Dear Seeker of Success,
In a recent post, I revealed some simple tactics to consider when chatting up women on the dating sites.
One of the key points: rise above the stampede of pervs, weirdos, and dudes who just want a cyber thrill by using some basic techniques to capture her attention without coming across as just another salacious douchebag.
Now, let’s say you have her rapt attention.
She’s showing curiosity.
She’s interested in what you have to say.
She’s responding with actual thoughts and ideas instead of just saying “k” over and over.
Bear this in mind too: it’s the woman who has a sense of adventure who’s more likely to explore and, well, do stuff with more than just her fingers.
Getting together to see if you guys hit it off isn’t a big deal for her.
What’s Stopping You From Getting Her
Up Close And Personal, In Person, Now?
Do you want to rearrange your calendar to make damn sure you’re logged in at 9:00 tomorrow night when she’ll be “just back from her aerobics class” to type more blah-blah-blah into the naughty box?
Do you want to be the guy she texts while she’s waiting for her “IRL” guy to show up?
To pass the time when she’s bored until some real man calls?
Or do you want to get laid, maybe find your dream girl?
Proceed with this knowledge: there are plenty of women online in your local area (as in YOUR town) who are sufficiently adventurous to meet you at Starbucks and “see what’s up” without needing 10 weeks and 36 chats with 6 phone calls to “get to know you first.”
Step One, as I explained earlier, is to get her excited and curious to where she just HAS to meet you in person to see if you’d hit it off “for real”.
ASK HER TO MEET!
Screw the “hey can I get your number” schtick.
Say what you’d normally say to a woman you approached at Ralphs to move her from the produce aisle to a place where she can sample your ripe banana.
Let the AFCs “txt her l8r” to “see what she’s doing.”
Many times you don’t NEED the phone. But…
You may want to hear her voice first to make sure she’s a woman and sounds something like the pic she sent you.
You may want to subtly address her concerns and let her know you’re a man she wants to explore with now.
Maybe you both just want to talk on the phone for a few minutes to make sure that engaged, interesting typing translates into your mutual ability to stay in live conversation, since typing and speaking are two different things.
Type “I’ve got to get off here, let me give you a call real quick and we’ll work out the logistics.”
Most times, if she’s come this far, she’ll give you her number without you having to ask “can you give me your number.”
Again: Call Her NOW And Set Up The Meet.
If she’s serious about meeting you, her phone might actually ring once before she answers.
This isn’t calling to “ask her out.”
She ALREADY SAID YES.
She knows you’re about to call and she wants you to call.
She’s waiting for your call RIGHT NOW – her “girlfriend” will go to voicemail if she tries to call her now.
Call her, work out the when-and-where, and say “Awesome, see you then. Bye!”
Do maybe one quick pattern on the phone if you think it might help.
She’s logged in, waiting for someone better to do than the computer.
What in the name of Tanya’s terabytes are you waiting FOR?
P.S. At the meet, you’ll want to show up attractive.
And of course, be ready to leverage your sexual aggression mastery.