Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,
I often get asked, in e-mails I get from students as well as during live appearances on video chats and in-person seminars, what are some of the best pick-up lines for guys to use on chicks.
Let me begin by stating: I don’t teach “pick-up lines.” Speed Seduction® Masters-In-Training (MITs) use conversational patterns.
So let’s ask: what IS a “pattern”?
A “pattern” is much more than memorized “lines” or even complete “speeches”. It includes a more broad variety of actions/methods/techniques designed to engage the woman, capture her vibe, and appeal to what drives her…wild.
I know you want to see some pattern language in action. So before we go any further, watch this short video clip of me working a hot Brazilian chick at one of my live seminars into an erotic trance. (My apologies in advance, this clip is low-quality, but you’ll still be able to hear and see what’s happening.)
More importantly: the right question can be a “pattern”.
A “pattern” is any communication that captures and leads a woman’s imagination and stimulates her emotions in the right direction.
Which of the following, for example, is a “pattern”:
1. What do you do for a living?
2. What do you find most challenging about what you do, and what do you find most fulfilling about what you do?
Do you get my point here?
Here’s another example:
1. Where was the last place you went on vacation?
2. If you could go somewhere where money and time were no object, where would you go, and what kind of….things…would you like to try?
Here’s a fun assignment: come up with a typical question women get asked by Average Frustrated Chump (AFC) guys. Then take a stab at coming up with a Speed Seduction® version of the same question that actually would stimulate her emotions and imagination in a useful direction. Post them here on the blog!
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. Success with women involves creating irresistible POSITIVE challenge, that draws women forward and massively magnifies her attraction to you, from the first word spoken to her last gasp of pleasure. Click here to find the “mother lode” of conversational patterns…
Think of the things in your life that make you ..feel.. excited and in the moment? Do are you aroused by these things that make you excited?
Wow, you have beautiful hair, and I love the color. If the color of your hair represented an amazing personality trait that you had, what would that be?
Help
How do I get these videos to play. When I click all I get is some spinning flower thing. When I go on the net I never have any problem getting videos to play. Only the ones from these E mails I can’t get to play
Thanks
Round one: 1.What kind of X (x being music, food, movie etc…) do you enjoy? 2. You know, there´s something i find really interesting, is how sometimes a X (sound, flavour, story etc…) can transport you to a completely different place and time, where you were doing something you really love to do, maybe with someone you really like to be with (self point to chest)… does it ever happens to you? If i were to ask you what one of these situations are, what would you say, how do you feel? (Listen and watch for personal trance words to incorporate in the next round)
Round two: 1. Do you like any kind of art? 2. Another day I was watching a show at NatGeo about how people relate to arts in general, and they said something really interesting: when you… feel really passionate about what you´re doing, you can feel the barriers melt, and the world seems to become only this activity, in which you put all your energy, and you can finally become one with this (selfpoint to chest). My friend Debby says that´s when you surrender completely… to me, that´s one of the best things that can happen (head nod), don´t you agree? . (these suggestions can vary according to the responses in the first round.)
These two I can use as introductory patterns, simply because they begin with simple common questions, that alone only give me data, but i imediately start to get information… and from here i can go almost anywhere: connections, fantasies, how you can learn about people, demos, etc… Thanks Ross, and i would love to hear what you think about it…
I used this one on an old girlfriend last week when I told her I was going hiking up to see some hidden Indian ruins here in Arizona. When she asked specifically where they were I told her that very few people know the location but that she could hire me as a giude. I told her ” I would be happy to be your guide and I wouldn’t even charge you for my services until you were completely satified inside with the way that I performed. Safety and comfort is my main concern and you will experience things in the rugged wilderness that can only be imagined. With me, there is nothing to fear. Anyways.. you don’t really need to bring anything along . I have everything we will need to make it an enjoyable adventure as we drive thru the soft smooth valleys and over the rugged mountain tops….Oh.. and bring your camera cause there may be a great oppertunity to get some fantastic photos of you out in the wild so that you have memories of a great day in the desert. It’s great when you can feel such a rush knowing that you can see the whole of Phoenix from there, yet nobody but you and I will know where we are. It’ll be our secret………Might not have been perfect but worked well for spur of the moment…. I guess I AFC would have just said… Hey.. I’ll take ya if ya wanna go…duh.
AFC: “Come here often?”
Seduction Master in Training:
“What is it about a place like this…… that way its ambiance attracts you to visit…… with each repeated experience to be an ongoing evolution…… to go deeper inside this discovery….. and find yourself coming to a place others can not touch…… in the same way.
“With me, a familiar place can become a unique experience every time you meet someone enchanting.”
AFC: What do you like most about a guy / what things do you look for in a relationship?
SSMIT: When you are interacting with someone (self point) and you start to feel this deep, special conection between both, what is most important to you: how special and unique you think this guy is (point self) or how charmed and excited this guy (point self) makes you feel?
That’s kind of the good ol’ IC pattern with some other stuf and a question at the end XD
A wise man once said you can see someone’s soul by looking into their eyes. What is so interesting about your soul that I can’t keep my eyes off it?
Me,
Well said!
can i buy you a drink?
or
if you could use any alcohol from behind the bar and mix it into a drink and the bar tender would make it for you for free…what 3 would you choose and why?
hearts.
also i really like Me’s answer, Geo studs, and roberts was good aswell (what happens if she actually wants to see abandoned ruins though)
Dino, man yours was amazing haha. I believe after reading these very powerful comments i am becoming better at recognising the extensive benefits of this community! thanks guys! thanks ross.
hearts.