Dear Speed Seduction Students And Fans,
One of the most exhausted (I won’t even say tired – I’ll say dead BEAT) cliches out there is “Nice guys finish last.”
A similar one, which really emphasizes the whole idea of beat, is “Nice guys finish in their hand.”
As a result, many guys end up blowing it by swinging the pendulum way too far in the opposite direction. In their attempts to be dominant with women (one of the 4 main vibes), they’ll actually come off as pushy, arrogant jerks.
Yet, oftentimes they say, some women like jerks. Usually “they” say this in desper-ation, exasper-ation, and other -ations that usually end in masturb-ation. Notice when you spell it like that, masturb-ation, how disturbing it is? Disturb vs. masturb. Too similar. This phonetic similarly freaks me out.
As in, “She’s always falling for these guys who break her heart and treat her like crap, yet she won’t give me the time of day! I know how to treat a woman, I’m so much better than those losers!”
(Losers, you say? They’re banging her and you’re not.)
Why Being Either “Dominant” Or A “Nice Guy”
Beats Down Your Girl-Getting Game
Let’s focus, for the sake of this discussion, on defining “dominant” as “commanding.”
A person can be commanding in their self-awareness and presence without saying a word. It just depends, and it isn’t one or the other. You can be commanding AND fun/friendly. You can be commanding silently. You can inquire about another person/show understanding and be commanding in the way you do it. Etc. etc.
I would advise that you not only think of it as only being a SEQUENTIAL thing, one after the other, but still separate. True, sometimes it works that way. But it can also be about these various forms of “commanding” being mixed, presented simultaneously.
As I said, many guys put WAY too much emphasis on being dominant and go overboard to appear “commanding.” When this happens, usually it’s done from fear of losing control. Ultimately, that’s another form of supplication and neediness. In other words, by going out of your way to NOT be an Average Frustrated Chump (AFC), you actually become one of the most unbearable forms of this very creature.
I’m going to have more on this and related topics over the next few days.
Peace and piece,
P.S. When you properly exude the right mixture of being dominant, intriguing, and inviting, even when you are becoming commanding, it will seem like you are having an innocent, normal conversation! That beats just about everything, including a poke in the eye. Click here for even more command over your girl-getting game.