Listen: you can recite patterns word-for-word until you’re blue in the face.

But if she’s not open to being seduced… yeah… she WILL giggle later when she tells her gal pals about that guy who wanted to show her a new direction.

Here’s one great way of opening her up:

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Has something like this ever happened to you:

You approach a woman for the first time and open conversation. After talking for maybe eight minutes or so, one of her friends comes in. She starts talking to them.  Next thing you know you’re out of the loop and if they don’t outright excuse themselves from you, it becomes clear the circle of conversation now excludes you.

It raises the question:

What are the elements that need to be there in the initial conversation so the woman will want to continue talking to you even when people she knows show up?

First Things First:
Don’t Act Like An Alien

The first thing you need to do is draw her attention out so she’s interested in talking to you – get her attention focused on you in a positive way so she wants to be receptive to the rest of your message.

This means, don’t go up to a chick and say, “Hi. Have you ever felt an amazing connection with someone?”

She’ll look at you like you’re from another planet – and rightfully so.

The Questions About Her You Need
To Be Asking Yourself

What are the elements that make her want to continue talking to you?

Maybe it’s comfort or curiosity.

Maybe it’s because you’re entertaining her in some way.

Maybe it’s because you intrigue her or pop her curiosity.

For example, I was at a restaurant last week. I noticed that one of the waitresses carried herself like a martial artist.

I said to her, “Can I ask you a question? Do you fight? Can you do the martial arts?”

She was quite surprised.

She said, “Yes. How did you know that?”

She leaned forward onto the table.

Before, she was standing back away from the table.

Once I said that, it really got her attention.

The REAL Goal Of The
First Question

The goal is, therefore, not how to get her available to be seduced. The goal is, what you can do to evoke responses so that she wants to keep talking to you.

How do you create that curiosity and initial sense of maybe feeling understood or feeling entertained?

That’s the piece so many guys miss when they just jump right into the seduction talk, which is never how I intended it to be.

Peace and piece,

RJ

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The first time you call a woman, chances are you’ll get her voicemail.

Time to start suggesting and commanding:

Peace and piece,

RJ

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I’ve heard the objection many times.

Some people say that the girl-getting patterns and phrases I teach smart guys to use when getting a woman irresistibly aroused are so obvious that chances are, the guy will get “busted” and “shot down.”

Like, the use of emphasis and nonverbal cues that I teach you to use while saying “it’s on” and “below me” for example.  I was asked this question by a student:

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Many of your methods are so “obvious” that chicks can tell what a guy is doing, so he “gets caught” and she has a negative reaction.

For example, your method of stacking realities with quotes of alluring sexual content — she KNOWS what I’m doing and why I’m saying it, so she doesn’t buy into it when I do the “weasel phrases” or position it as something “someone else” saw or read someplace. No, she blames me for being a pervert.

How can I calibrate the interaction so I know if I will get a negative reaction? Can I counter-object and “save the Sarge”?

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I’ll let two of my students answer this one.

Student #1:
“Yes, It Has A Name”

When the woman noticed his innuendo and asked what he was up to, with a friendly smile he matter-of-factly told her, “Right! It’s called ‘flirting’ and it’s what a man does when he meets a woman he’s into.”

(Note how even in his retort, he plants a suggestion.)

The woman who “caught him” shrugged and said with a little grin, “Oh ok…I was just asking.”

By staying true to who he is and what he gives to the world, this student was able to resume the Sarge without skipping a beat.

Student #2:
“I’m Doing It For Her”

During a conversation with a sexy woman about reality TV shows on getting women, another student mentioned my name.

The woman said, “Oh, I know who Ross Jeffries is. He’s one of those pickup artist dudes. Do you actually DO that stuff? Waaaaait a minnnute … you DO do that stuff! I can TELL!”

My student’s response: “As someone who knows what they want when they see it in front of them, doesn’t it make sense to get more of what you want? If I wanted a woman who is perfect for me and vice versa, wouldn’t I be doing both of us a favor by learning all there is to know about making you happy?”

She agreed and dropped the subject.

No, actually, I correct myself.  She did ask about Speed Seduction® again….

At 3:00 AM, with a dreamy grin on her face, after a steaming-hot two-hour makeout session with the guy.

Yep, that’s when she asked.

Don’t Get Caught By The “Gotchas” -
Use Them To Score Instead!

Counter “getting caught” with truth and integrity and use my teaching to claim more of who you want in your life (and in your bed).

