Dear Seeker Of Success,
In my 29-year history of teaching guys to have more success with women than they ever thought possible, one thing I hear over and over is this:
“Things seemed to be going well until she said she had a boyfriend”.
Now, if had a nickel for every woman I’ve slept with who right prior to that lovely event told me, “I have a boyfriend”…
…I’d Be Living In Tahiti With
The Entire Swedish Women’s
Collegiate Volleyball Team.
Fact is, these kind of responses are almost always auto-pilot expressions; pre-programmed words that flow forth from her mouth.
Puffs of air from between her lips.
If they came out the other end, they’d be farts.
Now, when a person has an auto-pilot response like this, it is a perfect opportunity to do what is known in NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) as a “pattern interrupt”.
This simply means you give a response that is different from the one they are expecting.
Most women expect a guy to either start putting down the boyfriend, argue, or give up.
However, when you break her expectations with a completely surprising response, you create what a call “a window of suggestibility” through which you can begin to control the direction of her thoughts, emotions, imagination, decisions and ACTIONS.
Now let’s get you involved.
What do you think are some things you can say that would be other than typical responses to the ludicrous, “I’ve got a boyfriend” objection?
Peace,
RJ
P.S. Let’s DOUBLE this.
Let’s add on, how to use the four seduction conversation formats to stack suggestions and create maximum receptivity. Come to LA and we’ll give that for you.
The problem is that the majority of women that are out there that are hot, are with someone . Merely by looking at there facebook , you can see that. Now a percentage are not happy, but even so , the borefirend is “always there waiting to emerge” and it can be a pain dealing with useless nuisance
Harry, I feel you. And I think every challenge is an opportunity if you can train your mind to see it this way.
RJ
I’m no expert, but I have had success with expressing delight that she has a boyfriend and then asking her all sorts of questions about him. They usually soon change the subject, and while I haven’t closed the deal every time, I have done so with some. I’m sure there are better ways and I look forward to using the various suggestions Ross has given us over the years. Also looking forward to hearing from others.
Peter, thanks for the input. Glad you have your own method. The most important thing is to not let her words be the final words on the subject.
RJ
“I have a boyfriend”
“Isn’t that great? Five minutes in and you feel so comfortable that you’re telling me about your problems.”
HAHA! I might use that one 🙂
I always get in frustrated phase once I start hearing that phrase. I may just need to do the October man sequence or fractionation seduction. I’ve made business cards and they’ve never called me once it’s shocking I’m not sure why sometimes I doubt my abilities but I never give up
The business card strategy is but one of many; and it’s more of a backup. Ideally you shouldn’t be exchanging numbers until after you’ve done the Mattress Macarena
I think a coaching session maybe I need to be more direct sometimes girls get creeped out with the patterns or times they’ve like it weird
Here’s where to start:
http://www.seduction.com/1-on-1-with-ross-jeffries/
A women won’t tell you the real reasons it’s like a game I think the only way to win is to be a great liar
No. Part of winning is understanding the distinctions between “the truth” (which some argue, doesn’t exist) vs. “her truth” and “your truth” (which are very real).