Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
Join me as I once again reach into my mail bag and pull out another excellent question that was e-mailed to me by one of my best students, someone who has invested in my courses and who regularly follows the Steaming Hot Seduction Secrets emails.
This one deals with an issue that often comes up: what happens when you call or e-mail or text and leave a message and you don’t hear back from her. Here’s the question:
I normally don’t have problems getting girls, but I recently moved to a new city. I met a local girl who works at the pub just around the corner. She expressed great interest in me, giving me her number (without me asking) and even asking ME out on a date. On this date, she invited me to her place to order take out and watch movies. The conversation was great, and by the end of the night I even gave her a back rub. She gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek before I left, also expressing interest in making another date very soon.
The next day I texted her, just asking how see was doing, she responded by saying she was great, and asked me how I was. I responded by saying I had an awesome day, and left it at that. So I gave it two days before I messaged again, with a short text “What’s going on?” It’s been three days, and I haven’t heard back. I would greatly appreciate your insight on this, and what I should do from here?
Alright, a few key points here:
First, foremost, important-most, and uppermost: maybe she was at a concert or something when you texted her, wasn’t able to answer, and got sidetracked. Are you persistent, much? And what’s up with texting? If you can text her, you have her phone number. Give her a call.
Here’s the even bigger question: when she expressed interest in setting up another meet very soon, what stopped you from setting up the date and time, THEN AND THERE? Why did you wait? You know what they say about guys who wait.
You might also want to check this out, since you’re “new in town.”
Peace and piece,
RJ
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Ok, dude. I’m relatively new to the game, albeit a fast learner. You’ve probably been sitting there over-exaggerating every possible scenario in your head as to why she hasnt txted back because, that’s what humans do best. Ask yourself this: Why does it matter so much that you’re worrying about it? You’re new to town yeah? Go out, meet more bitches! Take it as a loss, but learn from it. She’ll probably text you soon anyway with a perfectly good explanation for not replying. Who knows? maybe shes contracted some sort of fungal infection on her face, making her look like shreks down syndrome cousin and she just doesnt wanna be in public til it’s healed?
I am mostly with Ross, I do use texting, some girls just seem to respond more frequently to texts. But I don’t rely on it. If I can call I can text too. I am not afraid to get on the phone and start using the answering machine intruder or destroyer. In either case I refuse to over do it. Three times is about max, if I am not getting any love in return.
If she offered you her number and asked you on a date to her place, it sounds like she was pretty hot to trot. You very well could have hit it right then and there at her apt. I don’t know how aggressively you put the moves on her. You may well have and if she resisted then it’s something else entirely. But if you were alone with her at her place and all you did is rub her back, you might have missed the window of opportunity. Girls will do it on the 1st date if they’re in the mood.
or maybe she’s just playing games by not answering your text, so as to increase her value. Anyway, good luck, and I hope you nail her.
I know RJ didn’t address this on purpose for some reason, but what (also) happened here goes along with the truth that the situation got cold/went “stale”, as implied by the “he who waits… (masturbates)” quote. What happened *before* that, more importantly, is that she aggressively expressed interest in you, invited you over to be alone with her in her place for the very first time you hang out, and then… nothing happened because you didn’t pull the trigger and GO FOR IT. Her whole M.O. shows that she’s not about “taking things slowly” and holding hands. She wouldn’t have set any of that up if she wasn’t comfortable with the possibility of you two making out heavily, believe it or not. And you didn’t believe it, so you didn’t escalate much and played it safe. She had already begun to lose interest before you left, ergo the kiss on the cheek and empty promise.
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The guy was at her place and didn’t fuck her… she probably thinks he is gay. And then he texed her with random fluff talk instead of calling her up and making a date to meet in person. He is not progressing the relationship at all…
From a female’s perspective . . . if you got the kiss on the cheek, yeah, you lost an opportunity . . . BUT she did text you back which means she was still interested. The best texter is one who sends lots of little ones in a row AND sets the mood, like, first text – How’s it going . . . second – sexy girl . . . . third – been thinking about that back rub; fourth – 🙂 (smiley). That puts her in the mood (sexy girl) and back in a sexy space (back rub) ala RJ’s program.
Then to text and have *fun* (not just lame-o How’s it going), try to establish a running joke between you or use lots of sound type texts such as “thinking about you . . . Mmmmmmm . . ., etc.
The multiple texts also grabs her attention. It’s not just one coming in, which she may miss. It’s a couple so she’ll pick up the phone unless she’s truly otherwise occupied.
“I Told her I had an awesome day and left it at that” ???
Sounds to me like you are brushing her off.
Quick, Quick, get back to her with:
“Hey Debbie…{Guide her imagination using her trance words}”
Lets hang out at my place get take out and watch a movie. duh… Translation: Lets go to my place and F@#K. Jesus dude, you piss me off. Do not let this happen again!! DO YOU HEAR ME?!!! or I will have to smack you.
I agree that you didn’t go far enough and she thought u were either a wimp or didn’t desire her sexually and it had nothing to do with the texts. When a woman puts herself out there the way that she did, inviting you over, making plans to stay in etc. and you didn’t respond to her then she probably felt insulted. You evidently have some real game to get a girl like that to offer herself to you as she did and you should apply the same techniques in future endevours. Again like one of the other responders here I would say you blew it and you should move onto the next one. If you were worried about being too agressive with her just remember for the future…”You can always apologize if you have to for going too far but there is no apology in existence for not going far enough!!”
Hey Danny,
You know what..some women are like that..I still haven’t been able to put a finger, on why they do it. but I guess, they like to be pursued, and it has something to do with a big ego..ya women have it too.
So don’t sweat it.. give her a call.I found, they are usually happy to hear from you.n they will hang out with you again.
But do you wish to hang out with such women.. who can fry ur brains..that’s ur call 🙂
Dude don’t be so hard on yourself , this is part of life we have to bump our head sometimes seems you have more of the problem than she does , she had the courage to ask you on a date to her place and let you giver a back rub , that was your cue to escalate and close however you need to start believing in yourself first and trust that whatever happens you’ll be okay and it will help you with tthe next lady your after , sometimes that window is open just slightly you need to take advantage because the only constant is change so you may never get that opportunity again.Good luck bud