Dear Seeker of Success,
Thanks (or no thanks) to the Romance Racketeers, there is this big production many guys feel necessary to get that first kiss.
That moment, that buildup, to the end of the night, or the “date”… when the “magic” happens.
What if I told you that was rubbish?
Well, I’m telling you – that’s rubbish.
You’re doing it wrong, and it’s actually decreasing the chance of getting a kiss from her.
Case in point: let me share with you an email I received from a student about his effort to get a “first kiss” from a new, winsome female prospect.
It’s midnight on a rainy Monday. I’ve just got back in from an evening out with a very attractive young lady and I’m a bit frustrated.
I met her last year on holiday. When we first met we quite fancied each other, but by the end of the holiday, for various reasons, we weren’t seeing eye to eye. Relationship at this point was purely platonic.
We met up again and I ran several patterns from your Speed Seduction® course.
At several points when she was in trance I leaned in and she responded very favorably by smiling and leaning in to me.
At the end of the evening I walked her back to her car, gave her a hug and a kiss on the cheek and we agreed to meet again.
All well and good? If that’s the case why do I feel like I managed to capture her imagination but didn’t lead it very well?
It seems to be a bit of a theme with me at the moment. I go out, meet quite a few women, get into great conversations with them. Steer these towards SS themes but don’t seem to be able lead them to places which let them feel interested or comfortable enough to want to go any further.
I sort of feel like I’m sooooo close. But not quite there? I’m managing to put myself in a scoring position, but can’t quite create the opportunity to put the ball in the back of the net.
Suggestions, support and encouragement most welcome.
TR London, England
Ok, TR. Good going, so far.
You are using patterns and getting some strong, favorable responses.
Here is where you screwed it up:
YOU WAITED UNTIL THE END OF THE EVENING
TO GO FOR THE KISS!
What is this stuff about waiting to walk her back to her car?
If you see her leaning into you, that’s a huge NON-VERBAL SIGNAL that is screaming out: KISS ME, STUPID!
The more important issue is, you seem to be putting Speed Seduction® through a dating framework.
What I mean by that is, even though you are using the patterns and getting great responses, you are still thinking in terms of traditional dating when it comes to making your move.
You are still thinking you have to wait til the end of the evening, etc etc.
Get that traditional “dating” programming out of your head.
When you capture and lead a woman’s imagination and emotions, they will be ready for action, far more quickly than you would ever get through traditional dating.
P.S. Knowing how – and when – to introduce Sexual Metaphor into the conversation to implant the naughtiest thoughts in her noggin’ will get you the kiss.
Waiting, then lunging, won’t.
This is just the tip of the tip of the tip of the tip of the iceberg of how claiming your Day Game Mastery and metamorphosizing into a Mindset Monster makes you a kissing bandit who doesn’t need to wait or date to lead into liplock.