Even Toy Robots Have Approach Anxiety

Dear Seeker of Success,

Have you ever heard the story I tell about the toy robot that I broke?

(I share this all the time with people who call in for coaching.)

When we were little kids, I used to break my little brother’s toys. One Hanukkah, my sister Anita bought my little brother Steve a toy robot.

The toy robot, which probably cost about $10, could do three things. (Bear in mind this was 1966. Yes, I’m old. And ugly.)

You could press a button and makes its eyes light up. You could make the robot go forward.  And you could make the robot walk backward.

I pressed forward and backward at the same time just to see what would happen.

The robot started shaking. I heard the motor whirring. Blue smoke came out of its ass. One of the wires melted and it fell over.

The Robot Got Approach Anxiety When I
Pushed Its Buttons. Just Like You Would.

See, approach anxiety is driven by internal conflict.

Part of you says, “Move forward and talk to a girl.” The other part says, “No. Don’t make a move unless you’re certain it’s going to work.”

The way that conflict feels in your body is exactly the way it would feel if there really was danger. Because you don’t recognize it as just an internal conflict, you think, “Oh my god! She’s about to reject me. I’d better run.”

Blast Past The Approach Anxiety…
By Letting Yourself Be Nervous

The big solution for you is to be able to feel nervous and think, “Wait a minute. This doesn’t mean she’s going to reject me or that she would even notice the nervousness. All it means is I have an internal conflict.”

Move forward anyway.

The Worst Thing Is Not That You’re Anxious.
The Worst Thing Is Trying To Hide It.

It’s not just the anxiety. It’s the shame about it that really stops you. The anxiety itself doesn’t stop you.

The anxiety is just a flow of feeling. It’s your false belief that you have to hide it.

Start from that point of understanding, and things will start to look and feel different.

Peace,

RJ

P.S. Even if you previously have been totally tongue-tied around women, my step by step, easy to follow system shows you exactly how to speak to women to trigger their deepest fantasies and desires, allowing you to experience unrivaled success rapidly and easily!

(I feel better just typing that.)  🙂