Dear Seeker of Success,
Since today is Independence Day here in the United States, I want to share with you some thoughts about magic and freedom.
There is magic in the mastery of using language to capture and lead imagination and emotions.
There is the magic of knowing what to notice that remains invisible to the eye of most.
And, then, there is the deeper magic.
The magic of being willing to step into the unknown AND freeing the other person of any expectation about how THEY should respond or will respond.
Truly freeing them.
As in willing and able to ground yourself into a place of energetic acceptance (they can do whatever they want, **I** control where my energy goes) of their first response, whatever it may be. You are going to respond by staying grounded and holding compassion.
That doesn’t mean you STAY there or make their first response YOUR permanent “truth” about the situation.
Here is why this is so powerful, and why this brings you freedom:
Even the hottest woman has areas of her life where she feels stuck. Things or ways of being or feeling she’s like to try but doesn’t. And she wants reassurance BEFORE she steps out of the boat – so she stays in the boat and just watches the waves and wonders. EVERY WOMAN HAS A PART OF HER LIFE WHERE THIS IS SO.
So when she sees you, a person WILLING to step into what is unknown for you, willing to be open and vulnerable (but not needy) with life and living that is sexy.
She won’t be able to explain it, she’ll feel it.
By itself, that is sexy.
Now, so many people, when they finally do have a way to step beyond their comfort zone are SO filled with expectations and demands on the situation and on others.
“Hey, I opened up to you. I risked. Now I DEMAND you open up back”
So when you open up and step beyond the known as a choice for yourself WITH NO DEMANDS AT ALL ON THE OTHER PERSON, that freedom, that “not doing”, that “vacuum” around you creates a pull forward.
You place no pressure. You have no “push” on them at all.
There is no-thing for them to resist.
These two elements combined create a deeper magic few will ever even see.
And the two elements don’t add up.
They MULTIPLY.
So it’s not 100 points of attractive vibe PLUS 100 points of attractive vibe.
It’s 100 points times 100 points. That’s 10,000 points of attractive vibe.
Now, add to that:
Basic walk up energies that enable you to effortlessly approach any woman, any time, anywhere.
Language skills.
The energetic touch secrets.
I think that puts you up near the 20,000 points of attraction – right out of the gate.
None of this requires arrogant swagger or being a loudmouth.
And NONE OF IT REQUIRES ANY PAST “SUCCESS”.
You can have it now, in a heartbeat, in between the passing of one second to the next, in between the fading of this thought and the arising of the next.
Strip away the nonsense and crap that has swirled and guess what:
YOU ALREADY ARE THIS.
You just have to be quiet enough to remember.
And in that, there is freedom that goes beyond words.
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. Imagine a life that has no further need for assurance or guarantee of success of any kind before you took bold (and fun) seduction steps, where you walk like a giant where other people fear to step.
No matter what is holding you back, now is the time to break free of the chains, get off your excuse-making, “I understand but don’t do it” ass, and get moving right now in the real world with the success you’ve always wanted.
Beautiful, Ross! Love it!
HI Ross,
I have read heaps of your work and I am amazed at your understanding of the human mind.My conclusion to date is that I think the mind is so complex that to analyze it like you do and from that to discover why we act the way we do,is a complex road.I recon your grounding all emotional energy,then letting the natural personality energy,undistorted by past experiences energy, is the nucleus of successful behavour in energy charged situations,going to a high pressure meeting,walking up to an attractive woman,anything.That is the answer then let the natural spontanious energy which is you,come forth.You taught that to me.You are a great man Ross doing great things in this world.You are an amazing teacher.Wow
Al,
I’m the best at what I do. And what I do isn’t very nice.
Ross, I’ve been following your blog for about a year and a half, and this has got to be the most powerful and beautiful (yes I said it) thing that I’ve had the good fortune to read. I just wanted to say thanks, and happy 4th!
G’day JR
You have indicated:
As in willing and able to ground yourself into a place of energetic acceptance (they can do whatever they want, **I** control where my energy goes) of their first response, whatever it may be. You are going to respond by staying grounded and holding compassion.
You then go to explain
Could you explain it better, now for me, and give a real life practical example.
Thanks RJ
See Ya
Ross, sometimes you truly amaze me how you give so much for free… it´s really admirable, no wonder why people keep refering to you as a guru…
Dino, it’s because I AM the Kwisatz Haderach!
amazing read ross. really makes you think about things a different way than most of us are used to. thanks.
🙂 haha I couldn´t think of a more appropriate symbolic personification… Maybe Zaphod Beeblebrox for his willingness to step into infinite (im)possibilities just in order to have fun…
Amazing post, Ross. Way to make how I see my interactions with people do a 180.
It’s almost like they’re free people too ….
Your teaching has only gotten better throughout the years.
Samwise,
I agree about my teaching. As I enter my 20th year of doing this, I am even more pleased at how I keep improving. I love my work.
Catch me at a seminar one day! I’m in Norway and London this summer!
RJ
Ross,
You are the best. Best in the world in what you do.
Thank you for being a great service to man-kind!
Freedom comes from knowing but still accepting the uncertainty and giving radical permission to the other person in what they want to do!
