Dear Seeker of Success,
Has anyone ever offered to “hook you up” with a friend of theirs?
Have you ever asked someone to do this for you?
A student of mine’s cousin (let’s call her Bianca) wanted to “hook him up” with a “cute” co-worker of hers (we’ll call her… you guessed it… Debbie).
Bianca’s idea was this: “You and a couple of your friends come out and hang out with us one night, and you and Debbie can meet.”
Internally he knew that whole scene would zap his Sargy energy.
He’d be in a situational disadvantage with Debbie, since she’d feel under the microscope and would be putting up extra resistance.
In declining the offer, he told his cousin Bianca “I would not be comfortable in this scenario and this is just not how I meet women. I won’t put Debbie in this situation either.”
Bianca snorted and said, “Gee, too bad, how the hell do you expect to find a girlfriend? Your loss.”
But the way Bianca wanted to “hook him up” with Debbie was uncomfortable for him.
So if my student knew who Debbie was and thought she was hot and might be worth a shot, what would be a better way than having Bianca explicitly “hook him up” with her?
What could YOU do?
I would actually say that you have to
Add Some Value To Their Lives
If You Expect Them To Add Value To Yours
(eg, Introduce You To Women)
For example, let’s say you are friendly with the woman who sits next to you at work, and she is pretty damn hot.
Treat her like a friend, because you like her as a person, genuinely.
She’s a good person and you are friendly and are cool with and to each other.
(Since you’re smart enough to never, never, NEVER NEVER NEVER Sarge a co-worker, you won’t move it past that because you “don’t shit where you eat.”)
Anyway, you know she has cool, HOT female friends (you’ve seen her Facebook page); and sooner or later she might introduce you around to her social circle as a genuinely cool guy, if you know her well enough to pal around at the Friday after-work happy hour.
How Do You Provide This Value?
Don’t expect her to “hook you up”.
Instead, aim at having her introduce you/include you in her social circle – WITHOUT ANY EXPLICIT EXPECTATION OF ANYONE “HOOKING UP” (this is key).
Once she does, treat her social circle like a National Park.
You don’t go into Yellowstone and shoot the deer, dump beer cans in the river, piss on the trees, etc. etc.
Treat her friends well, don’t piss in the pool or you won’t be invited back.
Do it right, and her friends will talk about how great you are in bed and you’ll be in hot demand.
You can be strong, hot, challenging, fun, outrageous and STILL respect the vaginal environment.
Replace and replenish as you go.
P.S. Once you meet her friends, it isn’t just suggestive language that will get them joining you on the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle.
It’s also the clever way in which it’s structured to seem like a perfectly ordinary conversation!