Dear Seeker of Success,
We can learn a lot about why men get crushes on women, and how to turn that around so the woman longs and pines for YOU, by studying pigeons.
They did an experiment, with pigeons in 3 groups.
Group #1 got a pellet whenever they pecked at the feeding bar.
Group #2 got nothing when they pecked at the feeding bar.
Group #3 sometimes got a pellet, and sometimes didn’t. Completely random.
Guess what happened?
Group #3 Quickly Became The Most
“Peckish” Group Of All
They wound up pecking the bar all the time because they never knew.
They actually pecked the bar more than Group #1 – which knew that every peck yielded a pellet, every time, no fail, no mystery.
So when a woman sometimes acknowledges you and sometimes doesn’t, it makes you peckish. You get a crush.
A Quick Exercise To Stop The Pangs….
Put your arms out in front of you and put your palms up. Make the gesture you’d make to stop someone. Say, “Wait a minute. I see what’s going on here.” It’s like you’re forming a picture frame.
“On the one hand, sometimes she gives me attention. Sometimes she ignores me. I get it. It’s making me more interested because she’s keeping me guessing. That’s all that’s going on. Is she really that great? No, she’s just keeping me guessing.”
What do you do then?
You just stop responding. That’s how you find out whether you can make HER peckish (more interested, or if she’s just flaky.
….And Get Her Flapping Her Wings TOWARD You
Men succeed more with women when we’re not that invested, than when we get peckish and interrupt the girl’s process of building a crush on us.
When you don’t call a girl every day, it gives her time to think about you. She can work you into her mind and start longing for you.
OTOH, when you call a girl two or three times a day, you’re interrupting her process of having a crush on you. You’re actually getting in the way.
This is why when you’re not invested and you don’t need to have her, you tend to get her more often.
P.S. Now that you “get it”, it’s time to go get those women you truly want to be with.
Is it nice, knowing you don’t have to work so hard?