Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
A few weeks ago, I explored whether meeting women in clubs could be considered “Mission Impossible.”
Young hottie, all up in the club.
Will you approach?
Someone brought up an interesting point: going to clubs can bring up bad feelings from the past (like being rejected in public, serial rejection, etc), or in general, make you feel like a hunter prowling for poon.
A hunter, prowling?
Speed Seduction® is about….
A Profound Act Of Personal Rebellion,
Design And Choice
Again, I don’t like clubs, just as all of us don’t like certain situations. But I do LOVE choosing the meaning I give and the learnings I bring and extract from every situation.
So I don’t accept that painful responses from the past HAVE to control the choices I make.
Nor do I agree that deliberately going out to sarge and practice your skills HAS to, by necessity, mean that you feel like a hunter.
You can frame it as, “today I am going to go out and practice my skills at:
- Playfully connecting with women in a fun way that serves me and them
- Preserving a calm, fun, grounded state
- Being allowing, precise and focused on any flow of feeling in my body, even including deliberately putting myself in situations that used to trigger me, limbically, into states of flight, freeze or fight.”
This last one is VERY useful. It’s a nice combination of will and willingness.
So why not pick ONE day out of the week where you, with intent, go out to sarge and see how you can choose a better metaphor than “hunting” and “prey”?
Challenge yourself to design your sarging, from the top down (choosing better metaphors that serve you) and from the bottom up-having equanimity, sensory clarity and focus on whatever body sensations arise that might not be so comfortable.
Want To Practice and Master The Skills
Without Feeling Like A “Hunter”?
Remember: you have a skill (approaching women) that you use successfully. It’s there when you need it – in a club, at the beach, at the business seminar, church picnic, wherever you encounter wonderfully winsome women.
Stop limiting yourself with false “either/or” choices. See with more clarity and scale the mountain of doubt.
Again: Speed Seduction® is a PROFOUND and RADICAL act of personal rebellion, design, and choice.
Peace and piece,
P.S. Come to our March 29-31, 2013 Speed Seduction® seminar in Los Angeles and learn even more mindset, motivation, and Sarging techniques to 86 the heebie-jeebies once and for all. Conquer and master it, right there, in the room: