Dear Seeker of Success,
Have you ever found yourself shying away from a Sarge because you worried that she won’t find you attractive?
Well, when you “hold back” out of fear that she will shoot you down over your looks, then you’re ripping two people off:
- HER, because you’re not giving HER the chance to decide if you’re the guy who will take her to new heights of excitement and pulsating pleasure, and
- YOU, because you’re denying yourself the success with the women you truly desire.
So stick with me for a minute while I’ll explain…
Why You’re C@&k-Blocking Yourself
(And Dissing All Hot Women)
By Letting Your Own Looks Getting In The Way
First, if you reek of f@@king body odor and make people gag and have snot-stains on your t-shirt, YOU ARE IN TROUBLE.
Hygiene DOES matter. For goodness’ sake, take care of yourself!
Now that being said, asking if “looks matter” is like asking “do strength and size matter in a fight?”
Sure… all other things being equal.
The stronger, bigger guy with equal motivation and skill and determination will almost certainly beat the weaker, smaller guy… UNLESS THE SMALLER GUY PICKS UP A WEAPON AND GETS IN THE FIRST GOOD F@@KING HIT!
Most of the time, if you aren’t (in your own mind, perhaps) fabulously great looking, BUT you take good care of yourself, a woman will be neutral to your look.
She won’t rule you out but she won’t be feeling any butterflies or pangs of irresistible arousal EITHER.
That’s Where Speed Seduction® Comes In –
To Create Those Feelings
Look: I wish I looked like a movie star. But I don’t. I am who I am.
So, am I going to cry in my f@@king chicken soup about it?
No.
I’m going to use everything I DO have to get where I want to go!
Present yourself as best you can physically, take good care of yourself, wear clothes that fit you well RIGHT NOW.
Stop c@&k-blocking yourself until you “lose a few” or “get your teeth fixed” or whatever excuse you’ve been making, and instead crank up your girl-getting game and you’ll find out that chicks will, in fact, dig you.
The women are waiting… so what in jumping Jenny’s panties are you waiting FOR?
Peace,
RJ
P.S. Wouldn’t you like to have a “stealth charisma” that’s subtly attractive (regardless of how “good looking” you are), completely undetectable, and utterly independent of any external validation from anyone? Especially women who you’re worried might think you’re ugly?
It’s time to get off your excuse-making, “I understand but don’t do it” ass, and get moving right now with the success you’ve always wanted. All of this (and much more) are in my Nail Your Inner Game course.
This manifests itself NOT in my going up and talking to women. I have gotten to the point where, most of the time, I do go up and talk to women I am quite attracted to (provided they don’t have another guy or parent in tow). I have gotten past that hurdle. But, up until now, my interaction tends to be tainted with that belief that she can’t find me attractive and it causes me to shy away from escalating the conversation with what could be suggestive or interpreted as suggestive. I play it way too safe and am upset with myself afterwards for playing it safe.
Take.
A.
Bold.
Step.
Forward.
You have no business making the decision for her re: how attracted she feels. Your business is to provide the criteria that brings her to a place of deciding in your (as in, yours and hers) favor.
“When you don’t know what to do, you take a bold step forward.”
Is in my affirmations. Still has to sink in. 🙂
Keep working it. You’ll get there.
This is such a gentle approach to this issue. Will keep it in mind for the future. Have lost a friend or two over blatantly telling them to stop posting or saying hateful things about women because of their own insecurities. It’s sad how far away from the life they want these feelings can take someone… Thanks.
One word: PROJECTION.
It’s generally true that when someone exerts extreme energy criticizing a person, or it seems like every single person they know is the same bad thing (i.e. everyone seems to be a liar, cheat, narcissist, etc) they usually should be looking in the mirror at themselves.