Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
Many smart guys, including some who are fabulously successful in their careers and what they do in life overall…
…would give just about anything to interrupt and overcome the response of being fearful or shy or hesitant around women.
I want to start you on the process of doing a lot more than overcoming being “shy”.
I want to start you on the process of programming your subconscious mind for outrageous confidence, power and charm!
True confession: this is a subject about which I actually have some trouble writing, simply because I’ve evolved and created so many techniques that have helped so many thousands of guys, it’s hard for me to know where to begin!
Does it seem like I’m bragging? Well, as they say in Missouri, it ain’t bragging if…
…You Really Can Do What You Say You Can!
There is a fundamental principle of the human mind I want you to really understand and incorporate and it explains why some people really can change their lives while other just stay hoping, wishing and stuck. It is a rule about how the human brain and mind work that controls a great deal of what we can do. And here it is:
While Your Brain May Be Attracted To Doing Something Different, Usually Brains Only DO What Is Familiar
Basically what I am saying here is, people tend to do what they are used to. People tend to think like they are used to thinking and feel like they are used to feeling.
Yes, they may WANT to, on some level, change.
But the reality is, given a situation in the real world, if you are used to acting, feeling and thinking in a certain way, just vaguely wishing you could be different ISN’T GOING TO CHANGE ANYTHING AT ALL.
The key to any kind of real change, then, is mental rehearsal. You must learn to program in the way you like to feel, act, think, believe and respond and do so with sufficient repetition that the new feelings, actions, thoughts and beliefs are perceived by your brain as being more powerful, more vivid, more real and more familiar…
…Than The Way You Used To Be!
I will say this again, because it is so important. It is NOT enough to realize you want to change. It is not enough to even THINK about changing. If you want a change, especially a change that is radically different, you must…
…Vividly Mentally Rehearse It!
Now, I am not the first person to talk about mental rehearsal or it’s dirty little new age cousin, “guided visualization”. The problem with most of these methods, as presented is,
They Simply Do Not Work!
That’s not because the people who teach or write about them don’t care. It’s simply because they are either leaving out vital ingredients to “make the recipe work” or because they are adding in stupid stuff that just doesn’t belong.
When you make mental rehearsal work for you, in a matter of a few short weeks you can totally reprogram the deepest levels of your mind for the kind of beliefs, attitudes, awareness, behaviors and timing to bring you outrageously magnetic confidence and power with women.
And that sure beats a poke in the eye!
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. Nail Your Inner Game gives you a way to take any and all confusion, frustration, and stuckness you’ve ever experienced with women, and immediately convert it to pure, immediately usable learning, so you could bounce right back, and automatically do things right the next time.
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Loved this post Ross.
We can’t be afraid to have that mentality of Dear Debbie Dumbass any minute I could shove my fat tool into your tool box.
All this social programming is emasulating bullshit that I hate.
At the end of the day, it’s basically this-
clean up the mental processes, get out in the field, and give Debbie the tool she needs.
Are you sure about this name change thing Paul? When you’ve spent years building up a very valuable and well known brand i.e “Ross Jeffries” is it really a good idea to just throw it away? I hope this doesn’t turn out to be a “new coke” “classic coke” style mistake for you, but all the best.
Hey,
You know, for those of us who know their way on the internet, we know that your real name is not Ross Jeffries. RJ was just a persona that you used.
While it really isn’t that big a deal that you are going to use your real name from now on I know that it will have some sort of impact. A while ago I’ve met a woman who said that in Judaism you can change your name every 7 years, she changed her name a while ago and said that even though that doesn’t seem like it should do anything, a lot of things in her life were impacted and they changed.
Why did you decide to have your real name used in the sites here?
Got your newsletter email saying that.
I know that this is not relevant to the topic and if you don’t want to address it here it would probably be better to delete my comment.
Oleg,
Paul, I have met you in Chicago 2 years ago and I am a fan. You are certainly a genius. I know your products work 1000%, so this is not a mater regarding SS. And I have known your real name since you put it on your marketing course. But why know explain to the world this seemingly minor and unimportant change. I am your biggest fan and I would not care if your name was Moshe Puppet or Manny Martian. Paul, Ross, we love you and we do not care about a silly name thing. We are grateful for all the work you have done, and if you were to imply that someone pressured you to reveal your first name, than I would back you 100% in kicking that persons ass.
Sicerely,
Grateful Student
Thank you Paul, it’ll take some time getting used to the name change as I’ve known you as “Ross Jeffries,” since I first learned about seduction. Mental rehearsal is a very underrated tool that has helped me in every area of my life.
focus and will are really a close concept, difficut to grasp completely, meditating about that is too intuitive to be verbalized, btw should “I say” my name is, they call me, I call myself? being silent could be the best choice
Hi Paul,
I found reheasal immesnsely useful especialy more so because I hadn’t done many approached in the last 6 months due to a busy schedule and preperation for a very important set of professional exams. But I always reviewed the beliefs from time to time and did the meditation exercises whenever possible and remembered the one thing u said: Never supplicate. So I did meet a lovely lady the other day and before meeting her I did the unstopabble confidence exercises and meditation and I could tell from her response that my energy was good and she was coming around to my table from time to time and engaging in with a lot of conversation with me and asking me questions. I didnt close the deal though because at the moment I really dont have time to see anyone, but I think when I do have the time I will take things further with her.
Another time again after a long break from any sarging I did the unstopabble confidence rehersal for two days and decided to just walk around in an area where a lot of hot women visit and see how they respond to my energy. On the first day I could see women were sizing me up and looking at me admiringly. On the second day too I noticed similar responses and that was enough to turbocharge my confidence to approach a lovely young lady who was with two other friends. It was a put on that I approached her with and got a thunderous laugh from her first up followed by very interesting conversation and a plan to meet the next day and things ended up pretty well and I was quite content with the proceedings! So yes, reherasal is extremely useful especially if you are going out to sarge after a long break or going to a venue where a lot of hot women will be there and you havent talked to anyone in the recent past.
Regarding the NYIG program I had a question. How do u reherase those beliefs that u teach? Mentally or verbally in the right tonality?