Ram
Your stuff is great. I just finihed 3.0 On my last sarge I ask an HB if she is from Tennessee. (as part of a put on, and she said yes).
But back to Ross, he is a true lifesaver for all the men drowning in the sea of Dating Misery)
p.s. Screw David DeAsshole and the rest of the fakers that wasted my time.
Hey Ross,
… the other day I was getting coffee and this beautiful, tall brunette,
and her aviator sunglasses…
places herself Right next to me at the counter and says…
ahem…
Can you please…
stir my coffee
(in a sexual tone)
(I didn’t say a WORD it’s just that I was really excited about
studying more of your material, over a cup of coffee and
BAM!!
before I could even mix in the sugar
this girl just
walks up!?)
All I can say is thank you, and (ahem)
Happy 4th of July Ross!!
RJ that whole article was poetry. Wow! Complete motivation.
Ross,
Would you please make a MP3 sound file of this text and post it in your website or vault?
Thank you in advance.
Ram
@Ram Damn good idea. I’m on it. Forward this to my tech guy too: shophelp@seduction.com and he’ll remind me.
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Respect Bro !
You sure know how to inspire with today’s post !
keep on keeping on !
Hendrik
I do have to say this is the best stuff you teach, kinda think it isnt grammaticlly correct, anyways love this acceptance confidence letting go of the attachment to an outcome,
Mighty Ross…most everybody we salute as a true philosopher began as a lover of many women…there are other great men who weren’t on the prowl much but they were mainly military types.
Would like to spend some time discussing this with you maybe a thousand years from now in some afterlife…unlikely to happen before then…hope the trip(s) are great….all the best to you and yours…Leslie
Ross Transform Consciousness
http://www.amazon.com/The-Tyranny-Ambiguity-Development-Procedural/dp/1901240169
R.J. are you familiar with this guy?
Hi Ross,
Thanks for this post, as always this is very informative.
I have a question though:
2 weeks ago you talked about performing a daily breathing ritual to get rid of the fear response. I started doing that ritual every day and am already beginning to see BIG transformations in my way of behaving around women – I feel way more free, confident, and grounded around women.
But then you now come and say here to “not do this all the time”, so what is the right ratio? Is once per day and then forgetting it is enough?
Thanks,
Miki
This is good stuff. I get something new from each time I read. Are you coming to New York City anytime soon?
My recent theme, given by circumstance, not sought out, has been not usurping her right to say, “No.” Or to state it positively, giving her credit for having that ability and just going for what I want in full confidence that she will let me know if there is a problem.
I don’t want to say anymore about what problems not doing that was causing, but that’s sort of the filter that’s moving me forward right now.
I’m confident in my own intent to respect her and part of that is respecting her desire to be pursued and part of that is respecting her ability to say no.
Thanks Mr Ross for that lovely piece of advise.
Amen! You speak truly.
Sarge without end, Amen.
Putting pressure on her by being “vulnerable” 🙂 Nobody was thinking about it, only RJ 🙂
Hey Ross,
Your message resonates with me. I always strive to take chances and I would say I’m more open to new experiences than the average person. However, I’m still not as confident as I would like to be. What do you recommend that I do to increase my confidence?
@Alex
Lots of great tips here on the new blog. Just click the link in the main nav that says “Unstoppable Confidence”
Happy Independance day Ross! I am getting better with approaching. Up until now though, my big challenge is my contact with women being stuck on “gear one”. The conversation never moves much beyond fluff. It is like I shied away from being anything other than casual, instead of leading and upon reflection could find at least one way to have done it which did not occur to me at that moment. Part of it is time pressure (knowing that usually the lady is in a hurry) and perhaps another part of it is organizing my head in her presence. I am looking forward to it improving and I am learning to be patient because I am beginning from a ground zero farther than the majority of your students.
@Mike
Welcome to the community! Looking forward to it!
Based on what you wrote, I think you may get some immediate benefit out of what I posted just the other day:
Why Do Confident Men Shut Down Around Really Hot Women? (Part 4)
Note links to Parts 1-3 in the first paragraph of the blog post. They’ll be helpful too.
Thanks Ross, except I am not new to the community, I am coming back after a while where I once felt that no matter what I did, I could not make this work and so I just shut down for a while. I knew the problem was not you, it was me, myself and I and I felt there was no way to get around it. Even after the home study course, even after the unstoppable confidence tapes, I could not make this work. I just felt that there was something not hooked up right inside of me. Now, I am coming back, after a time of being ill and not being able to walk. And as I got better, horizons broaden and with that cones the pain that I had kept down for a while of not yet, ever, having a connection with women after all this time. Paradoxically, I know that pain ( and I feel that pain, right now, just writing about it) is surfaced because I no longer believe the situation is hopeless, especially with the evolution of your technology. So, It is time to claim what always should have been for me. It’s still difficult for me to visualize (that ball of energy I pull out, I can’t really see it, yet, but I take your word it is there and it’s probably yellow orange, like that other fellow’s) but these things have moved the needle and I expect it will continue to move the needle. I just wish it were faster.