Sliding Down The Slippery Slope To Sargy Smithereens

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

I see it happen, just all too often: one mistake can beget another.

One minute things are going well, then there’s a shift in a non-Sargy direction and everything goes downhill from there.  It’s like you fall behind then it can be a real struggle to get caught up.

Check this out: a dissection of a Sarge report from a student who found himself sliding down the slippery slope to Sargy smithereens with a chick, and didn’t even realize it until it was too late.

Stay with me for just a moment and watch how something seemingly innocuous can set the wrong frame and knock the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle right out of its orbital flight path.

> We agreed to meet each other sometime but she blew me off and I was content to walk away for…

RJ: Let me point out where you already went wrong: “agreeing to meet sometime” is NO agreement at all. It shows no leadership on your part and no investment on her part. Leadership on your part=investment on her part.

> a while, knowing my chance would come at some stage

RJ: No, your “chance” is only for those without SKILL. F@@k chance in the ass with a red-hot fireplace poker.  And what is this about YOUR chance? SHE is the one who is lucky to get the shot at being with YOU.

RJ: Or at least it is useful to frame it that way.

> She tells me she is taking the day off on Monday and could we do something then. I say, sure, I’ll have to check my schedule, anything in particular you feel you would really like to do?

RJ: No, no. Why are you asking HER to take the wheel? YOU ARE THE DRIVER!

> She tells me, bring me, surprise her, bring her a flower or a cake (yeah, right!) I tell her I’ll be in touch. We hug some more, later we dance together, then I kiss her goodbye and go home as the remaining guests are starting to get ready for bed.  I send her the following text message, early Sunday Afternoon:

RJ; CLUE: txt msgs sck dck and r a stp bckwrds on the intmcy ldder.

And also, this is beginning to smack of being a “date”. You already had her making out with you, right? At least a little bit? So now why “date”? No, the answer is, “let’s watch a movie. I’ll pick one funny and one adventure. ”

> Hi Gina, thanks very much for Friday, lovely evening 🙂 promised to do something with you tomorrow so will pick you up around 4pm for a drink.

RJ: Pick her up? PICK HER UP? You only pick up someone whom you are going to go out and DATE. You are climbing back DOWN the intimacy ladder!

> I get this response from her: “Hey can we check in tomorrow? I have made plans to go for a walk at four and my day seems to have filled up. Really want to see this healer but if I can’t may be able to do earlier. Do you mind if we check in tomorrow? Thanks for coming on Friday :)”

RJ: Translation: you got me turned on. I’ve been thinking about you sexually. But you just asked me on a “date” and now all my objections and problems with “dating” are coming up in my mind. I don’t want to date anyone right now. I want to FUCK, FUCK, FUCK.

> I mail back:

RJ: Mail? As in email? Wow, email is even LOWER on the intimacy ladder.

U rlly scrwd up bg tme.

> “Bad girl, you just lost 10 points! Monday was your suggestion after all 🙂 Seriously though, I am tied up tomorrow earlier in the day so that’s not going to work for me. I am pretty much committed in the evenings for the rest of this week so tomorrow afternoon / evening is all I can offer you until next week. Just to be clear from the outset, though, I have two value requirements for any kind of relationship…

RJ: Relationship? RELATIONSHIP? Dude, she’s ready to f@@k, not date. Your old-fashioned thinking warped you right out of her bed into being a “groper” and a “lustful f@@k salesman”

> business or social: Trust and respect. Call me with pleasure if you want to see me and I will say yes because I’d like that, but don’t ever flake on me again.”

RJ: You had no firm plan. You ask her to set the lead. And now you call her a “flake”?

> Thing is, I knew she would flake, although, meeting her friends, I could see that she did manage to keep long term friendships. She is obviously used to guys fawning and taking what scraps she offers.

RJ: I wouldn’t call what you did fawning. I would call it FUMBLING.

> Note, the main challenge was the lack of opportunity to use the tools. I know she is in to me, but that doesn’t mean she’ll act on it.

RJ: She certainly won’t now.

Look: this is perhaps the worst f@@k up-no, make that SERIES of f@@k ups – I have ever seen in my 20+ years of coaching and teaching. See what happens when you begin to slide down the slippery slope to Sargy smithereens?

This is why it’s important to master the skills and set the tone early on.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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