Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
In many part of the world, temperatures are starting to chill. According to many, this means one thing:
It’s now officially Cuffing Season.
With the cooler temperatures, chilly breezes, leaves falling off the trees announcing the impending arrival of winter, the hottest women find themselves seeking a man to keep them warm at night.
What happens if some chilly filly leaps into your arms and stays there for snuggling sessions by the fireplace, but the moment things REALLY heat up, she cools off faster than frost on a pumpkin?
Will you feel alone? Confused? Angry? Like you wasted your time? Was she just using you as a human sweater to keep the chills away with no intention of actually getting hot and sweaty with you?
Ok: if she does respond this way, then it’s an opportunity for you to create some new responses for yourself other than alone, confused, angry, wasted time.
You could, at least in theory, respond by saying, “Wait…here’s a chance to learn to control how closely I invest in anyone prior to intercourse. Here’s a chance to challenge my nutty notions that I MUST fuck every woman with whom I have any kind of connection.”
Rather than getting angry and confused with horrible feelings, what ways can you find to REFUSE to hurt yourself like this?
The Buddha talks about this kind of thing. He compares it to a man who gets shot by an arrow, and who is so upset by this, he takes a bow and keeps shooting arrows into himself so he can try to figure out where the first arrow came from!
So why let ANY choice this woman makes determine your vision, your sense of possibility, and who you see yourself more and more everyday becoming?
Remember the pleasures of learning new emotional and cognitive responses, while far more subtle than those that banging a hot chick brings, can be just as satisfying and they are much more under your control.
After more than two decades I’ve come to see that getting good at this is about a radical and daily practice of personal rebellion against our perceptions and ways of response that don’t serve us and a daily dedicated practice of design/support for those that do, especially in how we respond to “not getting what we want.”
Interested in the woman, invested in the skills.
Peace and piece,
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