When Being “On The Prowl” With The Ladies, Gives You The Heebie-Jeebies

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In an earlier post, I explored whether meeting women in clubs could be considered “Mission Impossible.”

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Young hottie, all up in the club.
Will you approach?

Someone brought up an interesting point: going to clubs can bring up bad feelings from the past (like being rejected in public, serial rejection, etc), or in general, make you feel like a hunter prowling for poon.

A hunter, prowling?

Hold on.

Speed Seduction® is about….

A Profound Act Of Personal Rebellion,
Design And Choice

Again, I don’t like clubs, just as all of us don’t like certain situations. But I do LOVE choosing the meaning I give and the learnings I bring and extract from every situation.

So I don’t accept that painful responses from the past HAVE to control the choices I make.

Nor do I agree that deliberately going out to sarge and practice your skills HAS to, by necessity, mean that you feel like a hunter.

ca_37702415_325You can frame it as, “today I am going to go out and practice my skills at:

  1. Playfully connecting with women in a fun way that serves me and them
  2. Preserving a calm, fun, grounded state
  3. Being allowing, precise and focused on any flow of feeling in my body, even including deliberately putting myself in situations that used to trigger me, limbically, into states of flight, freeze or fight.”

This last one is VERY useful. It’s a nice combination of will and willingness.

So why not pick ONE day out of the week where you, with intent, go out to sarge and see how you can choose a better metaphor than “hunting” and “prey”?

Challenge yourself to design your sarging, from the top down (choosing better metaphors that serve you) and from the bottom up-having equanimity, sensory clarity and focus on whatever body sensations arise that might not be so comfortable.

Want To Practice and Master The Skills
Without Feeling Like A “Hunter”?

Remember: you have a skill (approaching women) that you use successfully. It’s there when you need it – in a club, at the beach, at the business seminar, church picnic, wherever you encounter wonderfully winsome women.

Stop limiting yourself with false “either/or” choices. See with more clarity and scale the mountain of doubt.

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Again: Speed Seduction® is a PROFOUND and RADICAL act of personal rebellion, design, and choice.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. Claim your access to Rapid and Total Success With Women and learn even more mindset, motivation, and Sarging techniques to 86 the heebie-jeebies once and for all. Conquer and master it, right there, in the room:

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6 Responses to When Being “On The Prowl” With The Ladies, Gives You The Heebie-Jeebies

  1. zarathud says:

    Speaking of freeze response, just started watching “Men at Work” this morning and noticed an awesome example of energy play in this scene. Are you the cop or the garbage man? Horrible metaphor, but the moment at 1:23 is priceless:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L_1mgDKii4w

  2. Harsh says:

    Paul, I see a contradiction. On the one hand you teach, “I don’t go places to sarge. I sarge when I go places.” But now you’re talking about going out deliberately to sarge. This is new for me. Till now I used to only sarge when I went places. So if women ask me what you’re doing here, a possible response could be “I’m just hanging out, having fun. You?” So on the one hand I don’t tell them specifically that I’m here to sarge and on the other hand its the truth, as in – “I’m hanging out so I can sarge and have fun.” (I’m not making any excuses for my desires as a man by making up some BS reason for being there like, “I’m here for x, y,z…”, and if it happens to be true that I’m here for x,y,z…then all the better)

    • @Harsh

      One of my favorite writers, who has most influenced my thinking, is a chap by the name of Robert Anton Wilson.

      In a few of his books he brings up a concept called “sombunall” which is RAW speak for, “Some, but not all.”

      Sombunall of the time I sarge when I go place. Sombunall of the time I go places to sarge.

      Getting rid of the need for rigid categories is part of freeing your mind and unfreezing your world.

      Ok?

      RJ

  3. Adis says:

    forgett language patterns this is the reall golden nugget: “I do LOVE choosing the meaning I give and the learnings I bring and extract from every situation.” beautiful

  4. A M says:

    “Being allowing, precise and focused on any flow of feeling in my body, even including deliberately putting myself in situations that used to trigger me, limbically, into states of…”
    That will kick-start a train of thought that I’m expecting (here starts the fun…) in fact this mechanism was created in animals that couldn’t expect, think, use language and manage emotions…

  5. Zarathud5 says:

    Speaking of garbage men, there was a Seinfeld episode where Elaine gets really stupid from the build-up of not having sex for a long time and they say for women its like putting out the trash. Some guy will always come along and pick it up.

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