Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
Does it feel weird or uncomfortable, meeting and approaching women you find attractive?
Then stop it.
No, don’t stop meeting and approaching women.
I mean, stop reaffirming how weird or uncomfortable it is.
Change Your Language To Change Your
Approach To Meeting Women
Listen: it’s okay if you start out there (weird or uncomfortable), but don’t let that be where you end up.
Don’t say “It feels weird or uncomfortable.”
Instead: “Up until now, it has felt weird or uncomfortable. Now I claim my comfort to do new things in a way that brings me success and gorgeous women who are eager to please me in every way.”
Try that. See if things already start feeling different, like a weight starts to move off your shoulders.
It’s Not About Changing Your Attitude
From “Negative” To “Positive”
This is not “positive thinking”.
Positive thinking just says, “La la! Everything is wonderful,” while you ignore that you’re stepping in shit. I want you to see the shit on your shoe. I just don’t want you rubbing it on your glasses.
Rather, have informed enthusiasm and intelligent motivation, which means you recognize there’s an issue, but you don’t language it back to yourself.
Acknowledge that there has been a problem that needs improvement, but its no longer sticking back to you.
And then you’ll start getting unstuck.
Peace,
RJ
P.S. I can guarantee you will enjoy such mindblowing success with women, you will LAUGH to yourself at how easy it is… and maybe even cry TEARS OF JOY at how you used to struggle!
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I was wondering when you were sarging in an environment where there is a considerable age difference. Did you do anything different when you sarged at UCLA (btw do you still sarge there?)?
@Harry –
There are a lot of different practices for how to Sarge younger women. For example, taking extra care to avoid the dating frame and avoiding complimenting. Do you have the Secret Training Collection? I cover this extensively there.
Hey Ross,
I don´t really get it, when you say:
“Acknowledge that there has been a problem that needs improvement, but its no longer sticking back to you.”
I know you have described it in so many articles and videos before, but I just don´t get it. What are you focused on immediately before you start to talk to a woman? I just cannot focus on all the old stuff that has cognitive momentum and emotional inertia with equanimity and non-attachement (so that it does not get in my way) and at the same time being focused on the girl and on how to start the conversation.
Once I start recognizing the first thing I stay with these overwhelming feelings and I don´t know how to let it go, release it, to be unglued, so that I have a free mind to talk to the woman.
@Stephan
I cover this extensively inside Nail Your Inner Game.
I’m 6’5 with small, slightly webbed hands and size 9.5 feet (in U.S. sizes). Feels kind of pointless bothering. I have a beta body… I can learn your theory. But, I’m always conscious that I’m less than ideal, physically. Thus living in my comfort zone, finding approaching pointless, especially in today’s competitive market.
Most people are less than ideal in some way.
There’s little moist pink abundance in your comfort zone. If you’re not out there meeting women, you’re rejecting yourself before the women have a chance to say yes.