually short-lived infatuation.”
And sometimes they’re not “short-lived” but they’ll still CRUSH YOU as sure as a pissed-off python that decides it has a hankerin’ for a YOU sandwich.
Such as this student experienced:
Here’s the story. We’ve known each other for about a year now, as a result of meeting at a business networking function. We had lunch a few days later, and enjoyed each other’s company. Back then, she told me she had a boyfriend. Since then, we’ve had business conversations on the phone occasionally. I threw in some SS themes wherever possible. Every time we talked, we had great and wonderful rapport. She indicated that she is not comfortable meeting me in private, but invited me to visit her at her office for chit chat several times (I never went, because it seemed like a supplication to me). Recently, I moved away, so she’s now about 2.5 hours from me.
She’s adventurous, cool, fun, GF material, so I decided to give us one last chance. So I’ve twice left voicemail and also e-mailed her, but I haven’t gotten a response. So what gives? What went wrong?
OK: I’m going to dissect the daylights out of this.
For this past year, how much time have you spent thinking about her (crushing)? How much energy have you put into your projected fantasies about her? How many times have you and Jimmy wrestled over thoughts of her?
Look: this is the SINGLE worst thing you can do if you want sargy success. BANISH this habit from your mind, ritually. Retake ALL the energy you’ve dumped into this crush.
Imagine a giant machine, with huge grinding gears. Imagine all the energy of that crush being put through that machine, grinding it to pieces and then boiling the remains into steam that is purified into PURE energy for your peace of mind, grounding, balance, learning and attractive vibe towards women anywhere and everywhere. The smart ones being drawn to you without you even speaking and when you DO speak, that vibe and THAT vibe only is conveyed, regardless of the words you say.
Now, see how this crush affected the rest of your thought process.
“Great and wonderful rapport?”
Or so you felt in YOUR fantasy. I’ll bet a dollar that “great and wonderful rapport” is NOT what SHE said.
“Adventurous, cool, fun, GF material?”
What? WHAT? W-H-A-T?
Adventurous? But she won’t meet you in person? GF MATERIAL? A woman who won’t even meet you in person, who insists you come to her office for “chit chat” is GF material?
See, she is GF material IN YOUR CRUSHING FANTASIES. And thing is, I’ll bet a second dollar you’re not in HER fantasies at all.
Peace and piece,
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