Peace and piece,

- RJ

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]]> http://www.seduction.com/blog/get-caught-sarging/feed/ 3 http://www.seduction.com/blog/stop-reinventing-the-wheel/ http://www.seduction.com/blog/stop-reinventing-the-wheel/#comments Tue, 14 May 2013 14:05:15 +0000 Ross Jeffries http://www.seduction.com/blog/?p=804 Continue reading →]]> Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

I think just about every smart guy out there knows what it’s like when his Sarge is derailed – either within the first 30 seconds, or when he’s just 30 seconds from f@@king her brains out – but then she says the “B” word.

You know which “B” word… as in, “I have a Boyfriend.”

In my teachings on how to approach women, I go in-depth on patterns such as the “Boyfriend Destroyer” (and the “Boyfriend Ignorer” in my Frame Control and Sexual Themes course).

Sometimes, though, the chick is all but outright begging you to persuade her to dump her “borefriend”, or at least forget him for a while.

Not sure what to do? Here’s a student facing this issue:

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I need help, Ross. I’ve been Sarging this amazing hottie. She’s incredible. Oh man. she has wonderful qualities – successful, happy, unabused, low-maintenance, intelligent. But she’s with this borefriend. Here’s the thing though – according to her, she’s never actually been in love!!

In my Sarging, I’ve been exploring with her some of the values she sees herself to be in a state of ‘love’. She says, ‘vulnerability’! She is one who never wants to be vulnerable in normal life, and will spend hours into the night making herself bulletproof in her presentations and her work. But she expects that she needs to be vulnerable to a man, before she will get to the next level of ‘love’ via being vulnerable to this partner.

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Let me digress for one second. Recently on my blog, I covered the issue of when you’re working too hard and not getting anywhere, how to let 80% of the seduction be powered by the information and responses SHE gives you.

That being said, I think she’s already given you a lot to work from. So let me challenge your thinking.

One of the mistakes in your approach is you are going to try to give her an experience she has never had before … being in love … in order to get her away from her current “borefriend”. You might be working too hard here.

What if you just had to be a bit more tempting…a bit more exciting…a bit more tasty…a bit more aggressive…a bit more whatever, than him?

Think about all you’ve learned thus far and how to use it.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. If you already know what’s on her mind, how her mind works…if she’s already TOLD YOU WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW TO GET HER IN BED…why are you still trying to figure it out?

That’s like pulling an all-nighter for your midterm after the TA you’ve been nailing already gave you the answers.

She’s not in love with this “borefriend” of hers, and she’s handed you the keys to her door. Now it’s time to get her soaking herself until she can’t take it anymore and ditches him for you. Let me show you how, by revealing my Secrets Of Hyper-Response And “Core-Attraction”.

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It’s an age old problem.

Boy sees girl. Boy walks up to girl. Boy Sarges on girl.

But it feels like he’s working his Seduction ass off to keep the conversation going, yes it’s not getting him any closer to the part where…

… Boy nails girl and makes her scream his name with delight
as she c*m*s over and over and over.

Why are things getting bogged down? I just got this S.O.S. from a student who is pretty good at starting the engine, but he just can’t seem to get it to the races…

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Sometimes I get stuck asking too many questions to the woman. Maybe it’s too passive an approach.

Although I am not going to knock just asking questions because I know lots of guys who claim to have great success from doing almost nothing but asking questions, in most contexts, it feels like doing nothing but asking questions is setting the therapist/patient frame; not the Seduction frame.

Most real players I know ask questions, but ask questions sparingly, even you, Ross. You’re great at pacing a woman, but I think for you it’s more about leading her. Am I on the right track here?

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Look: for me, questions aren’t about just satisfying my curiosity. They have a strategic intent.

I am asking questions to stimulate those parts of her mind and those responses that will drive her in the direction I want her to go, and also to get information (her key trance words, for example) that will assist me in my Sarge.

You need to know what KINDS of questions lead to the right answers and non-verbal responses…and then know what you are going to DO with them to get her to jump you and beg you to f@@k her.

And you’re right; I AM leading all the time (though to untrained eyes it would not look that way), but the questions I ask evoke responses and information I then strategically use to make her jump me.

Peace and piece,

RJ

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Students come to me saying they want “more confidence with women.”  You mean, like, an oil change?

This approach can make you look… desperate, as I show you here:

(and again, as you watch this, ask “what is RJ up to with these classic clips, lately?”)

Peace and piece,

RJ

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