Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
I really hit a nerve with my earlier post on what to do when a woman freaks out on you. By your comments on the blog and your emails, I can see this is a huge issue.
Now, let me address a related topic:
The issue of persuading those in authority to do what you want them to do.
This applies, more generally, to getting what you want from those who have the power to decide if you will get it.
My SAAB Had ME Throttled…
I had a recurring problem with my SAAB. For the third time, the throttle body assembly failed on me and the engine just quit. They replaced the throttle body again, but I was concerned that the car was not really fixed since the problem had occurred 3 times in the row, it couldn’t be the part. Something else was really wrong with the car.
The head of the service department told me there was nothing more they could do but that I could call Saab customer service. He then said I could speak with the Chief mechanic, Mr. X.
Mr. X explained that if the problem happened again, SAAB would replace the computer that controls the engine. I said, “But I don’t trust the car and it is going to fail again. What if I am in the middle of the desert? I bought this car because Saabs are reliable and I want a reliable car. Now I know the problem will happen again.”
Mr. X said, “Sorry but that is Saab’s policy. If you leave the car we can run some more tests to see if we come up with anything more.”
Here is where I used the skills…
Sure, I could have yelled or gotten in his face and tried to bully my way, but the guy had the power to tell me to fuck off and send me through the Saab bureuacracy. I’m sure most customers would have and probably have yelled at him and cursed him out.
I said this,
“Look, this isn’t aimed at you as a person. It’s directed TO you in your role as the chief mechanic. When you take off that shirt tonight, it has nothing to do with you. It’s just that I feel stuck and I don’t know what to do. I don’t trust driving the car and I need you to help me. But if you can’t, I understand you don’t set policy and nothing personal. I understand you are doing your best.”
Then I just shook his hand and walked off and got into my car. He yelled out, “Wait a sec… FUCK SAAB. I’ll call the factory and order the computer. And I’ll put it in for free.”
I thanked him and offered him some money which he refused. I insisted, “You are a just and fair man. You could have left me hanging but you are doing the right thing and you deserve this.”
When I took the car back to get the computer put in, he not only did that, but he gave me a new battery for free; apparently the car battery was getting old and almost shot! And he removed some paint from my bumper that got on their from a hit and run driver in a parking lot!
My point: if someone is in authority, they are used to getting yelled at and attempts at domination. They are also probably used to “SAAB STORIES”… ha ha… begging and pleading.
If you point out that it is not about them, personally, but about their role in their job, then they can give in to you but keep their dignity and sense of self-respect, as now they are on YOUR side. They probably don’t like the bosses anyway, so why push them to identify with the bosses / bureaucracy by attacking them and blaming for things they don’t control?
Would you rather “prove a point” that doesn’t really matter anyway, or enjoy a life where you get more of what you want, more often?
Peace and piece,
P.S. Want to blast through the “Persuasion Killers” that are blocking others (including the women you desire) from doing what you want, and enjoy a fantastic power to irresistibly influence others?